What's wrong with being a gold star lesbian? by Gynephile in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 31 insightful - 5 fun31 insightful - 4 fun32 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Nope. GoldStars are awesome!

FIRE RELIEF for Lesbian Womyn of Southern Oregon by lairacunda in Lesbians

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I'm just passing it along but, it's not ironic. It's an alternate niche spelling. Anyway, it would be a shame if anyone decided not to support lesbians who've lost their homes due to the spelling of one word.

FIRE RELIEF for Lesbian Womyn of Southern Oregon by lairacunda in Lesbians

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The fires in California, Oregon and Washington states have devastated many communities on the West Coast, including lesbian communities in rural, wooded areas. This GoFundMe for Wild Womyn of Rogue Valley will go to support lesbains who have been directly impacted by the fires. Please share this link.

To donate outside of the gofundme you can make checks payable to "Wild Womyn of Rogue Valley" and send to:

Sandy Pool c/o WWRV PO Box 4383 Medford, OR 97501

Thank you for your support.

Losing respect for people by Barber_Acrobatic in GenderCritical

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Not Hannah! Well she's smart so. maybe she'll snap out of it.

Losing respect for people by Barber_Acrobatic in GenderCritical

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I would actually encourage them to buy more books to burn. New ones of course.

Where do I go to safely find GC community in real life? by watermelonsappho in GenderCritical

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I don't have any good advice that isn't also dangerous. If you become the woman everyone knows is a TERF, you will lose your community. The only upside is that like-minded women may (or not) approach you. If you meet people in your area online and vet them well, you may be able to meet women IRL. I would not go meet them alone the first time. I've heard some people say that they confided in one dear friend who didn't necessarily ditch them. Have also heard of this backfiring. Your best IRL options if Covid ever lifts, might be to find the music festivals.

Hey! I don't know If you would be interested, but... by PM_Me_Your_Tits_Ladi in GenderCritical

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So if they can identify as "women" what makes you think they can't identify as "cis"?

I don't like that the name validates their fake terminology. My $.02.

Americans: If you have been affected by the Reddit banning wave, the FCC would like to hear from you by SanityIsGC in GenderCritical

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Amy Goodman know how to pick her battles. At the end of the day she's a chickenshit when it comes to trans. It's not possible that she doesn't understand the issues or the implications. She knows that if she ever pronounced herself publicly as GC, if indeed she is, she would be deluged with an onslaught of hate, she would be deplatformed and would lose funding, position and status. She would probably lose her pension as well since KPFA is basically some type of collective. In short her entire community would turn against her. I held hope that she's biding her time but now I'm not so sure. There would have to be a massive change of opinion on the so-called left for AG to actually do any real reporting on trans.

r/periods got brigaded today. how long till they go the way of r/pcos? by spicyramen in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

YES!

Serious question.Could the LGB community get free from harassment from trans people by asserting their "cis" attractions to be fetishes? by SanityIsGC in GenderCritical

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Would it were that simple!

Serious question.Could the LGB community get free from harassment from trans people by asserting their "cis" attractions to be fetishes? by SanityIsGC in GenderCritical

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Depends. Gay men can and do establish boundaries and gay spaces that are respected. In theory they could get sued for discrimination, in the US anyway, but the truth is they rarely do. Female socialization is such that those 'exclusionary" policies are rarely challenged and most women (except traditionally, faghags - straight women who like gay men) aren't going to go to the club or bar and make a nuisance of themselves. Gay and Bi men who only want to be around other men don't usually have a problem finding them.

Lesbians on the other hand are basically shit out of luck. Women who try to establish women-only clubs will probably get sued. Announcing or publicizing events acts like a beacon for males. Men can and do bully themselves into spaces or else they try to sneak in. For them it's one big game of boys going where they are told not to go. Female socialization makes it difficult for many women to argue and stand our ground. Physical differences in strength and build make it improbable the interloper will be ejected. On top of that there is a never-ending parade of handmaidens willing to bring in their "girlfriend". There are also practically NO lesbian (or even just women-only) spaces or events left anywhere for lesbians to enjoy or males to invade. The current lesbian bumper-crop has no conception of what it means to be in women-only environments.

My report from London today by CastleHoward in GenderCritical

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"I can't wait to see the backside of this whole woman-hating movement..." Really? I just see asses all over the place.

