Another ''Asexuality is a spectrum!!1 There are many types of attractions!!1'' poster. Ever wonder why people don't take asexuality seriously? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Queer theory is literally based entirely on mind-numbing semantics.
Iceland now allows men to self ID into women's public swimming pool spaces where communal nude showers are mandatory. Women who object to men in their space must ask for a private facility. LGB group is fighting back. by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Why is it that when trans people are uncomfortable in a space, the other 99% of society has to rush to accommodate. But when women are uncomfortable with the new accommodations, the onus is on women to get over it and stop being a bigot?
Richard Dawkins asking why transgenderism is valid, but transracialism isn't by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
We've sort of bifurcated sex into two different things. There's the physical and biological component (i.e. sex) and the social and psychological component (i.e. gender). I've often wondered why sex is the only thing we're allowed to do this to.
Race is no different. Race has a physical and biological component, but there's also a social component. It gets into the same thing of how people perceive you vs. how you want people to perceive you.
Different races also have different cultural and performative characteristics, like with gender.
To pick sex as the only thing that people can sort of deny the physical component in favor of the psychological/social component never made sense to me.
Grindr's new Twitter image: resistance is futile, you will be assimilated by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Grindr lets you identify as a cis woman now. It stopped being a gay male space long ago.
When only a queer haircut can save your relationship from being exposed as boring old heterosexuality by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
aunt ida aunt ida yeah all right aunt ida all right mmm yeah aunt ida yeah all right aunt ida
Splatoon 3 remove gender by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical
Who's going to tell them that trans and non-binary stop existing once we get rid of gender?
Let me play this out for the next 25-50 years. We went from sex and gender are the same thing (i.e. your physical sex characteristics), to gender and sex are different, to gender trumps sex, to gender no longer exists, which will leave us - invariably - with nothing but our sexed bodies, i.e. where we fucking started!
Step 1: show this image to your local TRA. Step 2: see them struggle to explain it. Have fun :) by Destruction in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
You could take essentially any physical characteristic and try to bifurcate the physical reality and the psychology around the physical reality and do the same thing that trans people do. Utilize language to obfuscate our understanding of and ability to discuss the material reality and you'll be following the same playbook.
Where are you on the asexual spectrum? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago* (0 children)
Do we need any more proof that all of these modern day "queer" identities are an exercise in virtue signaling and self-righteousness and NOT the manifestation of any innate sexual orientation? Any legitimate "asexual" would be appalled at the idea of an asexual who likes sex. This is just a way for left-leaning people to feel progressive while also commodifying a sense of victimhood, which has become increasingly valuable over the last 10 years.
How do you feel about the word Queer? by QueenOfTheNorth in LGBDropTheT
I think it's an idiotic word. It doesn't have any tangible meaning, and it's usually used by straight liberals who want to look woke and oppressed without having to actually do or say anything differently from a "non-queer" straight person.
That said I don't think it's offensive. It's just an idiotic word used by idiotic people.
Lesbian fetishization on egg_irl by blackrainbow in LGBDropTheT
I agree. I do think we're playing fast and loose with people's mental health because doctors want to feel and be seen as saviors. And frankly, as someone who's always been a little GNC, if I were a teenager in this day and age, and if my friends were coming out as trans or non-binary, I probably would too.
[–]oyasuminasai50 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I think a lot of it is people, mainly teenagers, who hate themselves and are allured by the idea of a) blaming all their woes on gender dysphoria / transphobia and not these things that are more abstract and intangible like poor socialization, social anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, etc. and b) allured by the idea of reinventing themselves. '
They think they hate themselves because they're trans. But I think they hate themselves for some of those reasons I mentioned. There's no other explanation in my mind for why the most common onset on gender dysphoria has shifted towards adolescence.
On top of this they get what appears to be an affirming, embracing community (i.e. the T community and LGBTQ community more broadly) of people who will approve of them instantly.
An inverted penis is not a vagina! r/super_lesbian crossposted from r/superstraight by theytookourjerbs in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Some of them have that "hydraulic" device. Some have a metal wire that you can manipulate to look "erect." Many don't pursue these because they're more expensive. As such most are just literally slabs of flesh sewn onto the crotch.
[–]oyasuminasai50 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
And neither is a post-phallo dick. Can't get erect or ejaculate, it's almost literally a dangling tube of flesh.
