Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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Nice, what a healthy/friendly custom.

Why do you like the Russian language so much?

Well, that's like trying to explain why I like the music that I like - it just sounds good to me. I feel the same way about Portuguese, which, to me, (and apparently to many others), sounds quite similar. Reduced vowel sounds, compressed consonant sounds, and tons and tons of жжж. It just sounds romantic and sexy to me. Some people feel the same way about French or Italian; different strokes for different folks. I've never heard anyone say they feel this way about English lol but I'm sure there's someone out there...(I think English is amazing for its flexibility, but not its musicality).

SaidIt Survey: Ban /u/socks and /u/ActuallyNot or keep them around? by JasonCarswell in AskSaidIt

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Okay, I'm curious: do you feel the same way about paid influencers? I agree with everything you said when it comes to free agents, but I think an exception should be made for shills, in the same way that I think individuals should be afforded maximum liberty but corporations should be held to a different standard.

‘Conflicting opinions’: IOC’s transgender guidelines delayed again until 2022 by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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“There’s going to be different criteria for different sports. If you compare archery to hockey to rowing, they require very different skills. And an elite athlete from one is unlikely to be an elite athlete in another."

No shit. But men have the advantage in all of them.

r/butchlesbians has fallen. by Tovasshi in LGBDropTheT

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Your logic is transphobic and your bigotry has been recorded.

r/butchlesbians has fallen. by Tovasshi in LGBDropTheT

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I still don't understand how non-binary is lesbian

They're now defining lesbian as "non-man attracted to other non-men".

r/butchlesbians has fallen. by Tovasshi in LGBDropTheT

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LOL I see that you were called a "Rowling-level T*RF" in one of those threads.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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Linguistics is just the study of language: its structure, development and cultural hallmarks. My program concentrated mostly on English and other Germanic languages, but we also studied the broader linguistic structures that are shared by all languages. And no, I'm not fluent in Russian. Realistically it will take several more years of study before I can claim fluency, but that would of course be accelerated if I spend time in Russia.

If you do decide to stay here, Take a trip on the Trans-Siberian to wherever you want, All of the areas are wonderful. If you want to get an authentic experience you have to find a typical communist block, Buy a good amount of cheap cigarettes (Low tax on them :) ) and a lot of cheap high proof alcohol and stand near the door and wait to make new friends, very easy way to get invited into someone's house for dinner. And don't forget sunflower seeds!!!

Great advice all around. Love the friend-making strategy lol. What's this about sunflower seeds? Is that a customary gift when visiting someone's home? I do enjoy sunflower seeds, but it would never occur to me to classify them in the same group as vodka and cigarettes 😆

Please help me debunk this TRA article by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Remember that woke lesbian sex guide? Guess someone could actually use one... by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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In the words of Cher Horowitz, that was way harsh. But likely accurate.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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I guess the place has hypnotized me a bit. It's different enough to feel exotic but similar enough to feel familiar; that's a delicious combination in my opinion. It also has that frontier vibe, which I suppose appeals to my American instincts. I love that Russia feels full of potential.

I left all this out of my first answer because it is very vague and subjective. Also, I think I understated my appreciation of the language. I got my degree in linguistics, so when I'm excited about a language, it's no small thing.

Do you agree with my theory of (modern) Russian resistance to totalitarianism? I admit it's conjecture, but I think it makes sense.

Oh, I looked up the places you recommended and they definitely look worthy of a visit. The Karelia region also appeals to me, as does the far east.

What is the most dangerous drug? [Spoiler: it's alcohol!] by TheAmeliaMay in Prohibition

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Archive with full text: https://archive.ph/HFwCX

Representative Matt Gaetz calls for Nicki Minaj to be President Donald Trump's running mate in 2024 by AXXA in politics

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They can’t lose.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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The racial thing, don't even get me started. These people just can't hold in the opportunity to show their racism when it comes to this can't they?

I know they want it to be some clever gotcha moment, but it ends up demonstrating that they don't understand why racial segregation is unjust, either because they hold racist beliefs or because they're amoral virtue signalers who don't actually care about which policies create the most safety, dignity and fairness for everyone.

TRA Argument, need some help (having to do with bathroom) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

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Do fathers of babies just walk into women's bathrooms and change their baby's diapers in there? I could've sworn that the only time this may happen is if the bathroom is a family bathroom no?

