Women identifying as non binary lesbians but dating exclusively men?

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[–]Rivergirl 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

OP talked about people putting on an identity to feel special. It seemed related to me. Isn’t part of the point of gender critical to be able to discuss gender issues? I’m sorry that you find my take judgemental, but it really sounds like you are just using the word “judgemental” to shame me for being wrong rather than respond in good faith.

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I didn't realize that an actual women claiming to be bisexual while being engaged to the man she's been with since high school was a gender issue. What do you expect her to do? Break up with someone she has dated since high school and prove her sexuality to you by dating a woman? You are shaming actual women who are bisexual that are with men.

[–]Rivergirl 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No, I just don’t think that a women who has never engaged romantically or sexually with a woman and has no plans to ever do so should call themselves bisexual.

Gender critical used to be a place to discuss women’s issues from a radical feminist perspective. I would count how one labels their sexuality as part of that discussion. Have we moved on from examining women as a class and on to individual “whatever I say about myself goes” feminism?

Edit: missed a word that changed the meaning

[–]NDG 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm in the same situation as your friend - with man I've been with since high school, never dated a woman. Calling myself straight would be a lie.

It would erase years of agonizing over attraction to women, and trying to explain those feelings away as "something else." It would erase my teenage unrequited feelings for a friend of mine, which were passionate and intense and basically consumed my sophomore year of high school. It would erase the temptations I had to cheat on my then-boyfriend with a woman while at college. Yeah, I'm a "straight woman" - the kind with lifelong feelings of sexual attraction to women. Makes about as much sense as a woman with a penis.