Sooooo proud to be represented by a furry as the first LGBTIQQAAXYZWTF mutherfucka in space. All my UwUs. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Wasn't Sally Ride either bi or a lesbian? I guess she wasn't out though... So this guy feels he can claim that.

LGBT identification hits US high of 7.1% as Gen Z comes of age by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I believe it. I was at this event with a liberal crowd and it seemed like every younger woman I talked to identified as trans/nonbinary in some way. I literally found only one other woman around my age (20s) who was just plain old "she". And as for the guys, there were a few more who weren't trans, but then there were also a good number of trans/nonbinary identifying guys.

Here we go: the P belongs in the alphabet soup by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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My mother believes this, and she believes it about lesbians as well. She told my girlfriend at the time that she didn't want her around kids because of pedophilia. And she's no white nationalist or anything. Just a run of the mill Evangelical homophobe.

Homosexuality is a conversion therapy term! by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Exactly, we tried using "female", but then they started claiming that not only were they women, their dicks were biologically female.

The horrors of dating a genderist. by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

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Reminds me of my ex, for the last few months when she was questioning her gender. How could she expect me to "change" my orientation just to be with her?

Transwoman calls gay men cissies, tells them to get over men having vulvas by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I love seeing the common sense over there.

I had an eating disorder and a history of self-harm so ... by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Anybody have an archive link?

I want to hear your stories if you used to have gender dysphoria but it has gotten better somewhat or entirely. by TarshishJupiter in detrans

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Maybe I wasn't clear about the fact that I felt incredible physical dysphoria. How is that not real gender dysphoria? Just because it didn't last, or that being in a misogynistic community made it worse?

I want to hear your stories if you had gender dysphoria and don't anymore. by TarshishJupiter in GenderCritical

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I appreciate it. I was wondering where I might hear more from people.

Queers 'do gender' differently, what a surprise by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Hearing that phrase like that makes me reminisce about Magdalen Berns. She was so good at cutting out the BS.

Sunday Social - open chat! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Pulling an all nighter this early in the semester is a bad sign...

The definition is how much you align with your own definition by soundsituation in GenderCritical

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TransLogic TM. It's hard to come up with a definition everyone can get behind when every definition except an obtuse and confusing one is offensive.

When Asked ‘What Are Your Pronouns,’ Don’t Answer by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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My answer is usually, "I'm female."

One time a guy I was serving when I worked food service said, "Sorry for assuming what pronouns you use." And I said, gesturing up and down at myself, "What do I look like?" And he said, "Well... you look female." And I said, "Exactly." He said, "Well, you never know these days. I don't know about all of it though. I'm just an old fashioned gay man." I smiled, and I said quietly, "And I'm just an old fashioned lesbian." We high-fived, and that was that.

Trans people act like the fact that they're all "gay" is some big mystery 🙄 by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

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Yeah cause most people are straight, and believing you're the opposite gender has no effect on that.

College Humor: Sleepovers When You're Gay by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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Yes, likewise, I was 20 before I realized that I was not "just having some weird puberty thing".

College Humor: Sleepovers When You're Gay by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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My weird friend dared me to strip down to my underwear and roll on the floor over the spiky plastic chair mat.

r/actuallesbians strikes again by elpk1313 in LGBDropTheT

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Thankfully the actual lesbians in that post are disagreeing with him.

Gross and also no by CleverFoolOfEarth in LGBDropTheT

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This is just really strange logic. Imagine injecting meat with chlorophyll or something like that, and then telling a vegetarian that this meat now tastes, acts, and smells like a plant. Then pressuring them to eat that meat. That would be super offensive and downright immoral. Why is this not seen as super offensive and immoral?

Neopeen disaster by jet199 in neovaginadisasters

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Oh no. Fuck this. Fuck all of this, and fuck every gender-preaching person who aided her along the way to getting this so-called surgery.

“What Does LGBTQ Stand For?” Your (Colorful!) LGBTQIA+ Glossary - 😡😡😡😡😡 by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The two-spirit identity is reserved for those who identify as Indigenous North American.

Ok. Then I identify as Indigenous North American. Identifying as something makes you that thing, right? Can I be Two-Spirit now?

Jane Austen speaks by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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At least the comments are not having it.

