I think my local library just pulled Abigail Shrier's "Irreversible Damage" from its shelves-- anyone else have this experience? by clarysage4 in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
No, but I requested it months ago and they haven’t ordered it. I swear to God, they have at least three trans-rights books in New Non-Fiction all the time.
To those of you who lost friends when you came out as Gender Critical, would you ever take those friends back if they came to see the truth of transgender ideology and tried to come back to you? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
No, because they compared being GC to being a racist. I might accept their apology, but I wouldn’t want to be friends again.
Anyone have experience with Hands Across the Aisle?
2 years ago by NDG to /s/GenderCritical from self.GenderCritical
The subtle sexism of ‘feminist’ Democrats | Spectator USA by [deleted] in GenderCritical
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Is there any single-issue organization about protecting women's sex-based rights when it comes to encroachment from TiMs? I would really like to formally join something and do some real-world work about this, but it's like everything has additional aspects I don't necessarily agree with.
Dear Abby tells reader that reader’s husband’s cross-dressing is a “need,” not a “like”
2 years ago by NDG to /s/GenderCritical from uexpress.com
Blair White shows off his custom-built "Barbie Pink" GUN & gets 24K Likes by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
It's one thing to bring up that they're two people with penises who have sex with each other, and that's not exactly what "straight" means. It's another thing to start envisioning what precisely they do to have sex, when that's not anything either of them has ever publicly discussed. Like, if you know a guy is a biological male and he introduces you to his boyfriend, it would be a little strange if "all you could think of" was who was more likely to be a top and who was more likely to be a bottom, or something like that.
[–]NDG 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
...assuming he does. Which isn’t any of our business. This seems like an oddly prurient place for someone’s mind to immediately jump - like hearing someone is a partnered lesbian and immediately imagining what you think she and her partner must do in bed.
[–]NDG 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I’ve watched 90%+ of Blaire’s videos. There’s one where Blaire says that being into MtF people “isn’t the gayest thing ever...but it’s not the straightest thing ever.” I’ve always thought Blaire and Joey seem really candid and realistic about their relationship.
Target doesn’t have the second series of Harry Potter minifigs, and I’m suspicious by NDG in GenderCritical
[–]NDG[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Not just the local store, because the minifigs aren’t on their website either.
A person I loved dearly recently came out as trans and I don't know what to say to him. by saragini in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Your mother made a serious error in judgment letting this man anywhere near her precious babies. You and your sister need to stay away from him, because this is not a safe individual. Do you both still live with your parents? And what on earth does your father think of all this?!
[–]NDG[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
So far with the new set, I’m looking for Fred, Lily, and Myrtle. I felt, like, fifteen bags yesterday and all I could find was Neville, Harry, Sprout, and like a million Georges.
[–]NDG[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Good to know. I see they have the HP Lego Advent calendar too, so it’s possible I’m just being paranoid. 🙂
Target doesn’t have the second series of Harry Potter minifigs, and I’m suspicious
I wish people who freak out about "deadnaming" would pay half as much attention to not screwing up women's names by NDG in GenderCritical
My husband didn't care what I did with my name. One, it's mine, and two, he and his mom haven't shared a last name since he was eight, so he didn't grow up with the mindset that "family has the same last name."
[–]NDG[S] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Because it's not mine. It doesn't say anything about my family or my history. My mom didn't change her name either, so I didn't grow up with the idea that changing your name when you got married was "what everyone did." I don't care what other people do with their names, but it's always seemed really arbitrary to me.
Besides, all of my everything - driver's license, degrees, professional license - is in my own name. And my husband's dad's side is pretty dysfunctional.
I wish people who freak out about "deadnaming" would pay half as much attention to not screwing up women's names
Why do so many women deny the existence of misogyny? by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical
Honestly, my experience with feminism has never been about “support and positive change” for all women. It’s been mostly of the Ti-Grace Atkinson “sisterhood kills, mostly sisters” variety.
My offline encounters with self-declared feminists have almost all been with the “judgmental tribunal” types. Don’t dismiss other people’s experience as ignorance, please.
As for “what feminism is,” there are different schools of feminism claiming that totally opposing beliefs are feminist.
Theory: privileged woman + no kids, more likely to = trans-supportive? by NDG in GenderCritical
[–]NDG[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
[–]NDG 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
...and that right there is an example of the attitude that tells them feminism doesn’t want them.
[–]NDG[S] 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I didn’t say anything about mental maturity. I said it can be easier to overlook how sex influences other women’s lives if you don’t have kids.
[–]NDG 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Most of the “I’m not a feminist” women I know are well-aware that misogyny exists. (Ask any American conservative woman 35+ what she thought about the media’s treatment of Sarah Palin back in 2008.) But they’re also well-aware that, unlike Mr. Rogers, mainstream feminism does not “like them just the way they are.”
