That entire comment section is a headache. Mfs saying "asexual people can enjoy sex" then they're not "asexuals" you fools.

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[–]LtGreenCo 17 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 4 fun -  (6 children)

Way back in the day nobody called themselves that. Asexual was term used in biology referring to self-reproducing organisms. If you needed to communicate your lack of sexual desire you'd simply say you had no/low libido; you didn't need a special name for yourself.

But now? God knows why but we are inundated with people absolutely consumed with identity and labels. "Oh I'm quasi-panaromantic but only on Tuesdays and every other day I'm demixenosexual and here's my special flag please respect my pronouns" and holy shit if there was ever a group of people that needed regular bitch-slapping it's these obnoxious motherfuckers.

[–]TitsAndWhiskeyPronoun: My Nigga 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

And “gender” was just the polite term for “sex.”

Gee, our old LaSalle ran great…

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

And trannies were a rare breed who had an actual clinical illness, and were not conflated with transvestites who were much more like the vast majority of trannies are now.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I would say the majority of 'trans' people I encounter are the 'non-binary' flavour who just want to feel special about being unappealing.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's still sort of an offshoot of transvestism. It's an "identity" thing. Transsexual disorder isn't even remotely similar.

[–]Adventurous_Ad6212 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Your a furry

[–]Tom_Bombadil 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Oh I'm quasi-panaromantic but only on Tuesdays and every other day I'm demixenosexual and here's my special flag please respect my pronouns"

In the old days, a man who lost his nut sack was called a 'eunuch'.

And, the eunuchs community was pretty quiet about their status.

Most were comfortable with their flaccid pouchless phallus.

It was obvious to all that the grass was much greener on their side of the vaginoplasty fence.

[–]clownworlddropout 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

The "ace" twits are almost as annoying as the gender-specials. You're not a demiaroace, you just don't know how human relationships work.

[–]jet199 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most of the men have fetishes so deep they can't find anyone else a turn on.

Most of the women are scared of sex.

[–]Conqueeftador 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

The stupidest one is demisexual. If you only want to sleep with people you have an emotional bond with, that makes you NORMAL so why is the label necessary? Oh right, being normal doesn't get you asspats from other terminally online weirdos who think every fleeting emotion is a new sexual orientation deserving of attention and special treatment.

[–]OuroborosTheory 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

basically they'll go for ANYTHING that can let them claim minority when they're quite visibly a guy/girl couple--it's downright REACTIONARY to be boring and straight, and "queer" has been diluted so much that any time you're actively not feeling like an advertising cliche is enough to be nonbinaryTM: in the 70s the doctrine was "everyone's either bi--or in denial," now EVERYONE could go "I kissed a girl in college"

it reminds me of the Seinfeld ep where they think Elaine's date might be black, and it turned out not only that he wasn't, but that he thought she was Spanish

[–]LyingSpirit472 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

and "queer" has been diluted so much that any time you're actively not feeling like an advertising cliche is enough to be nonbinaryTM:

That's just unfair.

You forget that if someone feels like an advertising cliche literally every second of every day, then they're obviously transgender and hiding deep in the closet. It's part of the religious aspect of the trans cult: A firm belief everyone is trans, they just don't know it yet!

[–]M1GarandDad 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And it was made up by a teenager on a roleplay forum!

[–]jet199 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder if it's a reaction to the casting couch

[–]alladd 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Oh, those poor timid commenters with basic reasoning skills.

"Hey I'm not trying to offend anybody but I think this makes no sense?"

Trust your gut, buddy. Don't let peer pressure fool you: words are supposed to mean things.

[–]NastyWetSmear 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

"I'm not trying to offend, but Aromantic would mean "Not Romantic". If someone is romantic sometimes, or feels romance under specific circumstances, they aren't Aromantic. Also, and I'm so sorry, not to be rude, but Demiromantic would mean "Partially Romantic", which I think covers almost everyone, as there would be very few people who would claim to feel a romantic attachment to literally everyone they met, and I would think those people would be considered to have a mental disability, as it would really hamper your happiness in life to feel a constant romantic attachment to all people and would certainly make a normal, healthy relationship near to impossible... Again, so sorry if this offends."

[This User Has Been Banned For Harassment And Facts]

[–]alladd 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's just so transparently "we need to feel special without being special." I just hope that if this person still has any friends in five years that they give them shit for being so fucking lame.

[–]ID10T 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

These weirdos treat the stupid categories in their retarded sexual cinematic universe like Pokemon they are trying to collect.

[–]Wanderingthehalls 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

The thing with asexual, is that lack of sex drive is quite often a symptom of a medical issue. Instead of going to their doctor, getting tested and appropriately treated where necessary, they are waving a silly flag instead. And it's not as if it's just sex, if something is physically wrong it will be causing other issues. Low testosterone, which is a reason for lack of sex drive in men and women, also causes sarcopenia, bone density loss and excess fat gain. Lots of people are letting their bodies deteriorate needlessly rather than accept they have a medical issue, as opposed to a special identity.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The thing with asexual, is that lack of sex drive is quite often a symptom of a medical issue. Instead of going to their doctor, getting tested and appropriately treated where necessary, they are waving a silly flag instead.

This!

Libido changes was one of the symptoms on our brain tumour checklist, back when I was doing cancer research!

