By wearing a dress on the cover of Vogue while still identifying as a man, Harry Styles has done more to challenge gender than anything Sam Smith has ever done.

Climblikeabee · 2020-11-14T15:54:03+00:00

Already been deemed transphobic:

https://twitter.com/abrainofonesown/status/1327612674302222337?s=19 But..? I..? So annoying

Climblikeabee · 2020-11-06T05:43:04+00:00

This is why a lot of feminists I've connected to on Instagram will send voice memos back and forth, one extra step to be sure we are talking to other women. Are you on Ovarit? I know it isn't completely private, but it is still almost exclusively women and invite-only.

Climblikeabee · 2020-10-27T23:03:55+00:00

I feel this so hard. I'm not an artist but I did take a lot of art history in college and it's one of my big interests. I've run into the same issues - pronouns everywhere and it only takes a minute of scrolling to find some TWAW bullshit. It sucks.

Do you follow anyone on ig? Jess De Wahls is gender critical and promotes other artists (usually ones who've been affected by cancel culture and believing in biology) so I've found more to follow through her. What kind of art are you interested in? I can send you some ig profiles if you'd like.

Climblikeabee · 2020-10-25T05:20:33+00:00

Roberta Calindrez played a lesbian (Tako) in season 1 of Girls on HBO and then also in The Deuce (Irene). It seems like she gets typecast for those roles, definitely masc-leaning but still conventionally attractive. I looked her up and she identifies as queer 😞

Climblikeabee · 2020-10-25T03:37:21+00:00

I got the impression that the OP of the tweet was one of the parents. He mentions trying to save his daughter from the cult in other tweets.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-25T11:04:12+00:00

At least half the "terfs" I know/follow are lesbians, including myself. Maybe it's the misogyny and homophobia 🤷‍♀️

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-20T22:18:13+00:00

I've been sharing news on my insta stories pertaining to women, without bringing up gender ideology. Today was about Posie Parker's arrest. Whenever anyone responds to my stories, I get into a conversation with them privately where I can share information and concerns more freely.

My sister was talking about how much she loves HP this week, then said "fuck jk rowling though."

The exchange that followed:

"That entire thing was blown out of proportion. People shouldn't be demonizing a woman who has done enormous good for women and children."

"Wym? I thought it was quite obvious she is transphobic"

"What did she say that was transphobic? Did you read her essay?"

"No but I saw some tweets a while back and everyone has been blowing up on Twitter about it"

Then I sent that image of "proof JKR is transphobic" with the quotes from her essay

Her: "I have been lied to 😞"

I explained that trans women are not women, that women's spaces and rights are under attack, that I support people's right to live however they want but not at the detriment of women and girls, that sexual orientation is based on sex and how seeing the silencing of women, lesbian erasure and homophobic rhetoric from TRAs is how I fell down the rabbithole and learned about gender ideology and its harms.

I sent her some Magdalen Berns videos, the Blaire White video on JKR, and the State Media doc. She's part peaked just from our conversation and said she will watch them and wants to know more.

The "cotton ceiling" horrified her. She also said that she never considered that homosexuality is based on SEX, not gender. She has a "transbian" friend so I was most afraid to talk to her, but it went shockingly well. I told her I had been called a TERF and that it has no meaning anymore.

I found this approach to be the best so far out of all the conversations I've had. Part of why it worked so well was her opening the door to talk about it, so I think my ig stories will give me more of these opportunities.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-19T18:07:37+00:00

Facts.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-19T18:07:13+00:00

People aren't "defining" lesbianism differently, it has one definition and it isn't up for interpretation.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-19T17:54:24+00:00

Some educational videos from the queen:

https://youtu.be/qkcCzIc0j2s https://youtu.be/dQ35T3H7Arg

Your post reads like a validation-seeking post and low-grade trolling. You could have had a seat and participated without bring trans into the conversation at all, since it is mostly irrelevant unless we are talking about female and lesbian erasure and the homophobic rhetoric we are being attacked with.

I think you'd feel right at home in /r/actuallesbians, where all that nonsense reigns supreme.

If you want ACTUAL lesbians, you found the right place, but I think you know this already.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-15T04:55:17+00:00

Yes please

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-12T03:49:14+00:00

You are 100% right, and girls like this in need of help and someone to talk to, ESPECIALLY lesbian/bi girls, are the only reason I'm still on saidit/reddit.

I'm mostly on Ovarit which is still invite only, but I strongly recommend it for women to read content that is relevant to them.

Truly hoping this girl messages me back.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-11T17:37:19+00:00

I JUST finished sending a message to her. I hope she reads it and finds a real lesbian community ❤ I told her I would be happy to talk.

EDIT: I'm also a lesbian who found /AL to be toxic and male-centric as fuck, so I really really feel for this girl.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-10T12:14:33+00:00

This is so gross because it has the implication that women are passive during sex. So either women are perfectly fine just being touched, or they're suggesting LESBIANS use fingers/toys on a dude with a penis?