This guy's insides are probably like a car accident by jet199 in neovaginadisasters

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What did I just read..... That's awful.

"Clitorises are small penises and penises are large clitorises"? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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No they're not the same thing, but they come from the same material in the womb. They become differentiated.

Crime of the century by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I was convinced Peter Pan was going to bring me to Neverland or that I could actually see fairies.

Dating as a Gay or Lesbian while not believing in Trans Ideology, how has it been? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

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I keep having nightmares that I start dating a woman, and then she GOES OFF on me when I mention anything relating to trans stuff. But in real life, I'm not dating right now because I'm in college and don't have the time.

Lesbians/bisexual women of Saidit who were around during the Women's movement in or around the 1970's, I want to hear your stories! by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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You know, I posted this and then realized that the 70's were like 40-50 years ago. So I'm looking for women who are in their 60's and 70's. And I'm looking for them on Saidit? Not exactly the best idea.

Jews Masquerading as “Rich, White Men” are Funding the Transgender Movement by WhiteZealot in GenderCritical

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Wut

How many of you have genuinely experienced actual, extreme gender dysphoria? And please dont exaggerate but i mean actual, almost borderline creepy, harmful levels of what we now call gender dysphoria? Not the "im a tomboy" but "there's something deeply wrong with me" until you got over it. by schomee in LGBDropTheT

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YES. It happened when I was 17-19. I felt physical disgust at seeing my female form in the mirror, not because I wished I was prettier, but because I wished I was male. I even thought maybe I was a man "on the inside" or non-binary. It caused me actual depression when people recognized me as a woman.

Then later I started reading about feminist topics, and I realized I had pushed myself into a trans box because I hated how I grew up, and hated how women were made to feel in my community. I did indeed "get over it", though there was more to it than that. These days I feel very embodied and mindful of myself as a woman in a positive way. I'm not trying to escape something I can't change.

This is why I have compassion for young people going through gender dysphoria. I think they had what I had, but their minds fell into the wrong hands and they lost their grip on reality.

Listen Sappho cis-lesbians... by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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And the lesbian who says that having a dick in her mouth makes her want to barf is told that her language is “harsh”.

"Does this look normal" by jet199 in neovaginadisasters

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Oh Goddess. Cannot unsee that.

What was your first relationship like (if you’ve had one) and what did you learn from it? by TarshishJupiter in Lesbians

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I should add that my first relationship started out of a friendship that went back since we were kids. We had a lot of history and good memories. It was a romantic dream for the first summer, and then when we became long-distance while she was in college, it slowly deteriorated. Now I don't even have her friendship anymore, unfortunately.

What was your first relationship like (if you’ve had one) and what did you learn from it? by TarshishJupiter in Lesbians

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For me, there were multiple things that I learned.

  • There are people out there who are capable and willing to love me, even being the way I am. I am also capable of loving people romantically.
  • I do want to end up with someone and not be alone. I like being with someone, even if it didn’t end up working out with this specific woman.
  • I’m actually a very sexual person, and having no sex in a relationship or very little is not for me.
  • I want to get with someone who loves being a woman, even if she doesn’t love how society treats women. I can’t be someone’s dysphoria crutch.
  • I understand why people rave about French kissing now.
  • No one is my “soulmate” or “one and only”. There are many possible women I could match the with, but none are a perfect match.

What does "coming out" mean to you? Why did you "come out" and what were/are you expectations, goals, and fears in doing so? by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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Coming out to me meant giving a heads up to everyone that I was going to send them a wedding announcement one day - and the fiancée would be a woman. Didn’t want that to surprise anyone.

To me it doesn’t necessarily mean parading my sexuality on all my social media or being a full activist and marching in parades. And it also doesn’t mean I have to tell everyone I meet. My grandma doesn’t know because she would pray endlessly for me and I don’t want that for her.

For everyone else, it’s just a random fact that’s about the same as letting someone know whether I’d prefer to carry or adopt a child.

Videogame characters who are LGB? by PeakingPeachEater in LGBDropTheT

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Life is Strange: Before the Storm had a lesbian romance involving the main character. Unfortunately I didn’t find the game very entertaining at all.

