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[–]MyLongestJourney 88 insightful - 27 fun88 insightful - 26 fun89 insightful - 27 fun -  (6 children)

When one door closes,another door opens. And we still refuse to suck ladydick.

[–]mexialian 40 insightful - 7 fun40 insightful - 6 fun41 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

Amen to that! They can never be lesbians and that alone drives their hate for us.0

[–]ForestWanderer 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Reddit is just rushing to virtue signal it seems like.

[–]xAcidRainx 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Damn right

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Close the door on their dick, that’ll teach em

[–]Ricky_Ticky 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Always have and always will!

[–]Minerva 52 insightful - 5 fun52 insightful - 4 fun53 insightful - 5 fun -  (4 children)

I wonder if AfterEllen would like to hear about how Reddit has banned all female lesbian spaces on their site? Worth a shot, I think...

[–]PassionateIntensity 24 insightful - 4 fun24 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Do it. They have a Twitter. They've been keeping out of the trans-fray lately. TBF I think they were threatened.

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe we email them?

[–]annatheginguh 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What do you think is the best way to reach them?

[–]Minerva 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Looks like Twitter is a good option, and they have a Contact page here with emails if anyone would like to get their attention:

[–]eatcherry 47 insightful - 6 fun47 insightful - 5 fun48 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

Fuck reddit.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. Deleted my account today. I don't have to put up with that crap.

[–]PlayCardsNotPeople 43 insightful - 4 fun43 insightful - 3 fun44 insightful - 4 fun -  (9 children)

I really feel bad for any new lesbians coming to reddit, how tf will they find anything resembling sanity.

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    [–]whateverman 29 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    They'll find other communities. Luckily this isn't the only one. Lesbians have always found each other despite it all.

    [–]XTenor 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

    Me too! TL definitely helped me when I was coming out to myself. The discussions that happened there were some of the best on reddit, so it was my favorite subreddit. Hopefully they make their way over here.

    [–]ShellBellSherbs 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    This. I was definitely lurking over in TL some time back when I was trying to become more comfortable in my sexuality, too. It's such a shame it's all gone now.

    [–]RavenVI 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    same! I lurked in TL and GC for a while to figure out myself and learn to accept who I am since I grew up in a religious environment and struggled. I remember times when I felt uncomfortable about myself because in my community it would be the wokes, the religious people who pressures me, and I felt like the only one that wasn't part of the woke nor religious pressures. I hope this place can stay as long as it can.

    [–]cbhull82 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I agree 100%. As a lesbian that struggled my whole life to accept who I am due to conservative parents, TL was a breath of fresh air. I’m only recently out, and the one place that helped me to love who I really am was banned for bs reasons. I’m so glad I found this community.

    [–]Fleursdumal 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Yes, They will be shamed into thinking being gay is wrong.

    [–]moonlightascending 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    that was my concern. I stumbled across TL at a time when I needed it and only knew about the reddit communities. I know lesbians always find each other but it still concerns me.

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      [–][deleted] 19 insightful - 4 fun19 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

      Glad that you found us! We don’t have to watch our words on Saidit, thank god. My head was about to explode.

      [–]LesbianSeparatist 26 insightful - 4 fun26 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

      I'm sorry this happened. It's truly fucked up that in this world, it's more important to cater to the delusions of porn sick men versus providing a safe space for lesbians.

      [–]Redwoods 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

      i hope they realize that their actions might be making actual TERFs and not people they just call TERF because they think there are true biological differences between women and trans women.

      at first i was, at worst, apathetic to their cause but now seeing the damage they're doing to the lesbian community simply because we asked them to stay out of ONE space for cis women that love only cis women... it's so infuriating. i'm human, too, and when every single experience i have with trans women are negative then, yeah, i'm going to lean towards TERF over TRA. if they want to be seen as women then maybe stop acting like the more rapey kinds of men that have been told 'no'.

      [–]writerlylesbian 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      i'm not 'cis'

      [–]4elements 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Exactly how I’m feeling. I used to just stay away from them but seeing how they cannot stand us, how they cannot stand women only attracted to women, I actively despise them now.