They’re against abortion, or at least against some element of the pro- choice movement’s ideal set of abortion laws - they think it should be illegal after twelve weeks, or a minor’s guardians should always be notified. They have strong ties to religions that feminists told them were patriarchal or oppressive. They have stories about feminists shaming them for being stay-at-home moms. They suspect feminists think they’re dumb and brainwashed. They think feminists focus too much on “manspreading” and not enough on serious issues like honor killings or FGM. They see feminism as a clique for upper-middle-class liberals and they don’t want to join.
Theory: privileged woman + no kids, more likely to = trans-supportive?
I peaked after dating a trans girl and need advice on how to leave by lunemoonjune in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 64 insightful - 2 fun64 insightful - 1 fun65 insightful - 1 fun65 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
OP is obviously in a very rough place emotionally right now. Your response is that her post disgusts you and that you’re going to define her sexual orientation for her?! Geez, with “women supporting women” like these...
I can completely believe this is a real story. It’s a classic case of a woman getting into a bad place because someone took advantage of her unwillingness to hurt their feelings.
Let’s get “Irreversible Damage” into libraries by NDG in GenderCritical
Ooh, how much of a wait? I love it when there’s data on public interest in this stuff.
[–]NDG[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
The one problem there would be that TRAs could steal and destroy them. With libraries, at least they’ll be financially accountable if they “lose” it.
Be sure to check their policies on donations first. You don’t want to spend in the range of fifty bucks for a few copies only to have them sold for two bucks each at the next library book sale.
Let’s get “Irreversible Damage” into libraries
I am so sick of having to f-king explain everything I do to people! by midgetmetalhead19 in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
You don’t have to explain everything to them. Tell them the topic is closed, and then if they bring it up again, don’t respond at all.
the role of yaoi/anime bL in the “gay” tif (specifically tumblr/twt) community by gencritcurious in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I’ve liked slash and m/m fiction since the early 2000s, but I never got into most yaoi because the hyper-feminine guys seemed so unrealistic to me. I never got into Tumblr, either. I don’t go for most m/f fiction because it tends to be way too into gender roles, or else the author overdoes how the woman is a Strong Female Character and Just As Good As A Man. F/f seems to often have a political slant that I find off-putting in a romance.
Back in the 2000s, people might do cosplay as male characters, but girls didn’t think liking those characters or liking slash meant they were trans men. I wonder how much of this can be attributed to Tumblr.
I believe there's a divide between radfems and gender critics who aren't necessarily radfem by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Politically independent, not a radical feminist. I think transitioning is a social contagion in young women and that a lot of sexually abusive men are finding cover in identifying as trans women. Women are adult human females and we deserve single-sex spaces when it comes to locker rooms, sports, and anything else directly connected to our bodies.
I lurked at the old GC sub, but it seemed more ideologically uniform than this one, so I didn’t post because it didn’t seem like it was “for me.”
I read this wild ride of a history by Alice Dreger on a controversial book about AGP. I think GC and QT alike should have this info. by [deleted] in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I read this too and second the recommendation.
TIF whining because gay men behave like gay men by weirdthorn in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
To me, it’s the Carrie-at-the-prom contrast of, “Come on, I know they’ll accept you!” and flat-out obvious rejection. She sounds more out of touch with reality than entitled.
My physics teacher just announced he’s transgender. by LoganBlade in GenderCritical
Are you a student in the class or a TA or...? Just slightly confused about that part of the story.
[–]NDG 36 insightful - 2 fun36 insightful - 1 fun37 insightful - 1 fun37 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Honestly, I feel kind of bad for her. She’s delusional - yeah, gay guys are TOTALLY going to want to have sex with a vaguely masculine woman with breasts and a vagina 🙄 - but I feel bad anyway.
I hate how the trans community has claimed Mulan by Beth-BR in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 45 insightful - 2 fun45 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Joan of Arc has been a kickass role model for Catholic girls for centuries - she’s like every Catholic school girl’s favorite saint. TRAs trying to co-opt Joan of Arc is infuriating to me.
Anybody else encountered TRAs and their allies claiming no one sees anyone naked in a locker room? by NDG in GenderCritical
[–]NDG[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Oh my God, “sluts” because they took their shirts off?! I didn’t play sports in school and did beginning ballet to fulfill my high school gym requirement, so I haven’t changed with a class in a locker room since eighth grade. (Ballet class was too far from the locker room and everyone changed in the nearby bathroom.) I get the whole thing with being embarrassed about being naked, but the whole “sluts” thing is even more insane than calling people sluts usually is.
