Where is everyone? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Same, I'm on both but I'm more active on Club Monocle. It's apparently going to be a monthly subscription app, but the first 6 months are free so I'm going to see if I still like it when the freebie is up.

rant. by asparagus1 in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly this. I wish I knew what it used to be like--I only finally accepted my sexuality around 2015, and was miserable thinking I was a broken straight girl before that. I just want to be. Why is it so difficult for others to allow that?

Arielle Scarcella video about how shitty Reddit is by Mobymaybe in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I literally just watched that and came here to post it. I've been trying to explain to my mom why I don't go on reddit anymore. Hopefully this will help. Fuck, I miss truelesbians. You guys are great but it was such an active community.

Do you believe in compulsory heterosexuality? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Damn. I wrote my comment before reading this, and I could have just said "same." I love you, stranger on the internet.

Do you believe in compulsory heterosexuality? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family where the baseline was feeling bad about yourself and being anxious about literally everything. So when boys started showing interest around puberty, I mistook that feeling in the pit of my stomach (which was dread and bad anxiety) for butterflies and went with it. Oh, I suppose I should mention that my dysfunctional family got extra fun when my dad converted to very conservative christianity when I was still a little kid, so I spent my formative years learning that gay people had something wrong with them and I so desperately wanted to feel like I was normal and not in a fucked up emotionally abusive home that I never even considered whether I might be a lesbian until many, many years later, after I got into therapy and on antidepressants. The "female sexuality is fluid" bullshit did some damage, too. Any attraction I did allow myself to feel for women was rationalized away as "well, they're objectively attractive, all straight women think so, too." I'm better now and I've cut off the toxic family members. But I still have so much baggage to work on that I'm terrified of starting anything with any woman, because I don't want to fuck up someone else's life.

Working 9 to 5... by fckme in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've changed careers two or three times already, so no, I did not know from a young age that I'd be doing what I'm doing now. I'm an attorney. I enjoy the work but I have no passion for it. That said, it's fulfilling enough to balance the parts of it that are emotionally draining and it pays well enough to fund the things in my life I actually am passionate about. It's definitely not for everyone, though, and I made the conscious decision to pursue a lower-stress (and lower-paying) practice area and market, which is also not a decision that would work for everyone. But I wanted a work-life balance, and I got it. Suits me.

To be a parent by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have never, ever, ever wanted to have kids. Since I was five I've been saying I don't want kids, and only now in my thirties are people starting to believe me. In the interim, I have discovered that I'm not actually opposed to being a parent, I just have no desire to go through the horrific and life-threatening condition of pregnancy and the trauma of giving birth. I may adopt, someday, but even that is very unlikely because I simply don't want to live for someone else.

Any other Crocheters, Knitters, or Yarnivores? by NotPedanticIPromise in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm about half done with a sweater that uses tapestry crochet to make a fair isle-esque design around the torso and the arms, I am perpetually in the middle of a granny hexagon afghan using up scrap yarn, and I plan on starting a Scheepjes crochet-along pattern for an afghan soon.

Anyone tried online speed-dating? by uroborosjohnson in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'd never heard of this but I just looked up Dr. Frankie and this sounds awesome.

[Spoilers] Jennifer's Body (2019) — Film of the Week by piylot in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The movie that made me start to like Megan Fox. Incredibly entertaining, for a ridiculous horror movie.

Podcast recommendations by coliemelan in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This Podcast Will Kill You--about diseases, disease ecology, and epidemiology, hosted by two scientist women, both named Erin. One is definitely straight--or at least, not lesbian--but the sexuality of the other is unclear. Regardless, it's an amazing podcast, particularly since they go very in depth about COVID... although, if you start from the beginning, they started this podcast a few years ago, and it's really weird hearing them talk about the potential for pandemics before any of this stuff went down.

He’dwig and the Angry Inch by southpaw in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Some good music, interesting costumes, entertaining storyline, some really creepy/gross scenes.