Tales From the Borderlands has a lesbian relationship between non-playable characters (Athena and Janey). You can choose to have them take a larger part in the story though. I find that game very entertaining and funny. It’s a one person game, but you could even switch players when the game switches protagonists, which is what my sister and her boyfriend did.

Undertale of course has Alphys and Undyne, but I know that game isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. You only see their romance if you get a particular good ending.

In Tacoma, you uncover a story that involves crew members of a spaceship, two of which are in a lesbian relationship.

Other games that include LGB characters or relationships in a very minor way include Gone Home and Observer.

How did your family react when you introduced your same-sex partner/boyfriend/girlfriend to them? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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My parents didn’t take my coming out very well. My mom refused to let me date while I lived under her roof, and she said she would never come to my wedding. My dad at first insinuated I was going to hell.

When I started dating about six months later (my first girlfriend, now my ex), they already knew her from our community. My mom verbally lashed out at her when we told my parents we were dating. She insinuated that my girlfriend was a pedophile and said she felt insulted and disrespected that we were dating.

My dad on the other hand had a surprising reaction. He approved my choice of girlfriend and was happy to see me so happy. He proved his support by talking to her like a person and laughing and joking with us.

My mom continued to treat her coldly and silently until we broke up three years later.

"If you haven't listened to trans kids, don't speak about them" - Mermaids says. by [deleted] in therearetwogenders

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I have listened to trans kids. As someone associated with a program for teens, I know at least two self-identified trans kids (both girls, one non-binary and one seeking to transition). And I am all the more convinced that these kids' upbringings as well as social contagion led to them identifying as trans. They both come from extremely conservative backgrounds where women are treated as lesser beings, and the two of them are friends.

Being a lesbian and religious (or not religious) by lovelyspearmint in Lesbians

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I believe that sin is simply anything that hurts others or yourself (any injustice, cruelty, disrespect, or dehumanization). And since I searched and searched but couldn't find any harms of homosexuality - in fact, it may help the species - I don't believe homosexuality is a sin. So I was able to reconcile my faith with being a lesbian. It also helped that I started going to a church with a gay pastor and many gay couples in the congregation.

My lesbian ex just came out as queer and nonbinary. by sickofit in Lesbians

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Yeah... mine did too.

"I don't identify with female words," she said.

"That's perfectly normal," I said, "They come with so much baggage. I would be a bit concerned if a woman didn't feel some discomfort with them."

"But for me it goes beyond that," she said.

Like... why is her discomfort with sexism more important than anyone else's?? I don't understand. :-/

Gina Carano, an MMA fighter and actress for the Mandalorian provides a strong response to TRA harassment by fuck_reddit in LGBDropTheT

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Boop is hot. Not "she". At least get her pronouns right.

Realising I'm a lesbian made everything make sense by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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Yeah, I had dreams about women too before I knew I was a lesbian. And yes, Google is no help! Dream sites are usually like, "You need to connect with your femininity." Like... ok??

One year without Magdalen. RIP you beautiful soul by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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RIP Magdalen. We miss you, your intelligent soul, and your wit.

Edit: I almost forgot. I drew a picture of Magdalen in the style of Art Nouveau, holding violets as a symbol of lesbians: https://imgur.com/rX0Zo0C

Realising I'm a lesbian made everything make sense by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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Same. I used to dread getting married. I dreaded the wedding night too. (But of course I thought it would have to happen, because of how I grew up.)

I kept having dreams where I would walk down the aisle, get married to some dude, feel weird about kissing him, and then immediately regret it and cry afterwards. Or dreams where a man and I were going into the bedroom on our wedding night, and I would always back out and run away. I had at least five or six of those dreams that I can remember.

Now that I know I'm a lesbian, I can't wait to get married to the right woman. I know marriage and weddings are a little silly, but I have stars in my eyes at the thought of them. The old dreams have stopped, and instead, I'll occasionally have a dream that I'm marrying a woman - and the only reason I'll be upset is when I wake up, lol.

How to deal with friendship loss due to GC views by threefingersam in GenderCritical

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Exactly. I have friends who have opposite views on many things. But some people into gender ideology end their relationship with me because of my gender critical views.