How straight women react to butches / women they clock as lesbians by Innisfree in Lesbians

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Butch is a woman who doesn't perform the gender stereotypes allotted to females.

How straight women react to butches / women they clock as lesbians by Innisfree in Lesbians

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I had one male friend for a few years. Can't remember now why I thought it was a good idea. Maybe because he was gay and pretty innocuous and we had some things in common. The thing I started to notice at some point was that my expectations of him were a lot lower than for women. He mostly used me for emotional support when things got rough for him. He was nice but bland.

How straight women react to butches / women they clock as lesbians by Innisfree in Lesbians

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I know, isn't that hilarious? I look and laugh when that happens.

How straight women react to butches / women they clock as lesbians by Innisfree in Lesbians

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I'm not sure if this is true or not but here's a theory.

Lesbians, especially life-long lesbians, are a lot less guarded with women than straight women would be. So there we are, having a relaxed, casual conversation or small talk with another woman and of course we get clocked. The straight woman interprets the relaxed manner as a... testing of the waters on our part. They don't understand that there's nothing more to it and it's just the way we are.

Also, a lot of straight women won't do anything without first checking in with their owner that's why every other word is "my husband/boyfriend". They could set the terms of their lives but instead they let the man do it for them.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

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I know of one who died a few months ago, friend of a friend. Massive cancer and organ failure. Early 50s. Too young in my opinion.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Listen, I'm not sure what point you're trying to make with this non-sequitur. We were talking about people transing their animals and giving them a fictional gender-identity. Then you come out of RIGHT field with "some silly people claim their animals are same-sex attracted". So just clarify, TRANS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LGB. SSA is a real thing, it doesn't need props or medicalization or invented "identities". Please stop being such a homophobe. Homophobia like yours makes gullible and vulnerable people want to opt out of their biological sex.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

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Males should be barred from gynecology, among other professions.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 6 fun6 insightful - 5 fun7 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

I’ve never had my vet ask me what gender my dog is.

That's only because people haven't started transing their dogs yet. Give it a couple of years.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

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Well, no. That would involve facing reality at least once a year.

TiF is really pleased to get mistaken for a man by doctors. When TiF is nearly killed because doctors think she's a man it's all their fault. by jet199 in GenderCritical

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Of course some would wonder if the kidney failure and high rates of cancer could have any relation to hormone "therapy" and medicalization.

I just got broken up with because my girlfriend decided she is trans. by TarshishJupiter in GenderCritical

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I know it's hard but understand she's doing you a favor. What would it be like to be in a relationship with her demanding validation for her delusion, knowing the T was destroying her and setting her up for a lifetime of medical complications? And all the while having to keep silent about what you know? Not hat it's worth anything but, she'll remember you and rue the day she dumped you when she's stone-cold sober in a few years.

For something positive - shall we share our own empowering moments as WOMEN? by vitunrotta in GenderCritical

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And emotional support for every basket case who wants to bounce his insecurities off you and get an ego boost.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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The men paying child support have sired an offspring... probably consensually and intentionally.

Senator Wiener of California...Some people say it's pushing for legalizing sex with minors as long as you are not over 10 years older than the minor.. Read the bill by joeytundra in GenderCritical

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The far-right is wrong about a lot of things. Historically it is also wrong about the LGB Liberation movement which it has opposed since its inception. Also, they are opposed to trans but for the wrong reasons. The irony here is that the trans agenda is inherently conservative because it enshrines sex-based stereotypes just like the far right and the religious right. What the right wants and what radical feminists want are at opposite ends. You're basically arguing that decriminalizing SSA led to pedophilia. That is insanely homophobic and ignores that most pedophiles are men who prey on girls.

Question for GC: Can you explain why a neopenis/phalloplasty is not a penis? If a man is something with a penis, then if a man removes all of his genitals in surgery, why will he still remain a man after surgery? by GarageCar in GenderCriticalGuys

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I bet you can understand why a cheap Calvin Klein knock-off is not the real thing. This shouldn't be that difficult for you.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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The trans-industrial complex is heavily monetized. It has deep pockets because some thinktank decided creating a "need " for transition would be the next, big thing. That's why it's getting pushed in schools and throughout society. We are being desensitized into accepting this new reality as normal.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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Hey Yish! I missed you.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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N0 actually, his views DON'T matter. Please stop feeding this pap to adult male children.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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What you need to understand is that reproduction, who gets to be born and who doesn't, is a female prerogative. Males have no business even having an opinion on this. MALES ARE NOT IN CHARGE OF REPRODUCTION. The only say you get is whether or not you are willing to have sex with a woman who wants to have sex with you. The End.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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The "treatment other than sex-change" is to learn to love yourself, stop listening to propagandized social media and conservatives who tell you you are wrong for not conforming to sex-role stereotypes.