Women are just objectively more aesthetically pleasing than men by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I said this all. The. Time. And no one--not even my straight female friends--said otherwise.

Here’s the update you asked for by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Told you :) <3

[Spoilers Inside] But I'm A Cheerleader (1999) Discussion Thread by piylot in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol, same.

[Spoilers Inside] But I'm A Cheerleader (1999) Discussion Thread by piylot in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 20 insightful - 5 fun20 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

One of my all-time favorite campy movies from high school, and something that makes me feel stupid for not realizing at that time that I am, basically, Megan. I went another decade before accepting that I'm gay.

Also, Clea DuVall forever.

Show with a well written lesbian plot? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Call the Midwife has a tragic but then sweet lesbian subplot for a couple of seasons. And that's just a great show overall anyway.

Show with a well written lesbian plot? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Recently rewatched for the third (fourth?) time, absolutely worth it.

Is anyone else always surprised by their period? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol, kind of. Mine is like clockwork, every 28 days, so it's on my calendar and I should be aware it's coming. But... unless I actually check my calendar, I'm surprised when I wake up one day angry at literally everything then when I start cramping and bleeding two days later it all makes sense.

My wife is either going to be happy or..... by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That FACE! I want to cuddle this pup so much. I love big dogs. Your wife is going to love it. I mean, she might be irked at first because introducing a new animal into a household is quite stressful, especially if you didn't choose the change, but how can you be upset for long when that face is there?

How do you stay active/exercise? by Vernalmuffins in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I found a gym with a coach & membership community I really vibe with. It's CrossFit because that's the kind of intense workout I like (despite being incredibly weak and out of shape--they have to scale down every single exercise for me), but you can find that sort of camaraderie in any type of gym.

What's your favorite biome? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly, I love looking at any naturescape that is devoid of obvious human interference. Vast, rolling grasslands? Yes, please. Mossy, lakeside forest? Absolutely. Humid, sticky swamp. I'm there. Give me a place without people and it's my favorite. Even arid deserts, so long as I don't have to be in them.

I wish I wasn't a lesbian (Rant) by Depressed in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think I might have written something exceptionally similar on reddit in the past, so you might have seen that.

What's your go to lazy meal? by lmaonope333 in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bacon and over-medium eggs, sometimes on toast. Or a pb&j.

Can we all describe our perfect Sunday? by Climblikeabee in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That's a tough one. I'd have to say Sunday, April 25th, 2021. Because it's not too hot, not too cold, all you need is a light jacket.

But, seriously, swimming at a local, less-popular lake. It was GLORIOUS.

Stop abbreviating Truelesbians by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Good idea, thank you!

Do you think this is the end for TL? by a_blue_bird in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Well... our membership has almost doubled in the last week, so it's definitely growing, but, as other users have said, the other membership of this site is a hot, misogynistic, hateful mess.

How do you deal with the anger and depression? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm getting off toxic social media. The TL ban was the impetus, and now reddit is nothing but a wasteland of virtue signaling and horror porn. Getting back into my irl hobbies, like you. I'm thinking about learning to hunt and spending more time outside.

Lesbians for Trump 2020 by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 8 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

The problem with saidit is there isn't a downvote button.

TL is No More by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Please keep us updated here. TL was my only connection to other like-minded women and I really don't want to lose the community we built.

So...how are we coping with this fiasco? I swear I had a small heart attack. This feels like war. by MsHurricane in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You say that as if the violence ever stopped :(

So...how are we coping with this fiasco? I swear I had a small heart attack. This feels like war. by MsHurricane in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Also, if it is banned, I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. It is the ONE place I can be me, a gay woman. I can't even speak the truth irl because I WILL face career consequences.

So...how are we coping with this fiasco? I swear I had a small heart attack. This feels like war. by MsHurricane in Lesbians

[–]weirdlyhaunted 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Did TL actually get banned? When I tried to go to it just now (first time all day) it is set to private.