I've been sharing news on my insta stories pertaining to women, without bringing up gender ideology. Today was about Posie Parker's arrest. Whenever anyone responds to my stories, I get into a conversation with them privately where I can share information and concerns more freely.

My sister was talking about how much she loves HP this week, then said "fuck jk rowling though."

The exchange that followed:

"That entire thing was blown out of proportion. People shouldn't be demonizing a woman who has done enormous good for women and children."

"Wym? I thought it was quite obvious she is transphobic"

"What did she say that was transphobic? Did you read her essay?"

"No but I saw some tweets a while back and everyone has been blowing up on Twitter about it"

Then I sent that image of "proof JKR is transphobic" with the quotes from her essay

Her: "I have been lied to 😞"

I explained that trans women are not women, that women's spaces and rights are under attack, that I support people's right to live however they want but not at the detriment of women and girls, that sexual orientation is based on sex and how seeing the silencing of women, lesbian erasure and homophobic rhetoric from TRAs is how I fell down the rabbithole and learned about gender ideology and its harms.

I sent her some Magdalen Berns videos, the Blaire White video on JKR, and the State Media doc. She's part peaked just from our conversation and said she will watch them and wants to know more.

The "cotton ceiling" horrified her. She also said that she never considered that homosexuality is based on SEX, not gender. She has a "transbian" friend so I was most afraid to talk to her, but it went shockingly well. I told her I had been called a TERF and that it has no meaning anymore.

I found this approach to be the best so far out of all the conversations I've had. Part of why it worked so well was her opening the door to talk about it, so I think my ig stories will give me more of these opportunities.