Transgender ideology believers: "All invented sexualities are VALID!" Straight man: "I've invented a sexuality where I'm only attracted to female humans." TRAs: "INVALID" by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 21 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 4 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
This is the most significant - and brilliant - backlash against gender ideology and trans rhetoric that we've had in a long time. Perfectly exposes so many insidious TRA practices - practices that have severely undermined what it means to be LGBT. The idea that all identities are valid, the policing of language, to flip the script on them and use the same tactics against them is just beautiful. Too bad many TRAs seem too naive or narcissistic to realize this is 99% satire mocking their own insidious habits.
SuperStraight reddit sub at almost 3.5k members. by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT
Does she not realize that 99% of people aren't taking this seriously? It's brilliant satire to point out the way that the LGBT community has been bastardized over the last 10 years and the flimsy rhetoric that's been used to redefine LGBT to include everyone except 100% heterosexual, cis, monogamous, 100% gender conforming people.
I have decided to identify as trans. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
YASSS SIS! If anyone says you can't be trans then tell them to stop gatekeeping your gender. Either we accept all trans people or no trans people 😌 😌
Penis News declares a new highly-oppressed sexogenderal minority by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
It's an example of something good being taken too far. And it's a consequence of perpetual activism - fighting for something just because you want to fight for something and not because you've sat down and objectively decided with any degree of aforethought what you want the world to look like.
[–]oyasuminasai50 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Right? No one accused black people of gatekeeping when they told Rachel Dolezal to fuck off. Yet now we have to pretend that straight people who don't have romantic/sexual attraction or who want to have 3 fuck buddies at once are basically in the same boat as gays and lesbians.
Sunday Social - open chat! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT
what did everyone do today? :)
[–]oyasuminasai50 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
And I think a lot of true blue LGB people support this because then they can point around and say "look at how many LGBTQ people there are in the world!" of course when you expand the definition of queer to include pretty much anyone and everyone who wants to be included, it's a pretty easy thing to do.
but i think LGB people don't fight back against this ever expanding definition of "queer" because they're too swept up in the ideological battle of us vs. them, liberals vs. conservatives and if they can look around and point to all these millions of examples of "LGBTQ" people, then it bolsters support for the left and leftwing ideology and appears to legitimize the LGBTQ community as a whole. Even though all we're doing is just undermining the parameters around what being LGBT even means to the point where - again - it includes almost anyone who wishes to opt into the identity.
they just want to look and feel super 100% aCcEpTing (and therefore NOT conservative in the slightest!) even to the point of eroding what it means to be LGBT in the first place
[–]oyasuminasai50 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
It's really frustrating that we seem to be the only minority not allowed to set any parameters around who's allowed to be part of the community.
r/egg_irl - "No matter what, if a thought occurs to you that you are trans, and you doubt it, the thought MUST be true." Trans the gay away... by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT
"But what if my brain's convinced me that I'm trans because I'm so depressed and I just want something solid to blame it on?"
Staggering amount of self-awareness and nuance from one of the least self-aware and nuanced subreddits in existence. And really the basis of why I and all of us are (or should be) skeptical of trans-identification at face value. The consequences of erroneously believing you're trans are typically far more dire than the consequences of erroneously believing you're gay or bisexual.
Wikipedia is the most homophobic site online. Note the absence of any category with the word gay in its name by hetisachoice in LGBDropTheT
I guarantee it won't be long before those titles are changed to "Queer." So people like Jameela Jamil get to be featured.
Shut these bigots down! by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I say let them in and then watch their outrage when all the gay men ignore them because they have a vagina.
Thomas Szasz's NYT article from 42 years ago. Fairly prophetic. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
The NYT today would sooner go bankrupt than post anything as nuanced as this on trans issues.
GAY SAUNA EJECTS TRANS-IDENTIFIED FEMALE, THEN CAVES AND APOLOGIZES. Peak. by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Once we went past sex and gender are different to gender defines sex, I was completely done. Sad to see how low we've stooped.
I watched it so you don't have to: Transhood (2020) by haveanicedaytoo in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 29 insightful - 3 fun29 insightful - 2 fun30 insightful - 2 fun30 insightful - 3 fun - 2 years ago* (0 children)
Ugh. Something liberals are uniquely guilty of - certainly more so than conservatives - is this employment and manipulation of language to covey a certain morality. It's designed to prod those who are uninformed or ambivalent about the topic, or to nudge those who might fall on the right or center-right on a certain position. TERF, marriage equality, gender affirmation to me are such grossly subjective terms that liberals shoehorn in the discourse as the natural and objective, even correct way of describing these things.