The 40% trans-suicide stat is a complete lie. If it were true they would be .0006% of the population instead of .0010%.

Unlikely Ally by SterlingRoark in GenderCritical

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You're not an ally.

I think I'm having a stroke. by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Because the more you tell a lie, the truer it becomes!

Senator Wiener of California...Some people say it's pushing for legalizing sex with minors as long as you are not over 10 years older than the minor.. Read the bill by joeytundra in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

By "this" you mean what exactly? Gay marriage? The decriminalization of gay sex? The far-right has been saying that about almost everything LGB for a long time. Usually they are wrong.

Senator Wiener of California...Some people say it's pushing for legalizing sex with minors as long as you are not over 10 years older than the minor.. Read the bill by joeytundra in GenderCritical

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So they think it's okay for a 20 y.o. to have sex with a 10 y.o.

"*I'm A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here's Why I Love It So Much.*" - HP gender propaganda piece written by a seriously disturbed individual by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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It reads like someone's kink. Though that's not the only reason it feels so dirty.

"*I'm A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here's Why I Love It So Much.*" - HP gender propaganda piece written by a seriously disturbed individual by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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No, it's a TIF wannabe. She's an adult. Probably has real, so-called "health insurance. She could trans any time she wanted. But she won't because she probably knows all too well just how dangerous it is to be medicalized and get body parts chopped off. No, it's good enough for the kids but not for their caretakers. She's a criminal.

"*I'm A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here's Why I Love It So Much.*" - HP gender propaganda piece written by a seriously disturbed individual by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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I guess I was expecting a sober, dignified account

Nah, this is The Huffpost we're talking about. They pander to the trans lobby.

Federal appeals court: Male-only draft is constitutional MRAs stepping up for "equality" by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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Off-topic but, I haven't heard your user name in decades!

"*I'm A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here's Why I Love It So Much.*" - HP gender propaganda piece written by a seriously disturbed individual by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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Personally, I think this reads like a dystopian nightmare.

"*I'm A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here's Why I Love It So Much.*" - HP gender propaganda piece written by a seriously disturbed individual by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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THIS IS THE ARTICLE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO CLICK ON THE LINK

I’m A Nurse Who Cares For Gender Surgery Patients. Here’s Why I Love It So Much. “It’s terribly lonely to have people know you as an incomplete or incorrect version of yourself.”

Holly Lorka Guest Writer

I’m an intensive care unit nurse in Austin. I work with the number one gender confirmation surgical team in the world, in a tiny hospital, in the middle of Texas. I get to tell my dad and strangers at parties, “I help make dicks and vaginas,” and that’s really fun, because my dad gets embarrassed easily. But what I should say is, “I help make people whole,” because that’s actually what my job is.

When my groggy patients open their eyes for the first time after surgery, I say, “Congratulations! Want to see?” I gently pull back the covers to reveal their new and appropriate parts and they well up with tears and then I well up with tears and we celebrate with morphine, because gender confirmation surgery hurts. As they nod back off I pat their hand and walk away, thinking, Goodnight, little bunny.

When people ask me why I became a nurse, I have to tell them, “I don’t really know.” My college was paid for by an academic scholarship, and I thought I might use it to become an artist, or a writer, or an archeologist. My parents, who desperately wanted me to have a stable job with an actual income, put me on the phone with my aunt, who was a nurse. She told me all about job security, only working three days a week, and getting to wear pajamas to work. I loved science and biology and pajamas and thought, why not?

After I graduated I was very lucky and got hired into a cardiovascular ICU, where we took care of patients after their open-heart surgery. This was a trial by fire, and I went home after my shifts for the first two years to cry and drink a lot. People were code-bluing left and right, I had to yell “CLEAR” almost every shift (yes, we do that in real life), and I gave countless units of blood. It was hard, but it was also exciting and challenging, and I dug it. I liked it so much, in fact, that I got a tattoo of an anatomical heart on my arm.