      [–]BraveAndStunningTERF 26 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

      /u/maxinistafemmeinista - You and the mod team rock. Lets give reddit the two fingers they deserve!

      [–]beholdyourheart 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      Thanks for your efforts, I hope we can regather here too. Tbh I think I'll be using Saidit for this sub alone because a LOT of the stuff on this site is pretty awful - I had to unsubscribe from all the default subs. It really frustrates me that a community for lesbians only is viewed as being the same level of offensive as virulent anti-semitism and racism by Reddit. It feels insane to me that same-sex attraction is now genuinely considered to be bigotry, I wish it wasn't like this

      [–]biggreensunglasses 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I agree. I keep questioning whether my views are in some way extreme because of these kinds of associations. But they're not - the word "lesbian" has a meaning and I will not be cowed into thinking that should include anyone with a penis. There is no penis involved. Ever.

      [–]Fraeulein 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

      The only other lesbian sub that rivaled TL (as far as I'm aware, atleast), is r/actuallesbians, which, in the about section, literally says it's for, "bisexual girls, bi-curious folks, 'girls who kiss girls', 'birls', 'bois', aces, LGBT allies, and 'anyone else interested'." Lesbians really can't have anything for themselves, huh?

      [–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 21 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

      “Anything but lesbians” was a nickname we called them in my neck of tumblr

      [–]ForestWanderer 22 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

      Wow. This is really, super disappointing. I'm surprised how upset I am about it.

      You're all a bunch of lovely people for understanding that women need AND deserve a space to call their own and trying to maintain and guard it.

      [–]southpaw 21 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

      I'm so pissed. I just went on TL to respond to a post and it was gone. I thought my phone was acting up but then saw a post talking about another ban wave. Thank you mods for making this place. I was a full-time lurker and occasional poster on TL (under another username) but I really appreciated the conversations on that sub. RIP TL but hopefully Saidit will be a better home for all of the Reddit exiles.

      [–]It-Do-Be-Like-That 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      For what it’s worth, thank y’all for all that you’ve done. It’s been upsetting to watch, but I can’t express enough how relieving it is to know that we still have somewhere to create a sense of community- even if it means rebuilding.

      [–]AshleyBackwoods 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

      They will never silence us. I admit, I just got done crying. I didn't want to migrate platforms but here we are. If I was a hateful person, this literally would have radicalized me to hate trans people. I never could. I would delete my account immediately if I wasn't admitting r/lesbianselfies and r/butchlesbianselfies

      [–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      We should start those subs up here :) (but maybe private...) I'm not hateful either and I don't agree with the GC position that gender is entirely a social construct... But I'm so hurt by what has happened and I can't help but hate what the trans community has become, especially the activism side. I'm hoping I'll feel more like my old self in a few days.

      [–]StrictlyDykely 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I saw the ban happened, and fuck those assholes. I hope all our lesbian children find us here. What a terrible message to send to lesbians, especially teens. It’s not “promoting hate” to be a lesbian so I sure hope no one takes that to heart.

      [–]al-Amira 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      Thank you for putting the effort in to keep it running, that subreddit (together with LGBdroptheT) felt sort of like a safe harbour from all the idiocy.

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        [–]southpaw 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Have you seen Twitter today? I don't do Twitter but #RedditHatesWomen is trending today and it popped up in my news feed. It is worth looking at for the artwork and screenshots alone. Reddit really fucked up when they left a bunch of porn/rape subs up but banned pretty much any subreddit that dealt with female specific issues.

        [–]oatmealhockey 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I mean...we all pretty much knew it was gonna happen lol. Reddit is a shit site that hates women and lesbians. All of their current LGBTQ and lesbian spaces don't believe in actual same-sex attraction. I just want all lesbians to be able to find actual lesbian spaces. That is what makes me sad. But we just all have to keep finding spaces and speaking with each other to make sure that there are still spaces left for lesbians :D.