The notion that "TERFs" are radical is debatable. The notion that same-sex marriage is a necessary part of equality is debatable. And what well-intentioned human WOULDN'T want to affirm another person? But to force these terms in the discourse as the true nomenclature is a manipulative albeit effective tactic employed by the Left.
How dare breast cancer victims be given mastectomies when transmen and in much greater need by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I hope in our lifetimes we get to the point where we can look back at this era of history and realize we played fast and loose with people's mental health. Lobbing off perfectly healthy body parts of people who have not been treated for deeper psychological disorders all on the altar of "inclusivity."
Using the word 'muggle' is now transphobic by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Imagine letting someone's opinion of you regularly impact your own happiness and sense of self. I take a shameless glee knowing that these people are so hurt by one person's opinion.
Philosophy Tube is coming out as a woman. Do heterosexuals outnumber homosexuals & bisexuals in the LGBTQ movement yet? by SnowAssMan in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
How can you spend decades of your life as one gender and then claim you're actually the other?
Oh those hot gay-as-fuck female himbos by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
209k likes is terrifying.
Miley Cyrus is being called a transphobe for stating that she thinks breasts are more attractive than balls. So far 2021 makes me want 2020 back. by MezozoicGay in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Whenever I hear about a celebrity cancellation, I've taken to Google recently just to see if searching the celeb's name generates any major headlines about the "incident." The outcome of that experiment shapes my understanding of whether the cancellation is as widespread as it seems, or whether it's localized to a few activists on Twitter. Luckily there's nothing about Miley Cyrus being "cancelled" on Google right now. (Sia's cancellation, by comparison, was heavily covered by publications.)
You Are Being Exploited by EndlessSunflowers in whatever
[–]oyasuminasai50 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Based on what? Technological / automation advancements that have actually made human labor less onerous?
Well, this aged poorly... - Pink News downplaying the Keira Bell trial before it happened by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Asking questions about the safety of children is transphobic.
The Utopian tomorrow we all dream off by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
God I can't wait for the they/them fad to die out.
Some gays and lesbians can apparently have children by accident with their partners, don't you forget it! by lovelyspearmint in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
So what do we now call a relationship where both people have a dick or both people have a vagina? We can't say gay anymore because that's transphobic? They're really trying to take away the language we have to talk about our same-sex attraction. And if gender is a social construct why is that the only thing they care about? Why is sex secondary to gender for them?
Remember when feminists used to talk about the women's restroom being a place for women to get away from creepy men in bars? How does that reconcile with their desire now for gender neutral restrooms?
2 years ago by oyasuminasai50 to /s/LGBDropTheT from self.LGBDropTheT
Seems like super appropriate and normal content for a lesbian sub. Totally nothing like a bunch of straight men larping as lesbians would post. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
It's often not even about "trans women" doing the assaults. It's about letting predatory men into women's spaces - many of whom are cis. Once we get into the territory of gender neutral restrooms/locker rooms, or we get into self ID, then quite literally any man can walk into a women's bathroom and no one will be able to argue that he doesn't belong there. It has nothing to do with transitioning.
Stop Gendering Genitals by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
If bodies aren't inherently gendered, then there's no reason to pursue any sort of medical transition, neither bottom surgery nor HRT. It's a major logical consistency that I've rarely seen challenged much less reconciled. It's an example of the broader logical inconsistency of "gender is made up/oppressive/a social construct and should be eradicated" and also "it's very important for people to alter their bodies to coincide with their gender."
Who are the transgender-identified "colonizers" of LGB subreddits? - A breakdown by subreddit overlap by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT
Uh... Is any sub on reddit free from this shit? by powpowpowpow in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 16 insightful - 7 fun16 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 7 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
ugh look at this modern day Mother Theresa being so accepting of trans women let's give her all the woke points
Now you don't even need to be trans in order to be trans? by ralph in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Pretty gross how they 1) have to inflate trans death statistics to strengthen their argument, and b) even the inflated metrics still show that trans and non-binary individuals are not killed more often than their "cis" peers.