Fifteen years into my career as a CVICU nurse, I moved to Austin and took a job at this very small hospital. Three years ago, I found out the gender confirmation team was coming to where I worked. The team wanted a small place with the right culture to ensure the proper treatment of their patients, because trans folks are often discriminated against even by medical professionals, even though gender dysphoria is a valid medical diagnosis.

The team did a check of our facility, realized we were all pretty decent humans who understood that being transgender is an actual thing, and decided to set up shop. My boss called me into her office to tell me and broke out into a big smile when she said, “They’ll need to be recovered in the ICU.”

My boss knows some things about me.

I, myself, am genderqueer. I was born into the wrong body, or more likely without the proper hormones, and ended up with a vagina where my penis was supposed to be. I was a child of the ’70’s, though, so there was no discussion of tragedies like this. I thought I was a monster, I thought I’d have to kill myself ― the usual things.

I felt trapped in a body that I didn’t recognize, and that feeling just got worse with puberty. There was nothing I could do, nowhere I could go to escape, except into my dreams, in which I was the most handsome fuckboy that ever lived.

Luckily, I was blessed with an innate sense of optimism AND really dirty dreams. So, instead of killing myself, I distracted myself with intricate blowjob fantasies and learned to cope, or at least not let my despair consume me, and I made it to the present with a great acceptance and love for who I am. Now, I know I could transition, but I have grown used to who I am and choose instead to live in the middle and have great hair and confuse lots of folks at airport security.

I don’t want to make light of this situation. I am still overcome with waves of great longing for the body I didn’t get, the identity I don’t have. It never goes away. It’s just that I have found a place to put it.

For many people, this is not possible. They cannot abide the overwhelming grief and shame of living as the wrong person; it’s terribly lonely to have people know you as an incomplete or incorrect version of yourself. With the technology we now have ― that this unique surgical team has brought to this small hospital and that I can be a part of ― we can offer people the relief that most take for granted: the chance to be their authentic selves.

Holly's memoir, out in October. SHE WRITES PRESS Holly’s memoir, out in October. Subscribe to Must Reads The internet's best stories, and interviews with their authors.

So, do you see how all of this is overwhelmingly serendipitous and important to me? I’m helping these people, and in the process, healing the version of myself that thought it had to die all those years ago. I’m using my pain and struggles to relate to my patients and let them know that they’re safe, that they’ll be well taken care of, and that they are seen. I feel so lucky that I get to be the one they wake up to, and I do my best to make it a celebration each time.

Gender confirmation surgery, otherwise known as bottom surgery, is generally the last step in a person’s transition. It’s the grand finale on their very long road. So we have a good time when we can, in between the pain meds and attempting to get out of bed for the first time and the walking in the halls with new body parts. All the while I am almost constantly examining their new dicks or vaginas to make sure everything is going well. I’m a dick expert now, folks! But I’m never getting one tattooed on my arm.

In the time of COVID-19, things are quite different. Because of lower bed availability, the number of surgeries we can do is strictly limited, so those who have been on a year-long wait list are now pushed back even further. I hate this for them.

On top of this, if they are lucky enough to make it onto our schedule and have the date stick and the operation completed, no family members are allowed in as support. Take a moment to consider that ― how frightening that must be, especially if there are complications. I do my best to step up and to be the point guard for the parents, wives and husbands, but my job is busy already. Now I need a secretary to help with all the extra communication. Newsflash: Nurses don’t get secretaries.

We are all doing our best, but this is just a little extra important to me. This isn’t a knee replacement or a cellulitis patient ― these are MY people.

Now I punch into work, get report, and do genital checks with the off-going nurses, just to make sure everything looks right. If it’s a new dick, I get to do the hard work of checking circulation every hour in between asking the patient if they want me to measure it (always met with an excited YES) and coming up with a ridiculous name for it. I love naming dicks, and I’m good at it. Just ask the patients with the dicks named Bilbo Baggins, Louis Batton, or my favorite: 7 & 7, given right after I measured it. I am very professional.

Vaginas are easier to make surgically and need less time and attention, so I don’t get to name many of them. They tend to bleed, however, and we have to put these patients in mesh panties with a pad; you’ve never seen someone so excited to wear a pad.