Just like u/lefterfield, I have never once seen this. I've never even heard of it happening. So I think it's a pretty unlikely hypothetical.

But I also think it's a stupid hypothetical. The main issue with self-ID is that it's impossible to know (until it's too late) which men just want to pee and which men want to take advantage of women in a vulnerable space. If a man brings a baby in to use the changing station, however, it's obvious what his purpose is for being there.

This guy's racial segregation analogy is even more idiotic, and I suspect disingenuous as well.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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A few things appeal to me:

  • cost of living - what gets me a very modest place here would get me one of the nicest apartments in Moscow. Life in general is just much, much cheaper in Russia.

  • lack of authoritarianism - totalitarianism is growing here, and it's influencing our legal and educational systems. My guess is that this is less likely to happen in Russia since people there have lived under such a system and can remember its consequences.

Those are the main attractions. I also love the language and would like to get really good at it. And I like that Russians prefer deep bonds and meaningful conversations to small talk and superficial connections.

Liberals are now policing feminist jokes by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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I'm not saying that they're exactly the same or that if you support one you have to support the other. I'm saying they share the same structure. They don't use the same recipe but they do use the same formula.

This video may explain it better than I can.

Who are you on a genital spectrum? I'm chaotic neutral minge by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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But there's curly kale, dino kale, baby kale, etc. Some tougher cuts of steak actually mimic the chewing experience of eating hearty greens, and obviously the same dressing used in a cis kale salad can be used to marinate steak. So while it's fine to have salad preferences it's worth examining the often misguided assumptions behind them.

How many lives has Judith Butler ruined? by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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I agree with you (and with both of you, in a way). Judith Butler is not the public face of this movement. I'd be more than willing to bet actual dollars on most reddit/twitter/tumblr users not even being familiar with Butler's name let alone her published works. But her ideas have absolutely saturated the culture, particularly in younger demographics.

Intersectional feminism is failing Indian women by BiologyIsReal in GenderCritical

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Well stated. I honestly believe that intersectionality is the most strategically brilliant and evil idea to emerge from the late 20th century. It takes a simple, easily understood truth and fashions it into a rubric that determines social position based on superficial identity categories. That's no accident, either - in Mapping the Margins Kimberle Crenshaw basically admits that it's not so much the case that racism and other -isms are a problem, but rather that we just haven't been applying them correctly. It's a power-grab that emboldens the most controlling and attention-seeking types of people and doesn't actually help the groups it pretends to champion.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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Sorry for the delay. I thought I'd do some research in order to give an informed reply, but I don't really have time. Truth is, I'm not in tune with Estonian politics so I can't comment on them. I'm Baltic in terms of heritage, and somewhat in terms of culture, but I'm not even close to having a native's perspective.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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Sure, I can help mod.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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I had hit the 'remove' instead of 'report' button, and then wasn't sure what to do, as I could not find an option to cancel the removal.

You can just hit the 'approve' button and the post will be restored.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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No, I removed the post. You can see it in the log - it's the one from 14 days ago. The deleted comment was my own. I nixed it after OP had already replied to me, so I was sure they'd received the message.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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Oh true. I've disabled it on my account so I almost forgot that that was the default setting.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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I've done it. That deleted comment was from me, letting the OP know that their submission would be better suited to a sub like s/Food. If you tag the OP the notification should still show up in their inbox even after the post has been removed.

I appreciate that this may seem trivial in /s/censorship, though for what it's worth... by socks in censorship

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I don't think mod demotion can in any way be construed as censorship. And I don't think that's what you meant but it's unclear from your post. As for removing duplicates I think it's okay if both of the following conditions are met:

  • The content is an exact duplicate - so if there are two posts about the same news item but each links to a different source, both posts should remain.
  • There is no engagement on the post - but to be safe, perhaps before removing the post the mod should tag the OP in a comment that redirects to the older duplicate?

National Security and Defense Council chief: Ukraine must switch to Latin alphabet, make English compulsory from kindergarten by Budget-song-budget in WorldNews

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make English compulsory from kindergarten

Ok

must switch to Latin alphabet

Wtf why? If they start learning as young as kindergarten they can easily pick up two alphabets.

Less masculine men who are uncomfortable with their absence of manly qualities are on average more likely to commit physical assault, inflict injuries on others, and drink driving (I was wondering what some radfems think of this). by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical

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This might get more traction/generate good responses on s/gendercriticalguys.