        [–]hag 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        one of my childhood friends sent me a screenshot of the ban as an argument as to why my "sexuality is morally wrong and harmful to others" - he was publicly applauded for doing so / still feeling ill

        [–]EzukiRaen 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

        It's upsetting but, at the very least, I'm happy that I clicked on the link for this site when it was first posted on reddit. I don't feel as panicy and lost like when the original sub went private for a few days. This feels like a safety net to fall back on and it's comforting. I can't imagine what all those who either don't know or forgot about saidit must be feeling once they notice the r/truelesbians was banned. I would probably be devastated in their shoes. This is a community that I didn't realize I needed until I found it.

        [–]SystemOfADowJones 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Same, I'm so glad even a small amount of people have found their way over here. I'm sad for the younger lesbians who'll never get to have TL..

        [–]MissKing2you 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Same 🙁

        [–]annatheginguh 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

        Can't wait to be based with y'all :)

        [–][deleted] 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Thank you so much. I know that the mods worked so hard to work with Reddit in order for lesbians have a place for themselves. It was really important for the younger lesbians to connect, gain information and community.

        I hope that they find their way here.

        [–]Philliy 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

        I put a post up too in lesbian actually I guess just to vent, and it's still up. Someone over there is sleeping.

        [–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        I went there, and it's still up. The person that told you to fuck off, I told them "No you fuck off, tosser."

        [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        update: got downvoted by 2 points. Don't really give infinite shits. Edit: got downvoted by 15 now. Even though I don't care, I just decided to delete it b/c I stooped down to that tw@ts level.

        [–]VioletRemi 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Nothing new, but still discouraging and sad.

        [–]Kimaris 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        TL did what they could to remain civil. Lesbians just wanted some space from them. They didn't even want to be full GC and just wanted to talk about lesbian things. You know. Tacos and carpets. But apparently. Tacos are too transphobic and needs to be taken down. :D

        [–]rolypoly 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I'm glad this alternative was made. TL was my only connection to other lesbians. The wealth of information and resources and the exchange of experiences was something I really valued! I'm so glad there's still a place we can talk.

        [–]funk_transcender 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        This is such a shame. My reddit profile looks so empty now. I really hope this place can flourish and gain some traction. It's probably going to take more of an active effort for a while to keep the place active. Thank god you guys hard the foresight to take this underground before it did get banned. I can't imagine how I'd be feeling right now would this have happened in the first purge 😐.

        [–]weirdlyhaunted 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Please keep us updated here. TL was my only connection to other like-minded women and I really don't want to lose the community we built.

        [–]FeminineEnergy01 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        I am so glad that y'all were prepared. We're gonna soar here.

        [–]les4les 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        and then there were none

        [–]PasLagardere 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

        Are there plans to make a new TL subreddit? (Maybe once this storm of Hate we are receiving has cooled down)

        [–][deleted] 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

        No. It will get banned.

        [–]MyLongestJourney 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

        I have r/homosexualwomen. Which I kept private and inactive so that lesbians gather to you.I wonder if I should make it public and see if that gets banned as well.

        [–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

        Any attempt to rebuild will be met with some sort of ban.

        [–]MyLongestJourney 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        I really do not care at this point.It will just make them look worse.The only thing stopping me is time.I do not have time to play mod for the time period it will take to get the sub banned by the vile misogynists.

        [–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I have a now private low lying sub as well if lesbians here wish to dm me on reddit to add them (same username).

        [–]VioletRemi 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        In their topics they were focusing only subreddits with 5k or more subscribers, and then some with 1k or more subscribers. So small ones would survive, unless they will be similar or rebranded banned subreddits (there is rule in reddit rules that "all similar subreddits to banned must be banned as well").

        [–]lesbo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        hey can you add me. I am r/nevadasmittens

        [–]0BCB9A795AE259 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Reddit accounts deleted. Thanks to mods for organising the back up on SaidIt. It's hard to believe the scale of no-platforming. The penile shitshow on ActualLesbians was unbearable. TRAs basically say that objectification of lesbians is the way to go and deny that sexism exists. I don't want to deal with "girldicks" and only couple of years ago I moved out countries to run away from the constant "you haven't found the right man", "if I fucked you, you would be straight" and many worse. Once again, thanks for creating this space!