My job is absurd and amazing, but it can be very difficult if there is a complication. Hands down the hardest part is watching someone who has just had the biggest and most important surgery of their life suffer a serious complication. It seems really unfair that such a thing could happen after someone waits their entire life to that point to be corrected, and it breaks my heart. Even more than the code blues used to.

But when things go well, as they usually do, it’s the best feeling to discharge these patients ― to release them out into the world as their true selves with their new and improved parts.

When it’s time for them to go home, I’m always so happy to help them get dressed. Not because I’ve been staring at their genitals for days, but because it suddenly turns them into not just patients, but people who exist in their lives away from me. People who have struggled and have been brave enough to face a seemingly insurmountable problem and do something big to fix it.

I’m humbled by these people and their courage to become whole, and I get excited to see what they put on their new bodies. The guys inevitably pull out shiny gym shorts. My God, what is it with the shiny gym shorts?

The women, however, pull out all sorts of pretty things: summer dresses, cute slippers, and ALWAYS some great sunglasses ― which I let them wear in the hospital without giving them shit ― because they are newly on parade, and they’ve earned it. They’ve earned all of it.

Holly Lorka is a writer, storyteller, ICU nurse, and retired standup comedian. Her memoir, Handsome, will be released in October.

Federal appeals court: Male-only draft is constitutional MRAs stepping up for "equality" by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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Woah! Didn't even think of that. Fucking trans, the gift that keeps on TAKING!

**LGB Alliance** US Forming by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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Suddenly, it's a bad day.

Stonewall UK Drops Mermaids by lairacunda in GenderCritical

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Ugghhh!

LESBIAN FESTIVAL - This Weekend. Online. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Wow, how did I miss that? I'll have to look into it.

[RANT/CRY FOR HELP] I am exhausted I am confused and I want to figure all this out. Grappling with trans issues while discovering I am a feminist. by Elizapornberry in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Skip Feminine Mystique.

Try something from these links instead.

http://radfem.org/category/andrea-dworkin/

http://radfem.org/category/various-authors/

https://www.feministes-radicales.org/

You can change the language to English on the last one. You'll probably get a auto-translate button. Enjoy.

Need Advice for dealing with baby momma trying to trans my stepson by halebop in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If you are going to sue for custody of another woman's child, you'd best have a damn good reason. And unfortunately for you, your husband and the boy, a crazy, unstable, narcissistic mother who wants to trans her kid will not be considered a good enough reason. Find another one, or better yet, several. Prove that she endangers him in tangible ways the authorities will recognize. And don't even mention transing and the dresses. Because like you said, dresses, so what?

What's your go to lazy meal? by lmaonope333 in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Steak or hamburger patty.

LESBIAN FESTIVAL - This Weekend. Online. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not at all new the phenomenon. It's an online event. I don't know what their vetting process is or if it's even possible to have 100% certainty. I know these women are dykes committed to womyn-only.

Not sure what about the announcement screams "inclusive".

What's the deal with TIFs? by msteacherlady in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Cuz 'girls are dumb'. It's internalized misogyny.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

It's just that I've never been credentialed. Must be a new thing.

LESBIAN FESTIVAL - This Weekend. Online. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

wha...?

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Hello.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ok, now that I think about it, I can see why. They were the original purveyors of "any woman can be a lesbian". Just a hop over from anyone can be a woman. So yeah, fuck 'em.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Do you have one?

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know, it's so weird defining your lesbianism by what you don't want as opposed to what you do want.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe it's more accurate to say that lesbianism is inherently politicized.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"I wish they stayed married to men who were legally allowed to rape them instead of considering becoming an asexual or celibate woman and joining the Political Lesbian movement to live with women and be safe."

But why do you have to lie about being a lesbian?

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

POLITICAL LESBIAN DOES NOT MEAN THEY FUCKED WOMEN

That's my point exactly. And if you don't fuck women and you're a woman, how exactly is it that you are a lesbian?

You can center women, you can walk away from men and the patriarchy all you want. But fucking women is the sine qua non of being a lesbian.

We don't all "choose to explore". Even if you're comp-hetting you know you are living a lie.

