If there's no autism then explain non-verbal people who bang their head on the wall and can't handle loud noises. You're probably thinking of self-diagnosed snowflakes on Twitter.

Men and women don't necessarily have different personalities and interests, but their bodies are still designed to excel at different things. For example women can see color a lot more vividly than men. Men won't exactly be born wanting to see a dry and washed out world all the time, but that's what they get. Women can easily be into sports, but their bodies aren't fit for many of them. It might sound unethical that nature would let someone's desires be different from their abilities, and that's because it is.

These differences in biology are not aligned with how people think men and women are different though. There's nothing that would hinder either gender from liking blue or pink.

That alone can't explain gender dysphoria though. That's just normal personality variance, and those people still feel right in their bodies and don't want to change, even if they have their annoyances. But there does seem to be something that makes the person expect a certain set of traits, and if it doesn't match you'll feel like shit. I don't know what that is. Some sense of normalcy seems to be hardwired. A man might prefer seeing more vivid colors, but if he perceives dullness as normal it won't bother him much, and he probably won't even realize it. But I know that's not how the world is supposed to look. I do happen to care, but even if I didn't, it would still feel off. And I can have atypical preferences but I can never change what my body is capable of, therefore I cannot make anything feel right. Of course if you've always felt right you'll never understand the difference. It's literally impossible to explain to you, because you have no reference. Nor do we have the language to describe it because it's such a rare disease. What I've said is a very poor explanation at best, and I'm afraid that's about as close as it gets. I simply don't have the tools to get it across to you. This is why normal people will always be confused and transtrenders think transitioning because of stereotypes is perfectly valid. Because to all of you, it's the same thing.

It could very well be that some people simply get insanely unlucky and end up wanting all the traits of the opposite sex. What makes me doubt that is how even things I never think or care about are off to me. For example my hands look too big to me and my fingers look distorted. It doesn't bother me, but it isn't what I expected to see either. I had no idea until recently that this is a sexually dimorphic trait and that the female version matches what I expect to see. This stuff happens A LOT. And some of it seems minor, and a lot of it is, but much of it does cause me discomfort. It's more irritating than acutely painful, but there is a lot of it, and keep in mind I have to deal with it all 24/7. Conversely, I've never had any desire to be seen or treated as a different gender (unless it's simply better, for example girls are allowed to struggle with life). Any gender "identity" I ever had came from the way I was raised. I don't see how wearing dresses or being "validated" is supposed to help me any. It's not going to make me stop feeling like my male bone growth is a heavy set of armor fused under my skin. I just don't like the way my body feels and functions.

What is strange and really freaky is I do happen to get deja vu seeing the female routine. It's not that I'm interested in it so much as I feel like I've lived it before and now my memory has been reset or altered. I have my suspicions, but that's getting into a different topic that I don't think is particularly relevant here.