What stood out to me was the second part of the title: "More likely to commit violent assaults with weapons and to cause injury if they feel others see them in this light too". Inability to regulate one's own self-esteem makes a person totally vulnerable to the evaluations of others. Oftentimes it makes them obsessed with markers of status (such as masculinity for a man) because high status = positive evaluation (from external sources) = safe self-image. This sounds like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, more specifically narcissistic rage.

We should get rid of gendered expectations, but narcissistic violence will always find a scapegoat. I'm not interpreting this from a radfem lens but from from a psychological one.

Liberals are now policing feminist jokes by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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When I talk about liberals I'm referring to people who support the principles of liberalism in the philosophical sense. I understand that the term has been bastardized to mean something else colloquially, which was the main point of my comment above.

And how are woke people neomarxist?

That's why I specified that they are culturally neomarxist, in that they apply the Marxist oppressed/oppressor dichotomy that traditionally described the 1% and the other 99, to other axes that have nothing to do with economics and often have nothing to do with real oppression either. Some of these groups are defined by immutable material characteristics and some aren't, but woke types don't seek equality of opportunity between such groups anyway; they want power and equity. I'd say that that is also anti-liberal.

I agree with everything else you wrote, though.

Liberals are now policing feminist jokes by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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I didn't know that. This is interesting, because apparently concepts do have concrete meanings for at least a fraction of these people. Acceptance via self-identification isn't sufficient for Cara anymore because now she's outed herself as not authentically ideologically 100% queer.

Liberals are now policing feminist jokes by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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People who are colloquially referred to as liberals often aren't. What kind of liberal opposes basic liberties such as freedom of expression? These people are cultural neomarxists, and given that they've been the driving force behind cancel culture for the past decade or so, I'm not surprised by this at all.

Thank you for validating my big-dick lesbian energy uwu uwu uwu by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I know ‘impotent’ can have a more generic meaning, but I think it's great that it's this r/dickvalidation user's choice insult.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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Thank you for the helpful reply - that's encouraging information. I'm Estonian but I live in America, hence the Mexican food addiction.

This is a Pandemic of the Obese by AXXA in politics

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Obesity can be cured by simply jogging three miles a day

You really can't jog if you're obese.

Служить России. Военная песня by Zvezda in For_Slavs

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Служить sounds kinda dirty.

Anyway I am thinking of moving to Russia but I don't know if I can live without Mexican food. I've heard Georgian food is similar but I am skeptical.

Apparently all you need is Viagra and/or a very vivid imagination by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It seems to be that young people have been trained to believe that they are responsible for everyone else's feelings

Codependency en masse

Hurt deeply by "bisexual" friend by Hera in Lesbians

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This is hard to believe when you have low self-esteem, but the fact that she hooked up with a guy 40 years her senior only says things about her, not you. It's not like this old guy is universally preferable to you; it was one choice made by one person and says absolutely nothing about your desirability or worth.

She apparently has never had sex with a girl other than in a 3some that involved a man.

Did you know this before you asked her out?

I think therapy will help you with boundaries and with developing a less distorted self-image. As for surviving the pain: I think we never feel more emotionally connected to ourselves than when we're going through shit. Journal, read poetry, watch tragic love stories, listen to Boys for Pele...it might sound like twisting the knife a little bit but it's what works for me. Heartbreak feels horrible but it also makes you feel really alive.

Gender Questioning by JasonCarswell in Sex

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Can the sex (ie. chromosomes) of a person or animal still be binary, male or female? Or is this not politically correct now too?

It is considered politically incorrect to bring this up, yes - but if a queer theory advocate chooses to engage with the debate, they will usually counter by bringing up intersex conditions and/or saying that the division of sexes by chromosomes is nothing more than a social construct.

Am I correct in thinking that "gender" now refers to "gender identity" which may mean whatever anyone wants it to mean?

It really depends on who you're conversing with, but yeah this is the safest assumption.

If a person's gender is not binary (male/female), then why still use the terms "masculine" and "feminine" to describe people? Doesn't that verify the reality of a binary nature?

I think they view gender as a continuum, and assume that people who are/identify as men and women exist at either terminal of that range. I can't quite figure out whether they see masculinity and femininity as social constructs or as endemic traits and I don't think they know either.

If a person's gender is not binary (male/female), then why are there even feminists? Shouldn't they all be humanists?