You can have an unhappy, straight relationship trying to make it work and lying to yourself. Just because you go through the motions of being straight doesn't mean you ARE straight. So, "Lots of lesbians WERE “heterosexual” " is a self-cancelling statement. If they were heterosexual then they are not lesbians. If they are lesbians then they were lesbians pretending and trying to be straight.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

That's so funny. Me and countless others only ever had girl-crushes when were kids and have never been in-love with a male.

Doesn't mean some lesbians go along with societal expectations. And depending on the climate and how punitive it is towards lesbians more of us will be in the closet. That doesn't mean you choose your sexuality, only whether you will embrace it or be miserable for the rest of your life.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Many people are bisexual and can indeed choose. But the GLM wasn't happening because SJ and the other political lesbians gave us all permission and modeling to walk away from heterosexuality. Homosex and sexuality had been happening underground for forever. If anything, I'd say Gay Liberation freed people from "compulsive heterosexuality" and political lesbians took their cue from the millions of LGBs who were walking away from these oppressive institutions and also modeled themselves after the lesbian community.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Political lesbians who think people can change their sexuality have that in common with the xtian wrongwing.

I've read some SJ and she makes a lot of good points. However, as far as I know she's not a lesbian.

Whoever said imitation is the greatest form of flattery never dreamed of this scenario.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, it's a real thing. But that doesn't mean you can choose to become a lesbian. You either are or you aren't. Coming out at 40 because you've been comp-het your whole life is coming out of the closet. It doesn't mean you choose to become a lesbian. It means you choose to stop lying about it, possibly to yourself. But the proof is in the pudding and unless you're actually attracted to (only) women, you're not a lesbian but a straight or bisexual woman walking away from a dynamic that doesn't serve her. Which is fine, just don't call yourself a lesbian.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think you are giving political lesbianism as a movement and as a force way too much credit. Yes, we'd all be screwed if Women's Lib had not happened. But most of the 2nd Wave women were not lesbians, political or bona fide. In fact one of the reasons the momentum died out was because so many women married themselves into patriarchal servitude.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"lesbians [who] sleep with men", "bi women who hate men" aren't lesbians. And neither are political lesbians. You know who's been "taking men out of the equation" or rather never including them in the equation to begin with? Lesbians!

Please, JUST LET US HAVE THIS ONE LITTLE WORD TO OURSELVES!

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hahaha, what goes around comes around.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've never heard anyone say that political lesbians are responsible for the trans. What I have heard is that calling yourself a lesbian when you are not undermines lesbians.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Let me ask you something. Are you a lesbian? Are you a biological/natal female who is EXCLUSIVELY and SEXUALLY attracted to other bio/natal females?

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]lairacunda 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

We live in an era where anyone and their dog can declare themselves a lesbian, no femaleness is even required. We bona fide lesbians are quite sick of it. The loneliness and isolation, the ostracism and depression, all because we are actively prevented from finding our own and building community. So yes, I resent the term "political lesbian". Whatever else they may be, however wonderful and enlightened, lovely human beings they may be, they are not lesbians. Because a lesbian is a human female who is EXCLUSIVELY and SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to other bio/natal females. And this means something. Because it's not a "choice". Only non-lesbians wake up one morning and say, "hmm, I think I will be a lesbian". Me? I actually tried to be straight for about a year and lost my gold star. Because after "coming out" I RAN back to the soul-killing "safety" of the closet, trying to conform to a chemistry that was not mine and could never make sense on a cellular level.

The proximity of those "consensual" encounters caused me visceral PANIC, a nausea born deep within my very soul that could never be vomited into relief. Incapable of finding males even vaguely interesting let alone attractive, I went through a lesbian rite-of-passage of my generation, trying to be straight while vehemently repulsed. I went through other rites-of passage as well, like getting smacked at home and running away, getting kicked out of school for liking girls, being isolated from friends and girlfriends that I loved. I was one of the lucky ones. Had I been 10 years older I would have been electrocuted or lobotomized. Even now, women are forced-married, raped or killed. In some places that's standard for lesbians. Though it's currently way more fashionable to just trans us, sterilize us for life, give us medicalized diseases, shorten our life-spans, especially if we are gender-non-conformists which so many of us are.