‘Women’ or ‘vagina owners’? Teen Vogue’s publication of ‘masturbation guide’ mocked for advances in woke linguistics by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
If and when there's some backlash against TRA rhetoric, I imagine it will look like this: feminists of the future who object to being dehumanized for the sake of being "inclusive" of a <0.5% of the population.
Ah yes, Homophobia. How incredibly progressive and woke!! by Beryl in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Because they know deep down they're AFABs attracted to AMABs aka straight. Long history of straight people being homophobic.
Of course there's no explanation. by zerosis in LGBDropTheT
Right? How did we lose the plot so quickly? Remember when we used to talk about rape culture and sexual entitlement? Haven't heard nary a whisper of those things from activists in at least 5 years.
Physically indistinguishable from a cis gay man by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
Except, you know, the ability to get an erection or ejaculate.
Now it's transphobic to reject mtfs with neovaginas by blackrainbow in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun - 2 years ago* (0 children)
Who cares if it's transphobic or not? The fact of the matter is that the vast majority of people have a preference for one type of natural genitals. Period. Doesn't matter if it's transphobic or not at the end of the day. No amount of calling people transphobic is going to get people to be attracted to your genitals. These people will have to accept that sooner or later.
Do trans identified females really "pass" as men after taking hormones and going through the "body masculinization surgery"? Or do these women lie when they say to gay men that they "pass" as men after the "body masculinization procedures"? by GarageCar in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Funny how they use a stock image of what I can only assume is a cis man to sell trans men on plastic surgery.
ActualLesbians mods are gutter trash lmao by marmorsymphata in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
What do they think lesbians are attracted to? Female stereotypes?
Fucking pussies by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I think my local library just pulled Abigail Shrier's "Irreversible Damage" from its shelves-- anyone else have this experience? by clarysage4 in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
No library in my entire state has the book unfortunately. I did buy it on Amazon for myself but sad to see that it's not available through the public libraries.
Joe Biden Tweets Transgender Remembrance by Spicylikegumbo in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
These are good statistics. It's a dishonest metric, there's no two ways about it. And frankly, several years ago, I probably believed it. It's frightening how the culture today allows such misinformation to spread. And there's almost no room to set the record straight because it will be viewed as bigoted towards a certain group, even if you're unequivocally correct.
And this is why I'm skeptical of some nonprofits - like the HRC - whose funding relies on constantly drumming up panic around a social problem that is largely dissipating (anti-LGBT discrimination). It allows dishonesty to flourish.
[–]oyasuminasai50 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
If you use 0.6% of the population are trans as you did vs. 0.5% like I did then you do get closer to 1.85. You could round and say 2 per 100,000 trans people are murdered, compared to 5 per 100,000 which is what I saw as the murder rate for the general population.
Louder for the back by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
The LGBT community in 2020 is the Hogwarts Sorting Hat for Gen Z'ers. Everyone just loves having their little groups and labels that make them feel unique while also giving them a sense of community.
"Sir! This is r/AskGayMen! We will not have any of this 'homosexual' business here!" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Goes to show how uneducated these idiots really are. Bottom surgeries, especially phallos, are far and away not going to resemble a cis penis in neither form nor function. There is generally no erotic sensation they feel in the penis. There is no ejaculation, no natural erection (only a "rod" or some pumping mechanism).
[–]oyasuminasai50 32 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 0 fun33 insightful - 0 fun33 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I absolutely loathe this line of thinking. Yes, gay people were oppressed, rejected, and marginalized. That doesn't mean we need to turn around and accept absolutely everyone into the LGBT community. We still need to draw a line somewhere. And besides, this isn't even a conversation on accepting people into the LGBT community - it's a conversation on who we should be open to fucking. So we shouldn't have genital preferences because gay people were rejected? Come on. Horrifying logic.
A post on r/me_irlgbt about breaking up with someone when they reveal they are trans. Comments are prime peak material by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
Yeah, it's basically for show and also to pee out of. I mean, if it makes you happy, good for you. But let's be truthful that apart from the appearance* and for peeing, it has very little of the same functionality as a real penis.
[–]oyasuminasai50 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
There's also a lot of misinformation about the extent to which bottom surgery emulates "real" genitals. A trans man most certainly cannot get a real erection (i.e. a natural reaction to physical/visual stimuli). As I understand, many phallo surgeries do not include any way to have the "penis" stand erect. If it does, one option is either a flexible metal rod that the trans man can "stand up." And the other is a pump that lives in the "scrotum" that the trans man squeezes.