2nd-wave feminists, material feminists and radical feminists agree with you. Feminists who embrace queer theory would say, I think, that we still need feminism because women (including trans women, in their philosophy) are not oppressed so much on the basis of sex as they are on the basis of which gender society perceives them to be (the assumption being that society sees trans women as women). A lot of people mistakenly believe that wokeness operates on oppression points. This may be have been true in the past but now it's more like oppression + transgression of societal norms, with transgression being far more important.

Can I sexually identify as a Black lesbian dwarf yet look like and behave as a cis white male?

No, you are only allowed to identify as one of those things (lesbian). You will be vilified and ridiculed for identifying as either of the other two, no matter how much you change your appearance and behavior. Critical theory holds that the categories of man and woman have no material basis and are instead defined by gender, which is subjective, but also recognizes race and disability as material realities.

Can I consider myself "MehBisexual"? Now there's this "SuperStraight" thing that I don't get yet, nor really care. I was only bi for about 10 horny years of my life, willing to stoop to doing fat chicks or dudes against my preference for excellent specimens of women. Eventually I quit stooping because it wasn't worth it, and it wasn't fair to them, nor myself. I'm not ashamed, nor have pride, nor feel super - I'm just meh about it.

I don't know. It sounds like you weren't attracted to them, so I'd guess no, probably not bisexual. Did their bodies turn you on or was it really just a case of libido + opportunity? Do you fantasize about men and/or could you see yourself hooking up with them again in the future? No need to answer these here, of course - they're meant to be self-reflection questions.

I don't even know which gender sub to post this to, so my default is /s/Sex

I think this would have generated interesting responses in s/GenderCritical and s/GCdebatesQT. s/Sex makes perfect sense too but apparently no one was participating at the time.

Welcome by Greykittymomma in Nosubnamesarefree

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FYI there's also s/GenderCriticalUSA and s/WorldWomensDiscussion. The latter is totally dead but I bet you could petition to mod it.

Saidit.net Canary #20 by magnora7 in SaiditCanary

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Hey I know I'm new but... by ungratefulbitch in SaidIt

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That's the second request from a brand new account today.

I've been lurking r/GC and Ovarit nearly daily for several years.

Pretty amazing given that Ovarit is barely a year old and the subreddit was banned over a year ago.

Both: What do you think about the arrest in the Wi Spa transgender incident? by worried19 in GCdebatesQT

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Wikipedia claims that the Proud Boys and QAnon were at the protest, while saying that Antifa's presence is "disputed", lol. Normally I think complaints of wikipedia's bias are exaggerated, but this is ridiculous.

Queer Theory Jeopardy! with Professor Derrick Jensen (6:05) by soundsituation in CultureWars

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Filmed at the Eugene Public Library in 2018. Things have gotten even scarier since then; I doubt this guy would be "platformed" by the same place in 2021.

Gender Ideology 101: The origins by JoeyJoeJoe in LGBDropTheT

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That was difficult to watch but well worth the discomfort to see the guy maintain an absolute spine of steel while his hecklers can only answer with meaningless epithets. Maybe it's because I was reminded of the Evergreen College debacle but I had a feeling that this must have taken place in Oregon and sure enough, according to this upload it happened at the Eugene Public Library in 2018. Oregon really seems to be at the vanguard of woke totalitarianism in the US.

Robert Bruce - Astral Dynamics by Stankmango in dreams

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Link is broken but here is the relevant YouTube channel: Astral Dynamics

When they say the quiet bit out loud by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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So she cherry-picked four photos of men with furrowed brows and took that as evidence of forced masculinity, which is homophobic for some reason. Airtight!

Also, why does "Bryn" put "Bryn's" own name in scare quotes?

Is my cat, Gizmo, violent because he's half black? by AmericanMuskrat in debatealtright

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I have five cats right now and my all-black one is by far the sweetest of the group. Extremely friendly and extremely attached: she greets me when I come home, comes in to cuddle early in the morning, requests pets before eating and even prefers to be pet while eating, often follows me from room to room. She's a total sweetheart. At some point I'd like to do the cat DNA test because I think she might be part Bombay, a breed noted for their loyalty and affection.

Growing up I had an all-black male cat who was very tribal. He loved us but hated strangers and most other neighborhood cats.

The Best Occasional Dresses: Unstitched Occasion Wear Collection from Top Designers by gangafashions23 in dreams

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u/d3rr Could I mod s/dreams? The current mod was last active three years ago. Lots of spam in here but it could be a cool sub.

