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[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'm not sure if this is true or not but here's a theory.

Lesbians, especially life-long lesbians, are a lot less guarded with women than straight women would be. So there we are, having a relaxed, casual conversation or small talk with another woman and of course we get clocked. The straight woman interprets the relaxed manner as a... testing of the waters on our part. They don't understand that there's nothing more to it and it's just the way we are.

Also, a lot of straight women won't do anything without first checking in with their owner that's why every other word is "my husband/boyfriend". They could set the terms of their lives but instead they let the man do it for them.

[–]Innisfree[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

the straight woman interprets the relaxed manner as a... testing of the waters on our part.

Now that I think of it, I used to try and project this "relaxed, polite, friendly" attitude around straight women - but really in an effort to reassure them that I'm not interested. And I think some of them may have misread it as interest on my part. Ironic... :)

Edit: a word