Also, of course, no way to ejaculate. And, let's be frank, a pleasant part of sex for many people is making their partner orgasm.
[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago* (0 children)
37 trans/GNC people murdered. Let's say that 0.5% of the American population is trans/GNC. So that's about 1,640,000 trans/GNC people. 37 of 1,640,000 is 2.26 murders per 100,000. That statistic for the general American population is 5.0 per 100,000. So you're actually less likely to be murdered if you're trans/GNC. And that gap is far too large to be due to any significant "under-reporting" of trans/GNC homicides. That would imply that trans homicides are only correctly identified as such ~30% of the time.
But people will just like and retweet this highly misleading statistic time and time again.
No one deserves to die because of their gender identity. But we don't need to peddle myths to have a conversation about anti-LGBT hate crimes.
Saying no to penis is not hate speech. by jet199 in GenderCritical
"biological male" is a "TERF buzzword" yet they don't deny that sex is real? Come the fuck on.
Does anyone else lose respect for people when they put their (very obvious) pronouns in their social media bios? by arcticbasket in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 36 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 0 fun37 insightful - 0 fun37 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
These people "assume" people's pronouns all day, every day. It's impossible not to do this. Go to a restaurant:
person 1: where is the server?
person 2 (wokester): she's over there, let me wave her down.
BOOM! you just assumed her pronouns!
Like, are these people going out to waiters and cashiers and asking their pronouns before they proceed with the interaction? of course not.
the whole pronoun in the bio thing is another example of unsubstantiated woke bullshit, slacktivist nonsense of people doing the bare minimum to feel good about themselves, like they're making any sort of difference in the world.
Badmensanatomy post turns into a homophobic dumpster fire and woke asskissing fest by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Why is it so bad to say that trans men and cis men are biologically different and will always be biologically different? Why do we have to act like trans people can be biologically indistinguishable from their desired sex?
Trans women drop-kicked and stamped on man, 19, outside Tube station by alttrawl in GenderCritical
Anddddd this is the necessary consequence of the idea that words are violence. If words can be violent, then kicking and punches are only a natural and justified response.
They didn't understand that this post maybe was directed to the "transbians" on AL by blackrainbow in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 24 insightful - 3 fun24 insightful - 2 fun25 insightful - 2 fun25 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
All of the tone deaf comments are from trans women. Could it be that living life as a certain sex and spending most if not all of your formative years as that sex MIGHT prevent you from seeing things from the POV of the opposite sex? And that that might be an irrevocable blind spot for you?? Is that possible????
What do you think about TQ+? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
This most aligns with my own views. I do believe people with gender dysphoria should be able to live their lives as the opposite sex, and that the polite thing to do is to treat them as their desired sex.
The policing of people's language is strike one for me.
This idea that we can't even acknowledge that trans men have female bodies or that trans women have male bodies.
How the dialogue begins and ends at "Trans women are women," as if there's not an ounce of nuance to that statement.
How even broaching the topic of nuance in this case is strictly prohibited in left-leaning circles.
How the onus is on all of us to speak in a way so as to contemplate 0.5% of the population at all times.
How there is no room to discuss the degree to which the rise in trans identification could be comorbid with mental disorders.
I could go on.
Jk Rowling never posted this... they faked it by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Unfortunately, liberal politics these days follows a very strict and ever-changing narrative. One step out of line and you're in for a public flogging. Asking reasonable questions about trans as a social contagion or the impact of women's rights is strictly prohibited.
/r/LGBT debates whether a straight man in a dress is part our "our community". by artetolife in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Ah, who am I kidding? In 2020, LGBT people banding together under the same banner isn't about political and social survival anymore. It's one step above a book club. Anyone can join, existing to give people a sense of belonging. The "gates open, come on in" attitude of today's "LGBT" community proves that.
[–]oyasuminasai50 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Excellent! One more letter to add to the never-ending acronym! LGBTQIAC+!
The sad thing is, a lot of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people have faced rejection in their lives that they think they need to take it so far in the opposite direction that they don't want to reject anybody. A tiny bit of gatekeeping is OKAY. We can still love and respect cross-dressers while at the same time not feeling like they belong in the LGBT community. Being gay is immutable. Your choice of clothes is not.