So yeah, I can see how a woman who is basically straight, sees her crappy position on the gender-hierarchy, her subordinate status in an unhappy and scary relationship (where no one's going to save her) and then looks over and sees the awesome things, community, culture and equal relationships we lesbians build for ourselves when we are actually able to, (which in the 70s we were), and could maybe feel that it would be great to have those things. I can see how she could decide that by a sleight-of-hand, verbal legerdemain and adroit nomenclature, that it could all be her own as well. I get it.

I also understand that you don't need to lie about your sexuality to have women's community OR to withdraw your support from the patriarchy and its enforcers. You don't NEED to declare yourself a lesbian and pass yourself off as someone you're not. No, the only reason you would do that is if you want to violate boundaries and encroach on spaces where you would not otherwise be welcomed. So tell me why, at a time when we understand why blackface, transracialism and (hopefully here at least) transmedicalization are all a form of appropriation, it's perfectly okay to perform lesbian-face and come on a lesbian board to defend it!

Why I am deeply alarmed by reddit censorship by Jizera in MeanwhileOnReddit

[–]lairacunda 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think we're done here. Arguing this point is unproductive and we're not going to change the other's mind. Remember this conversation if you're ever in a situation where you just want some space or to be with your own but someone louder, richer, bigger and more powerful insists on joining you and being part of your group, insists on actually being you, and you're just a bigot if you don't agree, don't love them, don't want to have sex with them, be friends, etc. Remember this conversation when they get you fired from your job, stalked and doxxed for not agreeing that whoever and whatever you are, your identity, is up for grabs and that you owe them because they and their allies say so.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Educate your own self.

https://sexnotgender.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/fine_cordelia_delusions-of-gender.pdf

https://www.academia.edu/39501028/Testosterone_Rex_Myths_of_Sex_Science_and_Society_by_Cordelia_Fine

EDIT: I didn't say there are no differences between men and women. If that were the case TWs wouldn't be such a problem, right? My point is that the pink brain/blue brain framework is a genderist myth.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't mean that patriarchy got invented in the 1800s. I meant that the social sciences that explain prehistory to us are largely an invention of that generation of men.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Patriarchy seems to be a more recent development. There's evidence for sex parity in the stone age and early neolithic. The ideas contemporary society has about prehistory are based largely on the prejudices and beliefs of 19th century anthropologists, archaeologists and scientists.

The entire social engineering experiment is being funded.

Trans history and the wild west by questioningtw in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Doesn't take much!

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

By "increased tolerance towards homosexuals" you mean no more lobotomies, electroshock, burning at the stake, conversion therapy, forced marriage, corrective rape? So glad you're on board.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

1) Gay conversion therapy is still a thing. Currently it mostly flies under trans colors. Political Lesbianism was a trend among some feminists who couldn't find any other way out of the morass that is patriarchy. It probably began as a tribute. As others have explained, lesbian is something that happens in the woman lane. Just like MSM, gay, biman all happen in the guy lane. JB's claim never left her lane. As a woman, it was a perfectly feasible claim. The fact that it's a lie is beside the point. 2) Crap dude, were the female mathematicians saying this?
3) Sounds like you're just here to give the women a scolding for daring to question the values reflected in common usage. Your analogy falls flat because feminist language analysis, never had anything to do with hurt feelings and everything to do with the enforcement of the male hierarchy through language and the possibility of female liberation through language. You cannot give me one example of feminist language usage that is analogous to the fabrication and policing of language that are happening today. 4) Radical feminism is leftist. Just because females have common interests across the political spectrum (due to being in the same *sex-class** in the sex-hierarchy*), doesn't mean we support imprisoning children, gay conversion therapy or bombing foreign civilians.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You left out the part about how Gender Studies displaced Women's Studies in academia.

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Men and women don't "have different brains". Humans have brain plasticity and brains develop in accordance to experience and environment. Blue-boy-brains/pink-girl-brains is part of the trans agenda.

What are you doing here if you "loathe feminism"?

