If 2 encounters out of 5000 users is enough to make you have a meltdown, you're going to need to develop thicker skin. We simply cannot control things to that level. I did issue a warning for the AOC title, calling her "a bitch" is the bottom of the pyramid of debate. It's being addressed. Comments and posts like that should be reported, ideally.

You gotta be patient. People are going to disagree. People have been warned about their level-dragging on the pyramid of debate in the instances you speak of. I don't know what else I can do other than to just start banning people willy-nilly at the first sight of being slightly mean, and then this site is no longer a community resource but a dictatorship, and I don't think anyone wants that. I certainly don't.

We're applying the pyramid of debate, with a kind of "3 strikes you're out" type of approach. The community will never be flawless, it will be an ever-evolving process. We all have to try our best to raise the level of discourse, and the more we do, the more the emotional vitriol will stand out like a sore thumb, and the more easy it will be to remove it.

Be patient, be kind, be forgiving, and remember the pyramid of debate. It'll be ok. Some of the reddit rejects are nice people :) We just have to give time for things to filter out and for people to show their true colors, and apply the pyramid of debate. It will never be perfect, but will always be improving. That I can promise you.

"It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all"

There's a lot of good arguments against having a kid, and the OP is not one of them, imo. That's an argument out of fear.