Are teenagers (especially girls) mistaking the awkwardness and discomfort that they feel towards their pubescent bodies for gender dysphoria? by oyasuminasai50 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
You're getting defensive for no reason. I wasn't challenging what you said. I'm drawing a parallel between what we're seeing today with trans teens and what we saw 10 years ago. As in, "Teens are drawn to trans ideology as a manifestation of their anxiety and low self-esteem, much like anorexic teens of the past, or teens who committed self-harm, or teens drawn to emo or punk sub-culture. However, what makes this phenomenon so much different from those phenomena of yesteryear is the backing of powerful nonprofits like HRC and GLAAD as well as the medical establishment." As in, I was drawing a contrast with the trans movement, not anything you said. I'm sorry if you read it that way.
Turning tide: Target removes "Irreversible Damage" book; adds it back after protests by QueenBread in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Remember when liberals used to mock puritanical Christians for wanting to ban books and for imposing thier morals onto others? Oh how times change.
[–]oyasuminasai50[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Thanks for your comment and for sharing your backstory. I've been following Abagail Shrier's work, which partly inspired me to make this post to begin with. I do strongly believe that much of the increase in trans identification is social contagion.
However, the trans phenomenon has so many dangerous drivers that self-harm, anorexia, or counter-culture movements like emo and punk didn't have. That schools and nonprofits are actually affirming these tendencies and behaviors. Especially after gay marriage was legalized, activists and non-profits had to shift their focus to a new cause, and that shift was largely towards trans issues.
So, I made a post on r/ChangeMyView that received several hundred upvotes, the post was simply expressing my distaste with the modern LGBT community's willingness to be knowingly commercialised for monetary gain. I get accused of transphobia and internalised homophobia somehow. by Smolders1 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
The legalization of gay marriage was the worst thing to happen to these people. Suddenly they didn't have a material, significant political cause to fight for. Now they have to whine about the most insignificant things to muster the same sense of moral/intellectual superiority. They actually like it when people are biogted because it gives them an opportunity to virtue signal in front of everyone and get that sweet upvote/like button-induced dopamine boost.
By wearing a dress on the cover of Vogue while still identifying as a man, Harry Styles has done more to challenge gender than anything Sam Smith has ever done. by oyasuminasai50 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
People are confused as to why Lil Nas X was not on the cover. Yeah, you know, that one hit wonder from two years ago? Over Harry Styles who's had an enduring and successful career for over a decade? Can't possibly understand why Vogue went in the direction they did...
[–]oyasuminasai50[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I think social media more broadly is to blame. Puberty is an awkward time as is, and it's a vulnerable, confusing, and even sometimes scary time, especially for teenage girls. And now we live in a culture where the emphasis on your appearance has been amplified. The ability to make targeted attacks against people has been amplified in the form of social media and cyberbullying. And I think a lot of teenage girls are having a very difficult time navigating through all of that.
Remember when the dialogue not too long ago was how harmful all of those photoshopped models on the magazines were? Now think of how many photoshopped images of people's faces and bodies we see a day compared to then thanks to Instagram and Facebook. It's increased tenfold.
While I do think there is an organic rise in trans identification as a result of rising acceptance, there is no doubt in my mind that social media has sowed extreme confusion, anxiety, and fear into teenagers. And that being trans is seen as a way to cope with a pubescent experience that is three times as uncomfortable and embarrassing as it used to be.
By wearing a dress on the cover of Vogue while still identifying as a man, Harry Styles has done more to challenge gender than anything Sam Smith has ever done.
3 years ago by oyasuminasai50 to /s/LGBDropTheT from self.LGBDropTheT
Are teenagers (especially girls) mistaking the awkwardness and discomfort that they feel towards their pubescent bodies for gender dysphoria?
Sam Smith: “It’s been really, really hard to see all the backlash and the amount of people that are still so unsupportive of gender nonconforming people and trans people all around the world” by MinisterOfTerfery in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
How can you be GNC yet believe that being GNC means you have no gender at all? Isn't that conforming to gender? GNC would mean identifying as male yet not conforming to traditionally male things. Being gender conforming is saying, if I don't like male things, my gender must not be male. Which is conforming to gender. It's just... how do these people think they're actually DOING anything? How do they think they're the most progressive among all of us?
Surprised to see a lot of rational people in the comments. When Buzzfeed commenters are getting sick of woke identity politics and trans/NB nonsense, you know your movement is losing.