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

That can't be the cause in my case, because my libido for kinks is unbelievably high.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Your kinks are partial facial paralysis, dribbling, walking with a limp and shitting yourself?

Never mind, carry on.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

No?

[–]ClassroomPast6178 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh. I thought you were making a joke with your previous post.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, I'm serious.

[–]Athelhilda4 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The thing with asexual, is that lack of sex drive is quite often a symptom of a medical issue. Instead of going to their doctor, getting tested and appropriately treated where necessary, they are waving a silly flag instead.

In all fairness, going to the doctor for sexual issues and getting treatment only works if the doctor takes you seriously, isn't woke, and you're male. If you're a woman, you just get a comforting pat on the head and are told you haven't met the right guy yet and maybe a referral to a therapist. If you're a guy with sexual issues, you get a whole bunch of medical and hormone tests done to find the root of the problem.

[–]UncleWillard56 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

LMAO! This encapsulates the left. Solving problems that don't exist.

[–]LordoftheFliesAmeri-kin 2.0. Pronouns: MegaWhite/SuperStraight/UltraPatriarchy 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

No, it's more like creating problems that don't exist, then bitching because nobody will jump through all of the contrived hoops needed to "fix" those problems.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm convinced most of this is people trying to set boundaries against people in their own alphabet community. Sorry, I'm aromantic, I can't fuck you, please don't call me transphobic, kinda thing.

I also suspect nobody in this sub is an actual adult, and they're all terminally online. They seem to have no concept of actual norms of human behaviour.

[–]LyingSpirit472 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Definitely, since most of the "queer" movement could seem to boil down to "the woman wants to shut down an unwanted admirer and knows 'queer' sounds enough like being gay that nerdy Melvin will think it's the same thing and back off, but hunky Chad will know it's all word salad and she's DTF."

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"If you're not thinking about sex every second of every day you're ace."

[–]wylanderuk 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pretty much seems to be bang on.

[–]The_Best_Yak_Ever 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

They’re labels mostly dreamed up by teenagers and ugly losers who walk around with a “I don’t want to sleep with anyone anyway!” Attitude, because they’re upset that they’re sexually invisible to others. You very rarely are going to see conventionally attractive men and women claiming to be asexual. It’s usually teenagers or those who have little experience with sex and dating in the first place.

To me, anyone claiming that they’re asexual but can “still enjoy sex and want relationships” is hedging their bets in the most transparent way possible. “I don’t experience sexual attraction!!” They screech into the digital void. But the second someone else is like, “hey, I have horrid self esteem and no sense of self worth, but maybe you and I could go out for a drink, maybe??” Then watch those same “asexuals” trip over themselves to holler “I CAN ENJOY SEX!! PLEASE OH GOD PLEASE I’M SO LONELY!!!”

It’s pathetic. Not everyone is walking around wanting sex from anyone willing at all bloody times. It really seems like it’s just a bunch of lonely losers who know nothing about sex or relationships, and who don’t understand normal people, yet talk nonstop about their supposed labels where they have to categorize and name every single irrelevant aspect of all the sex they don’t actually have…

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Okay but I'm said to be very conventionally attractive, and I get much unwanted attention from girls who are trying to flirt with me. Still the only way I would be "attracted" to them is if they want to tie me up and hide me in their basement for some hours, and even then I'd be excited because of that kink, not the girl. And explicit elements are disgusting.

[–]makesyoudownvote 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I can't believe I am in the position of defending them, but they can. It's just that no one, including the alphabet people seem to understand the distinction.

Asexual means you're not attracted to males or females, it doesn't mean you have no sex drive. It is possible to be aroused not by a particular gender, but rather just by sex itself. This is far more common with women who can sometimes be aroused only by the concept of being stimulated with or without a partner doing the stimulation. They don't visualize the bodies of a partner the way normal people do to be aroused.

Then again, I do think most of these people have like one instance kinda like that and are thrilled they get to fall under one of the more obscure branches of the ever popular LGBTQIA2S+ umbrella.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That sounds like me, except sex isn't the stimulating act (bondage is).

[–]filbs111 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

If you think asexual is confusing wait until you hear about agender. Agender is people whose gender is they don't have a gender. But anyone who identifies as agender isn't agender because they have a gender (agender). They are actually a-agender, which is the gender for people who identify as a gender that is agender.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think agender could be useful for getting out of having to make up a bunch of weird gender stuff for yourself. agender any/all. Because gender isn't real.

[–]stoptheearth[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I never understood that. Isn't it the same as non-binary?

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Non-binary is anything not male or female. Including things like "cat" and "attack helicopter".

[–]filbs111 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Non-binary doesn't include non-ternary though.

[–]OuroborosTheory 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

thing is they jury-rigged all their explanations around the concept of dysphoria (first with the horrifying case of the Reimer twins, then to explain those who had surgery and hormones to actually do their best to switch sexes)

but the categories of "cis," "agender," "genderfluid," "nonbinary" are all basically all synonyms for "doesn't have dysphoria": there's no consistent way to separate them, the hivemind just went "that sounds right" to each boiled-down, Gender Studies 101 definition

[–]superiortocissiesthose poor TDS victims ;-; 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

:guh_cat: have you checked the definition (i didn't :3)?

i'm ace and i enjoy sex, mostly because my gfs' make fun noises :3

i just don't particualry care about whether i have it or not

[–]According-Junket-885 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are satyriasists in the ace spectrum?