Being referred to as "Transphobic", do you just accept the label? by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Let them throw that word around until it doesn't mean anything. Ignore it - don't accept it or try to argue with it.

How to deal with friendship loss due to GC views by threefingersam in GenderCritical

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Lost my girlfriend due to my gender critical views (as well as some life path differences). Still don't know how to deal with it other than to give myself some love, ask myself how I'm doing, and talk to people who understand. Right now that's my sister and you guys.

TiM: "I am a biologically entity and I am female, therefore I am biologically female" there is no arguing with this level of batshit insanity by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Yeah, how would one even begin to combat this with a logical argument?

"I am biological, and I am a reptile, so therefore I am a biological reptile."

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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Now they locked the post. Wonder why? Maybe because it wasn't a 100% shower of praise and validation that they hoped for?

Early 20s single lesbians, what's the plan? by HelloMomo in Lesbians

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"Viva la Vulva!"

Or is that too obvious?

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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He never really got to grow up.

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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Sorry, but an inside-out dick is still a dick, and if you tell people otherwise, they're in for a big surprise.

These Are Not Our Crimes by yishengqingwa666 in GenderCritical

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Very useful video, thanks for posting.

Before peaking, how much of an ally were you? by Dravidian in GenderCritical

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I saw myself as being trans (though I didn't transition), so I had nothing but warm feelings for the transgender community. Then the craziness of it all hit me, and suddenly I was on GenderCritical.

So, how’s your evening going? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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I also cooked tonight. Made some chicken and dumplings. Then after eating, promptly took a too-late nap.

TERFs 😤 Stop downvoting trans people because it hurts their feelings! (I find this hilarious, I mean really?) by RedditHatesLesbians in LGBDropTheT

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Can't believe I missed this one!

Pros of being a lesbian? by Shroomba in Lesbians

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There's something beautiful about the symmetry of our bodies, and the way we already understand a few things about each other because we're both women.

TERFs 😤 Stop downvoting trans people because it hurts their feelings! (I find this hilarious, I mean really?) by RedditHatesLesbians in LGBDropTheT

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Guilty as charged, lol. I still hang out on AL sometimes and I generally downvote trans posts. I'm not a brigader - I contribute to the community.

Nothing but facts 💜 by SausageFanatic in LGBDropTheT

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He's a bit of an exhibitionist, I see. :-/

Imagine the accusations if LGB people behaved like this. Not creepy at all, right? 🤔 by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I saw this today! I had no idea he was posting this all over though.

How old were you when you found out your were LGB? by BiHorror in LGBDropTheT

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First crush on a girl: age 7

Second crush on a girl: age 11

First lesbian sex dream: age 17

First sexual desires for a woman outside of dreams: age 20

Finally accepting I'm a lesbian: almost 21

Coming out (to most people), first relationship, first kiss, first sexual experience: age 21

So it happened veerrrry slowly for me. I was homophobic for a long time, and I kept discounting female crushes and holding on to the hope that I would find the right guy someday (I never dated guys, but I still thought I'd have to marry one).

Every. Single. Time. by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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Hmm, you'd have to ask someone with CAH. I'm not intersex so I can't speak for them. I do know that there are zero XX people who can produce male gametes, so no woman has a fully-functioning penis.

Every. Single. Time. by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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Technically, there are intersex XX women with CAH who have an enlarged clitoris that looks somewhat like a penis. There may be a few other situations in which this is the case.

But the men saying this are NOT intersex. They are genetically and phenotypically male.

Sunday Social - Open Chat! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Neat! Homebrew can be great.

My recommendations? Depends on what you're into - I've only played the Star Wars Saga Edition and D&D 5e. SW Saga Edition has been fun. It's very similar to 5e. I've been playing a Force Prodigy, and there are a dizzying amount of races to choose from.

I can't yet recommend the LOTR Adventures in Middle Earth because we haven't actually started playing it yet. But I love my current group so it should be fun. I also haven't played Pathfinder so I can't compare that to 5e.

I kind of miss playing with lesbians because I'm not out to my current group. It consists of mostly my best friend's church group. But maybe someday I can get together a group of more like-minded people to play an RPG with.

Actually, good point Rose... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I think the point is that the rainbow is the most expansive flag. It was supposed to represent everyone in the LGBT already. However, there are more specific flags for smaller groups.