So many of thembians by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Why is the pfp ALWAYS a cartoon character? Why??? It's quite literally ALWAYS a cartoon character. It's just so patently obvious these are children (or people who have the psychological development of children) with deeper issues pertaining to anxiety and low self-esteem. Gender identity issues are the symptom, not the cause.
Harvard Med on twitter calling pregnant women "birthing people". by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Please tell me how many people out there giving birth identify as trans or non-binary. Please. I guarantee it's around 0.01% of all bIrThInG pEoPLe.
Isn't "Self ID" just setting up the gender ideologues up for a hostile takeover? by yousaythosethings in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago* (0 children)
What is stopping any normal man or woman from declaring themselves to be a transwoman and then becoming a spokeswoman for the GC viewpoint?
What is stopping any normal man or woman from declaring themselves to be a transwoman and then becoming a spokeswoman for the GC viewpoint?
This is the necessary consequence of the "gates open, come on in" attitude that has typified the LGBT community in recent decades. Will they (we) ever learn that a little bit of gatekeeping is okay?
Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT
Not banned, but I had a comment removed from r/lgbt a few days ago.
Top post was complaining about cis people. One of the heavily downvoted comments was someone offended that they would make a blanket statement about cis people. Reply to that comment said there's an "implied" some/most/many when they talk about cis people and they don't literally mean ALL cis people.
My thought was, well, when we say women menstruate or men have penises, isn't there any implied some/most/many in that example too? But no, in that case, it's "don't conflate sex and gender!" or "reminder that some women have penises!"
Sadly my comment got removed before I could get what I'm sure would have been a ridiculous reply.
Sam Smith talks about wanting kids: "I want to be with the kids and I want to watch them grow and be with them every day. I want to be mummy." by radmoon in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 45 insightful - 1 fun45 insightful - 0 fun46 insightful - 0 fun46 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Jesus Christ. Imagine thinking you have to be a woman to look after children? Or that wanting to care for children makes you more womanly? Horseshoe theory strikes again! And these people really think they’re the most progressive among us all on gender? No one peddles gender stereotypes more than non-binary people.
AITA comments surprisingly sane! Woman wants a radfem as her maid of honor, random cousins want to boycott. Top comments are dumb, but if you scroll a bit it is reassuring! Most people say "uh yeah, have your friends and just don't talk politics at your WEDDING" by JoanofArc5 in GenderCritical
No idea what the MOH said and the assumption is that she’s a transphobe and instantly vilified. You have to do and say 100% as TRAs want without any nuance or else you instantly endure their wrath. If that’s not culty I don’t know what is.
BREAKING: The flu is transphobic!!!! by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 33 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 0 fun34 insightful - 0 fun34 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago* (0 children)
I genuinely believe I could see eye-to-eye with contemporary TRAs if they could JUST acknowledge that trans people are their biological sex, and that that has certain implications. Social, physiological, and otherwise.
I refuse to entertain the notion that trans women are biologically female and therefore wholly indistinguishable from a “cis” woman.
I’m not a fan of her, but Amy Coney Barrett was criticized by the HRC for referring to a trans woman as a “physiological male.” For stating a fucking fact! We can’t even say that trans women have male bodies? But then they’ll claim they don’t deny that sex is real. Utter bullshit.
Guess what. If Roe v. Wade is overturned, trans women won’t be impacted one bit.
This man is upset that he cant become accidentally pregnant....because thats what all women hope for, obviously. by Twobigdogs in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
How is it not loud and clear for every brain dead TRA that being trans is so often predicated on these horrifically shallow, insidious, and exaggerated notions of what it means to be male/female to someone who was typically not born and raised as that sex and has never spent any time in the physical body of the other sex?
News flash! Living with a uterus and being raised as a girl and female teenager is going to give you life experiences that distinguishes you from someone who has never had uterus and has never spent their most formative and vulnerable years as a female. The TWAW mantra completely eradicates this critical distinction.
Target doesn’t have the second series of Harry Potter minifigs, and I’m suspicious by NDG in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I was just at Target and saw a bunch of Harry Potter Halloween costumes on an end cap. Might just be your local store.
Julia Long: "It was a very smart move to write a book about a transvestite serial killer..." by yishengqingwa666 in GenderCritical
It’s absolutely harrowing how quickly these days abstractions of the truth are reported and accepted as fact. Almost instantly.