[–]NDG[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Online conversation, but I know one person IRL and the other is connected to me through a site I’ve published on. The IRL one did high school and college sports.
[–]NDG[S] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Both people telling me this were women.
Anybody else encountered TRAs and their allies claiming no one sees anyone naked in a locker room?
What was the rape case where the judge kept telling the testifying victim to refer to the TiM rapist as “she”?
I'm can't say I'm anti porn but I wanted to share by inneedofspace in GenderCritical
You are not obligated to do any sexual thing that you feel pressured to do, or feel you have to do, or don't really want to do. You're not wrong for feeling this way.
Women identifying as non binary lesbians but dating exclusively men? by radikaalirusina in GenderCritical
Exactly. I was lucky enough to meet the love of my life early on, and it would be incredibly stupid for me to reject the best person in my life just to "prove" I had a genuine attraction to women.
[–]NDG 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I'm in the same situation as your friend - with man I've been with since high school, never dated a woman. Calling myself straight would be a lie.
It would erase years of agonizing over attraction to women, and trying to explain those feelings away as "something else." It would erase my teenage unrequited feelings for a friend of mine, which were passionate and intense and basically consumed my sophomore year of high school. It would erase the temptations I had to cheat on my then-boyfriend with a woman while at college. Yeah, I'm a "straight woman" - the kind with lifelong feelings of sexual attraction to women. Makes about as much sense as a woman with a penis.
Question about "We resist efforts to limit women's reproductive autonomy" by NDG in GenderCritical
I have no idea how I'd phrase it. I'm just trying to figure out if it's okay if I post on this sub, or if it's supposed to be only for people who can agree with everything in the sidebar.
Letter in Harper magazine calling for open debate (signed by JKR amongst others) by endthewoo in GenderCritical
[–]NDG 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I wonder if Jennifer Finney Boylan signing will have any positive impact on TRAs. My guess is they’ll just chalk it up to JFB’s white privilege or something.
You know who should be defending J. K. Rowling? Judy Blume.
2 years ago * by NDG to /s/GenderCritical from self.GenderCritical
It’s kind of like someone saying, “I’m a vegan animal rights activist” and other people retorting, “Stop forcing your Dharmic religion on us!”
I think I thank my husband at least once a week for getting a vasectomy. 🙂
I would think that’s a pretty standard pro-choice stance, but the quote from the sidebar sounds pretty absolute.
I said I don’t want to discuss or debate abortion here. I spend 40+ hours a month volunteering for an organization (without any position on abortion) that helps underprivileged newborns, and that’s my final comment on the issue.
Question about "We resist efforts to limit women's reproductive autonomy"
PIV SEX/INTERCOURSE IS BAD FOR WOMEN by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Because I’m the one who mentioned gaslighting, and you posted elsewhere on the thread that you weren’t gaslighting anybody.
Then I’m not talking about you, am I?
[–]NDG 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
“Not my Nigel” was this phrase criticizing women on the sub who didn’t think their male partners were misogynists - “men are misogynists, but not my Nigel.” Posters would mention clearly pro-woman things their partners did and then people would be like, “Oh, look, ‘not my Nigel.’”
Telling women their male partners only value them as property - despite all their experience that tells them otherwise - is textbook gaslighting. It’s designed to make them doubt the validity of their own memories and perceptions.
[–]NDG 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Stuff like this is why I only lurked at the old sub and never joined. That, and the gaslighting women by telling them that their male partners only cared about them as property, and then making snide, condescending "Nigel" remarks when they disagreed.
Leave Babysitters Club alone! by GrendelsScaryMom in GenderCritical
Oh, FUCK no. Well, there go my weekend watching plans.
[–]NDG 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
She’s a lesbian, so I’m especially interested what she thinks about “trans kid” stuff.
Emerson Spartz, founder of Mugglenet, steps up
Harry Potter fan sites distance themselves from JK Rowling over transgender rights by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Longtime involvement in the HP fandom. Melissa Annelli (Leaky Cauldron) and Emerson Spartz (Mugglenet) owe their present careers to JKR. She was gracious enough to let them interview her (in 2006, I think?) and she wrote the forward for MA’s book about the fandom. Emerson Spartz started Mugglenet as a teenager. They’ve also spent years criticizing fans who disagree with JKR in other areas, but now that she pooh-poohed their sacred cow, she’s persona non grata for them.
Also? Back around 2004, Mugglenet pissed off a lot of fans by refusing to allow slash fiction on their site, because “nothing suggests any of the characters are homosexuals.” Of course, the whole point of fan fiction is to start with the canon and then let your imagination run wild, but Teh Gay was forbidden, for some reason. They later reversed course, but ES is hardly some flawless champion of LGBT rights.
The fucking nerve of these assholes.
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