Actually, good point Rose... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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What's the arrow on the right supposed to be?

Sunday Social - Open Chat! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Anyone else into tabletop RPGs? I've been playing a Star Wars RPG, and am now about to begin a LOTR one with the same group. My first D&D game was with a lesbian group I found on r/truelesbians.

The actual lesbians appear to have left the building. And who can blame them? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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No thanks.

Why do so many women deny the existence of misogyny? by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical

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I heard growing up that feminism had gone too far. My dad complained about not getting promoted because of affirmative action for women. He said if I entered the tech field, I would go far, simply because tech companies were biased toward women.

I didn't want to be seen as feminist because I believed that men and women really were treated equally. Funnily enough, I grew up in a conservative Christian congregation that didn't allow women to preach or be an elder. I just couldn't see the sexism in front of my own nose.

Favourite hot beverage? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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I like fall and winter drinks a lot.

Cinnamon tea, a chai tea latte, hot chocolate, and apple cider.

Things that make you feel better when depressed by carrotcake in Lesbians

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It sounds lame, but I have a folder next to my bed which is filled with handouts from my DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) group therapy sessions. DBT was the most helpful thing I ever did for myself regarding depression. DBT teaches concrete skills to use as good coping mechanisms.

Sometimes, on bad days, it's too hard for me to even dig through the folder. For that situation, I wrote up a list - skills to use in specific situations, situations like "I can't get going" or "I feel like a total failure".

My favorite skills for use with depression:

  • Recognize that the thoughts "I am a failure", "there is no hope", or "I'll never get better" are just thoughts. While they are valid feelings, they may not be true statements.

  • Having this feeling is ok. Don't fight it, but don't accept it as true either. Simply ride the wave of your emotion as if watching it flow through your sea of thoughts.

  • Meditate (if that's something that helps). If meditation is not your thing, throw yourself into an engrossing task or physical activity, and put aside that time to one-mindedly think about that task.

  • In your mind or on paper, ask yourself how you're feeling. Describe your emotions and thoughts without judging them.

  • Check the facts of your situation to determine which thoughts are true ("I feel hopeless" is almost always true, but "I AM a hopeless person" is an overgeneralization), which ones are false, and which ones are unverifiable.

  • Look at a negative thought patterns list (like this) and notice which distortions you are using.

  • Notice if you're having an urge to do something. What is the action your feelings are motivating you toward (Is it it something ineffective, like avoidance or comfort-eating, or is it something effective, like asking a friend for support or getting out of the house?) If it's effective, do it! If it's ineffective, make yourself do the opposite thing (such as approach, don't avoid), and practice doing that every time you have an ineffective urge, until your brain learns to naturally wants to do that instead.

  • Having noticed your ineffective thoughts and actions, make an effort to accept yourself as you are, even while you strive to get better.

  • A lot of depression is built on shame. Build confidence in yourself by doing something you're good at, or making something you can be proud of. If you feel like you have no skills, build a new one.

  • Treat yourself to something positive. Make a list of things you enjoy, and do them in moderation (don't let them carry you away). Personally, I like to play music, play a mind-exercising video game, or cuddle my cat.

  • Last but not least, do good to feel good. Find something you can do that makes you feel like you've made a positive impact on the world. Turning your thoughts outward toward others can relieve some of the distress you feel.

And if none of the above are helpful, I phone a friend and we laugh together, or I talk to my psychiatrist about my medications.

Things that make you feel better when depressed by carrotcake in Lesbians

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Yesssss! I love Rite of Spring! (and the other composers you mentioned)

Biggest turn off? by ColdSoup in Lesbians

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I would agree with you there - that's pretty unattractive.

My biggest turn-off is someone who interrupts you to claim that her views are better than yours - someone who doesn't listen or even debate in a friendly way, but rather gets mad if you don't share every single idea with her. The reason this is so much of a deal-breaker to me is that I know I'm not going to share every value or view with someone, so I need someone who knows how to distinguish what's important and what's not.

Shout-out to the guy I worked with who would do this over minuscule topics, such as whether Bach was "objectively the best composer ever", or whether men could write movies from the perspective of women without consulting them. It made me realize how annoying this trait was.