Hagrid actor Robbie Coltrane defends JK Rowling in trans row by ekitten in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 65 insightful - 23 fun65 insightful - 22 fun66 insightful - 22 fun66 insightful - 23 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Finally, one other celebrity who isn’t afraid of a bunch of 18 y/o anime addicts.
This is how TQ is redefining language in books for youth. by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I can jive with their definition of gender. And I can jive with their definition of gay IF you go by the conventional definition of gender as a synonym for sex. But their definition of “gay” and “gender” are wholly incompatible.
Gay people are attracted to the same gender. OK. Fine if you consider gender and sex the same. But going by their own definition of gender, they’re saying gay is attraction to... the way someone thinks about themselves? So if I’m a gay man, and someone - let’s say Charlize Theron - comes out as a trans man tomorrow, without doing anything different with her body or physical appearance, am I supposed to be any more attracted to her?
If we say being gay is attraction to what someone is “supposed to look like,” are we saying that being gay is attraction to culturally-defined norms? Because that’s what you’re saying when you say what someone is “supposed to look like.” So if Charlie Theron gives herself a buzz cut and throws on a flannel shirt, NOW I should be attracted to her?
As soon as we start to believe that being gay is based on culturally-defined norms of gender, then it’s impossible to be born gay. You can’t be innately attracted to something socially constructed. It’s ipso facto a logical inconsistency.
Americans, how angry do you want to get today? by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Thank god we’ve strung together a bunch of disparate political, social, and economic viewpoints into one image so I can conveniently understand what I should believe as a liberal without having to come to my own independent conclusion on a myriad of different topics.
God forbid your meme reminds TW they don't belong to the lesbian community by LasagnaRossa in LGBDropTheT
[–]oyasuminasai50 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Imagine giving a flying fuck what random internet people think of you.
These people are so completely and utterly scared of being called a -phobe that they’re genuinely trying to say that there is a material difference between a dick on someone that calls himself a he and a dick on someone that calls herself a she.
Difference between LGB and TQ: gay people just want to be able to exist in private, TQ wants to be accommodated and centred at all times and for everyone to tiptoe around them. by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical
This was done exactly by design. Nonprofits exist only as long as the social problems that they’re - ostensibly - trying to fix. If LGBT gain several significant legal victories, and if social acceptance continues to reach new highs, then funding will start to decline.
GLAAD has a vested interest in constantly sounding the alarm on LGBT rights regardless of how much progress we’ve made.
I shaved my head, I'm not a woman anymore! by Beth-BR in GenderCritical
It's the strangest thing. We're assigning a whole "identity" to something that has been part of the human experience for as long as gender roles have existed.
This is the problem with the enby/GNC shit. "I'm not comfortable with embodying literally every single gender stereotype" now has this ~special~ label whereas before it just fucking WAS. And the goal was to show, hey, you can be a man or woman and you don't have to pay any mind to gender stereotypes! GNC doesn't eradicate those stereotypes. It doesn't subvert them. It literally condones them.
Because now "I'm a woman who doesn't like woman things" now means you're not a woman at all (meaning being a woman IS being all those stereotypes). Instead of "I'm a woman who doesn't like woman things but I'm still a woman" which would ACTUALLY challenge gender roles.
Anyone else enjoy being told you perpetuate white cishet standards while looking to date? No one? Me either. by killerjen231 in LGBDropTheT
I wouldn't have deigned to give such an arrogant person such a congenial reply.
Explanation of non-binary that's not sexist? by bradjohnsonishere2 in GenderCritical
[–]oyasuminasai50 68 insightful - 23 fun68 insightful - 22 fun69 insightful - 22 fun69 insightful - 23 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Being enby challenges the gender binary the same way being a non-voter challenges the two party political system in America... which is to say, not one fucking bit.
"A women is a gender identity which is more akin to being a man" by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical
Who's gonna tell her that now TRAs oppose the usage of the terms male and female to refer to biology?
"Is it okay for me to be a lesbian and not like penises" (Actuallesbians) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT
Imagine caring what random people on the Internet think about you and your tastes? One of the beautiful things about leaving adolescence and young adulthood... you stop giving a fuck what strangers think.
CNN calls women "individuals with a cervix" but prostate-havers are still "men" by Terfenclaw in GenderCritical
There's also the laughable claim that TERFs are obsessed with genitals. Ironic that now TRAs preferred nomenclature groups all of humanity by exactly that.