Absolutely fucking not.

Lesbian sex never includes a penis. Ever. But I'm just a genital fetishist, what do I know?

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-09T02:30:35+00:00

I never believed in the TWAW bullshit, and sometimes the appropriation and entitlement would bother me, but I would not have defined myself as gender critical and didn't pay much attention to it.

ACTUALLESBIANS PEAKED ME. THANKS, GUYS.

Meme about lesbians not getting pregnant? "AcTuAlLy some lesbians have dicks"

Post about pussy? "AcTuAlLy some women have dicks"

Everything is a trigger. The obvious narcissism and mental illness, the anime pictures, the constant seeking of validation, the silencing of women. The objectification of women and how the "transbians" ALWAYS talk about women like straight men with male privilege and this insane entitlement to lesbians. The blatant fetishizing. Something wasn't right.

That's how I peaked, been about a year now and I'm even more disgusted and horrified every day.

Climblikeabee · 2020-09-06T01:27:05+00:00

Dirty chai lattes, sometimes with an extra shot

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-27T03:17:32+00:00

Of course. Wish you all the luck. Please end this for your own happiness and wellbeing and don't allow them to gaslight/manipulate you.

We have to push back against these dynamics (trans "lesbians" pressuring lesbians specifically, into dating them, claiming transphobia etc). You aren't disgusting or transphobic for only being attracted to women (adult human females).

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-27T02:59:34+00:00

"Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm" comes to mind.

I have mixed feelings because lesbians SHOULD be able to say (to anyone) that dicks are disgusting to them, despite the gender ID of the person it belongs to. Sexuality/attraction is based on sex, and you aren't obligated to pretend otherwise.

However, since you asked for specific help on how to end things without bringing up sex, we can focus on other problems. An almost 30 year old unemployed mentally ill person is not fit to be in a relationship with you or anyone else. They need therapy and help and support that you can not/are not obligated to provide. There are so many red flags in your post but ultimately you are not happy, and it is unfair to both of you to continue in this relationship.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-27T02:26:06+00:00

Yeah exactly! I did tell a few of them and they took it really well, but I do carry some weird guilt about it all. At the end of the day it felt good though.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-27T00:18:01+00:00

I actually relate to her so much in this situation, but I do use lesbian now because fuck what other people think about me and my past.

I wrote extensively on reddit about my experiences (before the banning), but the basic gist is I dated a few guys who pursued me who were all very sweet good friends of mine, and after a couple months of dating each of them I felt nauseous and disgusted by them and like I would rather die than spend another intimate moment with them. I already knew I was into women but I hadn't fallen for anyone and was still in denial. I have a daughter so my past dating life clearly includes at least one man. Using the label of lesbian means being questioned by everyone on the "validity" of how it applies to me. I do call myself a lesbian because I am one, even if I didn't embrace and fully understand it until my early 20s. I did care deeply about the men I dated, they were good people, and I broke a lot of hearts. Calling myself a lesbian feels like dismissing those relationships in my past as meaningless. They did mean something to me, even if it wasn't love or even anything even close to resembling attraction.

Kind of a rant haha but you know. She might not want to deal with any of that bullshit. She could also be bi but personally I followed the same thought process as you.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-23T02:13:16+00:00

... I definitely love picnics😂 Learned about geocaching in Girl Scouts back in the day, now I'm almost 30 and there are many more boxes out there!

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-22T12:01:26+00:00

Have you ever tried geocaching? My vote is for that (feels like an adventure!), and maybe a picnic.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-19T03:18:19+00:00

Thank you so much❤ I'm missing fall a lot. I hope you get to try it! Sounds like an incredible future trip.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-18T11:45:34+00:00

Layali Libnan, or "Lebanese Nights"

My Syrian friend's mother makes it in huge batches, it's like a luxury version of rice pudding (semolina-based). She makes it topped with pistachios, pine nuts and coconut, and a separate bottle of rosewater syrup to pour over it. I can't properly explain how good it is. She also makes incredible baklava.

Also love "Indian Pudding" which is a cornmeal/brown sugar/molasses custard served warm with vanilla ice cream, my great grandmother used to make it and it's something that reminds me of crisp New England days in the fall.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-06T20:23:05+00:00

I saw No Doubt when I was a teenager, Gwen Stefani got down on the stage and did a ridiculous number of push-ups in the middle of this song. Her stamina was incredible.

Climblikeabee · 2020-08-03T14:12:49+00:00

Thank you for this! The Mac and funk are my favorites so this is chef's kiss

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-24T12:49:43+00:00

I've seen this twice today (another comment mentioned it was 40%), what are some good sources for this? My friends drink the kool-aid and refuse to listen to anything that isn't from an "unbiased" source.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-21T17:09:48+00:00

Great idea. Subscribed.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-18T02:15:58+00:00

Not sure if it counts, but I collect mid century modern relics. Furniture, vases, clocks. Anything, really.