Am I, a man, a lesbian? Wherein everyone says yes. by millionssomething in GenderCritical

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He posts in s/Lesbians too. :-/

Am I, a man, a lesbian? Wherein everyone says yes. by millionssomething in GenderCritical

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What?

Interesting Body Parts by [deleted] in Lesbians

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When it comes to the face, it's the eyebrows. To me, they define the face.

Am I, a man, a lesbian? Wherein everyone says yes. by millionssomething in GenderCritical

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Any lesbians who disagree know to shut up or they'll be banned.

Sucks to be a lesbian sometimes by coliemelan in Lesbians

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For me it was comphet.

Who did you get crushes on as a child? by Depressed in Lesbians

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I think it's partly because, yes, boys are pretty androgynous up until that age. And also, the sexual aspect of crushes at that point is really missing. As a child, many people develop warm, fluttery feelings about a lot of different people in a non-sexual way, and it doesn't necessarily determine who they're going to be attracted to when they grow up.

Sucks to be a lesbian sometimes by coliemelan in Lesbians

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Hey, I'm another idiot who doesn't like dick in the world with you.

Just peaked after spending some time on r/Al when questioning my sexuality. AMA if you want. by ColdSoup in Lesbians

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And their wives who are also claiming to be "lesbians".

I don't have words for the rage. Male bodies do not have periods. Or monthly cycles. Or anything of the sort by TurkishCoffee in GenderCritical

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Exactly, there is no cycle when taking estrogen continuously. What kind of cycle are they talking about if not a hormone cycle? And it's when estrogen is low that women experience PMS.

I don't have words for the rage. Male bodies do not have periods. Or monthly cycles. Or anything of the sort by TurkishCoffee in GenderCritical

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Yeah, personally, I happen to get both uterine cramps in my back and diarrhea cramps in my back, so on rare occasions they're hard to tell apart. But I know uterine cramps can feel different for different women. Just my personal experience.

Just peaked after spending some time on r/Al when questioning my sexuality. AMA if you want. by ColdSoup in Lesbians

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Some women are told sex and intimacy with men will be uncomfortable, so lesbians who are goaded into marriage with men just take it as a matter of course. They just believe they're "frigid".

I used to believe marriage would be that way when I thought I was straight. I didn't look forward to the sex, but I always thought I would have to have it with a man. I'm glad I found out about being a lesbian when I was 19-20 and not later in life after getting married to a guy and having kids with him.

Yeah, I don't think all trans people are bad either, it's the ideology I believe is harmful. Similarly, I don't believe that all conservative Christians (ones who believe that women shouldn't speak or lead a church) are bad. In fact, one is my very good friend. I just believe the ideology is bad.

Community Input: flairs, banner, design by [deleted] in LGB

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I guess what I was envisioning with the collage idea was b&w images with a rainbow overlaid. Kind of like this (quickly made this in photoshop with a random stock collage from the internet - not LGB people or anything):

https://imgur.com/5MbKEtf

Though the painting style idea u/les4les mentioned in a comment sounds cool too.

Verified Twitter user fantasizes of future where TiMs control the US and rape cis women en masse. by BrokenEarth in GenderCritical

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Meanwhile, tweeting about trans girls breeding eager cis girls as a tongue-in-cheek kink tweet to piss off TERFs...

Now he's claiming this was "tongue-in-cheek". It's always a joke when it becomes convenient. He's also complaining that the people who are criticizing his tweet are "policing" transwomen's sexuality.

some confused TME person is gonna say this tweet is misogynistic, i can feel it, it's gonna be hilarious

We're not just going to say it's misogynistic, it literally is the definition of misogyny. Oppressing, sexually assaulting, and "breeding" women simply because they are women.

Hi Ana I'm a trans man and I'd like to know if I can apply to be bred by several trans women as well

This is a tweet by a TIF, and not the only person to tweet something like this. Why do TIFs tend to have such self-hating sexualities??

This response was hilarious: https://twitter.com/shewitchery/status/1300865155102699520

And this response was right on the money:

..."initiate breeding facilities" given the history of cis women being subjected to forced breeding/raping (nazi germany, korean comfort women) in many genocide situations this is a pretty gross thing to post