        [–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I hope we can find each other and make this a better space for lesbians and possibly create even more spaces so we are not erased

        [–]Canardyyy 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I’m annoyed Truelesbians got banned. Just because we just wanted a lesbian community made us hateful? Only goes to show who the true bigots and homophobics are.

        I’m happy we’ll be able to reestablish here without having to worry about those TRA.

        [–]a_blue_bird 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        In the first ban wave they banned 50% of subs I read. Now the other 50% are gone, too. Time to leave Reddit for good. They are digging their own grave.

        But it's nice to have simply ''lesbians'' as our group name :D

        [–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I went through a phase of working out my sexuality in my early 20s and thank god the tl sub existed. It was really good to have people set a line in the sand that no, lesbians are not bisexual or attracted to men, and definitely not to penises. It was reassuring when you get such mixed messages from the AL sub.

        Also the AL sub was really weird, it felt like the people on there who were male. I lurked, but it definitely felt that way even though I can't put my finger on exactly what it was.

        [–]Idyllicblue 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Glad I made the jump before this happened. Hope others will make it out too.

        [–]lesbo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Hrmm, I was just going to go look at my old post in that sub, but the entire thing is gone. I am going to email reddit. We should draft a document. We aren't wrong for not liking girldick!!! Its not transphobic. I am just so sad to have lost a community of women

        [–]reader 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        The good think is, that it my finally mobilize people to abandon homophobic platforms and look for better options.

        [–]PassionateIntensity 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Thank you for modding and trying to keep it going. Sigh.

        [–]lesbo 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I cannot believe this shit. I was just going over there to ask my fellow lesbos about SF and I find out its banned.

        [–]Coffeebreath 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

        Brand new account on saidit and I'm deleting my reddit account right after this!

        [–]Tovasshi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        It was my last straw.

        I officially signed up for saidit.

        [–]Darthfig 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I, for one, refuse to let them disenfranchise us. I'm a young lesbian growing up in a world fixated on trans issues, on dick, on denying homosexuality. A change of platform won't change my sexuality or my resolve to end up with a woman.

        [–]unsilencedFish 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        I just discovered saidit because of these ridiculous widesweeping bans. I hope more people can become aware of this site, since it seems like a place where people can express objectively benign opinions without being cancelled. Ironically, I discovered saidit from a tweet by this really rude person on twitter calling gay people who only like people of the same sex "nazis"... which is ironic, because censorship and closure of open dialogue are the very facets of an authoritarian regime. Anwyays, thanks for restarting here, and good wishes to all :)

        [–]ghostraider 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Wtf, I was just going to lurk for a while on TL and I found it banned!! Is the user that made the comic weekly thread around here?

        It is unbelievable they decided it was a hate sub, except for the ocasional rant (which would not be there if TQs were not a bunch of lesbophobes) it was all every day truly lesbian forum.

        [–]WildwoodFlower 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I'm staying on Reddit because of LateBloomerLesbians. It's a good sub with a lot of nice people. They were very helpful when I posted about my "straight" crush who messes with my head. But most of the women who hang around there are still figuring out who they are or don't have a lot of experience. I fall into the latter camp, although not the former. Sometimes it helps to talk things out with women who are on the same path. But sometimes, I need to hear from women who have been out longer than I have, or who have more life experience in general. Right now, I feel like I am 50 going on 19, so I need both subs in my life!

        I'm glad I found this place. I hope we can stay safe here.

        [–]Sapphicatalyst 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Pfft, they think a reddit ban is going to stop us from gathering and talking about biology? Ha!

        [–]IamWomanHearMeRoar 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Saidit should make a sad face button so I can click it. :(

        [–]11mile_house 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        Well, I won't be using Reddit anymore. Not sure what I should do with my sub r/truelesbiangamers though. Anyone want it?

        [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Are you it’s moderator?

        [–]HighlyDykely 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        It's a shame that Reddit decided to show just how much they hate lesbians by banning TL but it seemed inevitable given how much they kiss up to male "lesbians". I'm glad this sub was made to save what was left.

        [–]Rubyredpython 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I just deleted my account with them. Feels good to leave the Reddit plantation.

        [–]plumedoomer 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)