Did feminism cause the current state of transgender politics? by Kotal in GCdebatesQT

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. Julie Bindel's position, "I am a lesbian because I say I am", is laughable and controversial among real lesbians who don't recall ever choosing anything. But I don't think that's where trans got the idea, though they may use it to validate themselves.
  2. Meh, some non-sciencey academics wanted more funding for their own departments. Predominantly male science, math and engineering departments would get a lot of funding. Meanwhile women (some also feminist) in the sciences were struggling to be taken seriously and get real jobs. The "facts and science" that trans use to validate their social agenda is usually pretty sketchy. Many academics, scientists and medical and psych professionals collude with trans and thereby legitimate the movement. They have very deep pockets. They buy academics and politicians and take over non-profit organizations and charities.
  3. The difference is that "word policing" never made it past a few feminist publications and the subculture. (I have never seen words like herstory or wombmoon anywhere in the mainstream.) Some usage really needed to change, like the ubiquitous use of "man" to indicate humanity. I don't think the reason why was particularly esoteric either.
    A classic publication to emerge from that era was Our Bodies, Ourselves, a women's self-help health guide. It contained no denial of biology but was firmly grounded in reality. It's a better indicator of what the 2nd Wave accomplished for women than any right-wing critique of feminism. I don't see how you can compare "some women have penises" to "women are also humanity" and keep a straight face. The point was and continues to be that sexism is embedded in the language, not that you can change your sex. Language usage changes gradually and organically over time, the way man to indicate humanity is falling into disuse, not through widespread propaganda, bullying and social engineering to get everyone to comply. I don't recall feminism ever attempting to pull that off. It's really a very male approach if you think about it. When TRAs have the force of law behind them, they will resort to decreeing, right now they are still limiting themselves to bullying.
  4. I find the idea of a natural and organicly ocurring patriarchy somewhat ludicrous. The concept sounds more like circular reinforcement. I don't know what ecological or human disaster happened in antiquity or the late pleistocene (end of the last ice-age) to cause the hierarchical, class structure that installed men as the nucleus of the family unit and as the rulers of societies. What is clear to me is that they are ill-equipped to be in charge of families, societies or the world.
    Have you ever actually read Dworkin? If not, this is a good place to start: http://www.mediafire.com/file/j02f3fdwcofey2h/Right-wing_Women.zip/file You can find more of her work here: http://radfem.org/dworkin/ Future historians will have their investigative work cut out for them when they try to determine what caused this mass delusion. In the meantime, before you blame feminists for inventing concepts that have been distorted and hijacked, you might consider the following: Trans as a political and cultural trend develops at a time when: 1) society is making some real strides in breaking down gender stereotypes. Gay Liberation has made it possible for many to step out of obligatory and rigid sex-roles that do not fit them and which they find oppressive. 2) feminism has also won many gains for women, not the least among them the possibility of earning a living outside the home, living outside of a male-ruled family unit, some political representation, real sports teams, widespread access to higher education, career options, fewer restrictions on travel, credit, finances, etc., etc. So no Mister, feminism did not create this monster. This monster IS the patriarchy (whose existence you so doubt) morphing to regain control over the women who are lost to it, the ones who got away. Every demand that trans makes is a demand that undermines women and girls. Trans males win awards and fill quotas set aside exclusively for women, they take high-end jobs and get counted as women. On the poorer end of the scale, they are allowed to invade shelters and previously sex-segregated prisons lording it over women refugees and inmates. They have forced their way into all-female institutions that had been around for 100 years. Trans, along with their incel allies, demand sex from women who are no longer obligated to service them through coerced relationships and institutions. They actively brainwash children into doubting their own reality and destroy the integrity of future LGB (and straight) adults. As difficult as it may be to grasp, trans are the *shock-troops** of the patriarchy. The fact that they are getting away with it is *proof of its existence.

Trans history and the wild west by questioningtw in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's incredibly arrogant that they trans the dead all the time now. There are so many reasons to put on male clothing if you live in a society with a strictly gendered dress code. Survival, camouflage, professional attainments, joining the military, marrying your sweetheart, not getting raped, the list goes on and on.

Anyone else weirded out when people consistently use the word “man,” but not the word “woman?” by catawampus in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"women" to them denotes feminism

Fascinating.

Trans history and the wild west by questioningtw in GenderCritical

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Couldn't read. Too much transdoublethink.

Bear with me a second -- I feel like I ended up here because the LGBTQA+ Community became toxic by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That argues more against parenting by males, especially idiot-males, than by same-sex couples. Interestingly enough, there's plenty of evidence that heterosexual males are dangerous and should be nowhere near children. I don't see you worrying about that.

14-Year-Old Trafficking Victim Took Down California Trafficking Ring With One Text by lairacunda in GenderCritical

[–]lairacunda[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They know no shame.