Also vinyl.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T19:02:16+00:00

I have a daughter (she's 6) so that is my greatest concern as well. Thanks so much.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T15:29:29+00:00

Excellent insight. I agree with you that they made it more palatable to a general audience, with enough nuance that no one who listened will write it off. It wasn't "hateful" or "extremist". The feedback is already overwhelmingly in our favor.

Joe Rogan was actually a perfect person for this because as you said, he had already brought up concerns in an area he has expertise in.

Would you mind posting a review/some thoughts when you do read it? I'd love to hear them.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T09:34:13+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Despite how short it was, I'm overjoyed that it was mentioned at all. I'm hoping this is the first domino, you can tell in the second half (when they stop dancing around the elephant) that they both recognize how harmful the culture is. I think Joe Rogan having daughters means he has a dog in this fight in a way he wouldn't have otherwise.

She's already received backlash, but I'm sure it will be much worse now. Hopefully she doubles down and goes all in now, she name drops Dr. Blanchard and you can tell she is still holding back.

EDIT: do we know what site he was referring to when they talk about how TRAs mob spaces and claim "hate speech" to shut them down? They mention a detrans space that was attacked. I wonder if Rogan was actually talking about Reddit but didn't want to open that can of worms by calling them out.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T02:35:55+00:00

I truly can't stand him regarding a lot of things (including that moment), but it is worth the listen and they move on quickly.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T02:34:04+00:00

I felt exactly the same but I stuck with it, the conversation opens up significantly around 45 mins in. They stop dancing around the elephant.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-17T02:28:20+00:00

Almost done listening. This is a huge platform discussing the issues we care about. They have hit on almost everything minus AGP.

Lesbian spaces being infiltrated, sports, the silencing of women, denial of biology/science.

Really excellent so far. I'm 1 hour and 13 mins in.

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-16T19:15:20+00:00

I tell everyone to listen to Chromeo. Funk music, has a little something for everyone.

They had an old album with artwork where the keyboard legs were a woman's legs. During the Me Too movement they realized how objectifying it was, so they learned how to walk in heels, tanned/waxed, and used their own legs in all of the new artwork.

I've seen them live and I really can't hype them up enough.

Prince-inspired "Bad Decision" https://youtu.be/lToZrO4Zslg

"Don't Sleep" https://youtu.be/ypkA7u04Xwo

"Over Your Shoulder" https://youtu.be/ehpYg0NsGqA

"Lost on the Way Home" https://youtu.be/Z2HZVt3S6rk

"Right Back Home to You" https://youtu.be/Z5nUZd_h0iQ

Those bass lines though. Woo.

Some others:

Local Natives "When Am I Gonna Lose You" https://youtu.be/oWwytT5JAdM

Electric Guest "Dollar" https://youtu.be/5rmZPJA3Py0

"1 4 Me" https://youtu.be/OSXH1xbiIVM

Charles Bradley "Strictly Reserved For You" https://youtu.be/rgnQYvzRDiQ If you like this, or Leon Bridges, I have a bunch more recs!

PREP "Cold Fire" https://youtu.be/qdpCBTkTxbc

Still Woozy "Goodie Bag" https://youtu.be/zL3wWykAKfs

Leon Bridges "River" https://youtu.be/0Hegd4xNfRo (This entire album is outstanding)

Bon Iver "Holocene" https://youtu.be/8T0cHQb39GY

The Kooks "Naive" https://youtu.be/jkaMiaRLgvY

Feist is incredible! If you ever get a chance to see her live: run, don't walk.

"The Bad in Each Other" https://youtu.be/NYWzJrY3JPw

"How Come You Never Go There" https://youtu.be/I2uVRMBD5RY

Someone else plugged Alt-J already but these are my favorites.

"Deadcrush" https://youtu.be/GOJUNJ1o394

"In Cold Blood" https://youtu.be/rP0uuI80wuY

EDIT: saw your edit. More women ❤

Lizzo, Little Green Cars(!!), Florence and the Machine, Courtney Barnett, Missy Higgins, Kate Nash, Cat Power, Phoebe Bridgers, Julien Baker.

Little Green Cars "My Love Took Me Down To the River To Silence Me" https://youtu.be/dmo9zGw1IX4

Missy Higgins "100 Round The Bends" https://youtu.be/F7higyb0Tbw

Could always go real classic with some Billie Holiday or Ella Fitzgerald.

If you like rap, check out The Lioness. She's a lesbian, I've seen her live and she steals the whole show every time.

"Journey" https://youtu.be/esviRxLSSNs

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-16T18:36:44+00:00

My girlfriend is from Brazil and had never heard of NMH, I played that album and now she loves them. My favorite album of all time, it's iconic.

Love Alt-J, I think Relaxer is their best!

Climblikeabee · 2020-07-11T04:40:53+00:00

I just went scorched earth with my main too. Zero fucks. Waiting for my ban so I can delete the app officially✌

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