The Dangerous Denial of Sex by bluetinfoilhat in GenderCriticalUSA

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Here is an archive link: https://archive.ph/dk1sO

Marc and the Mambas - Black Heart by soundsituation in Gothic

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My ex texted me this on Valentine's Day

Radical Female Reproductive Strategy!!! by rudeboy96 in GenderCritical

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Please don't drag down discussion on the pyramid of debate.

Gender critical USA will be revived by bluetinfoilhat in GenderCritical

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Maybe they meant s/GenderCriticalUSA? There are some new posts there from OP so it seems like they are reviving the subsaidit. I agree with you about reddit though.

Kinda intimate rant... Kinda NSFW by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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For me, verbalizing sexual thoughts (to people who aren't intimate partners) doesn't feel particularly important or satisfying. Like, I don't get anything more out of talking about it than I do just indulging in private fantasy. I wonder if this is in part a cultural difference; where are you from? I dated a Brazilian girl for a while and she and most of her family were more like you.

Or do you think it's a matter of finding the "right" friends?

Yeah, in your case I definitely think so. Straight/bi men are great for this if it's just matter of being able to speak about sex uninhibited but if you're looking for females specifically it sounds like you need more les/bi women in your life, or at very least some straight female friends who love talking about sex as much as you do.

For GC: what makes someone trans? by [deleted] in GCdebatesQT

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What makes someone trans is them saying that they are trans. It has no meaningful referent.

Weekly Social Chat by artemisiagrey in Lesbians

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Oh wow, how very unfortunate for them both

Crash Test Dummies - Mmm Mmm Mmm Mmm (Official Video) by AmericanMuskrat in MusicVideos

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one of the weirdest pop songs of all time

The “same-sex attraction” dog whistle by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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When you try to change the meaning of words, don't be surprised when people find new words.

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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OSA = opposite sex attracted

I just find it weird/frustrating/sad that so many lesbians don't trust their own intuition when it comes to assessing other women's sexuality and sexual interest. I think that's odd for an adult of any sexual orientation. Part of being a social animal is having/cultivating the ability to pick up on another person's attraction to you, and I've noticed that a lot of lesbians seem to lack faith in their ability to do this, and also seem to have very little tolerance for the completely normal sensation of ambiguity that EVERYONE feels when they're making this assessment. Sometimes you know right away that someone is attracted to you, but usually it takes multiple interactions to figure it out (especially with women), and I've noticed that lesbians in particular are very uncomfortable with that window of uncertainty.

I'm not basing this only on their preference for dating apps; it's something I've noticed irl as well as in internet forums. And I don't know if it's exclusive to lesbians. Gay men may be the same way but I don't know because I don't have any insight into their community.

Also you can meet people already by having established a connection via chat, making it far easir to click in person.

This isn't my experience at all, but I can see why someone might feel that way.

Weekly Social Chat by artemisiagrey in Lesbians

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Sounds hot tbh. I hope she breaks up with that ugly bf so you can make a move on her. If you want.

How many of your friends have transitioned? by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

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Just one, an old friend from high school. A lesbian who was repeatedly molested by her male cousin when she was a kid. She actually transitioned way before the social contagion had really spread, pre-2010 iirc. I have no idea how she's doing now because she cut me and our mutual friends out of her life and all her social media is private, but as far as I know she's still living as a trans man.

My plan for a possible future Reddit community by neomarxist_bullshit in For_Slavs

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Good post.

It's hard to get new dot win subs made.

I've always wondered why this is. Any insight?

A poor soul's heart is aching over DroptheT meanies at Saidit by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Imagine if we applied this elsewhere - we queer the concept of gravity because then we will no longer be able to talk about why things fall, thus preventing plane crashes ...

Your hypothetical is less far-fetched than you might think. Replacing materialism with social constructivism is sadly nothing new.

A poor soul's heart is aching over DroptheT meanies at Saidit by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Right? Even if it wasn't historical revisionism it would still be pretty irrelevant. Why should we be expected to support a terrifying agenda that we vehemently disagree with just because they (allegedly) did us a solid half a century ago? That's mafia mentality. The whole stonewall debate is a smoke screen.

What's your favourite type of chocolate? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

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I usually go for dark but I like it all. Snickers is my favorite candy bar. Trader Joe's makes an incredible sea salt and caramel filled dark chocolate bar that I also love.

Weekly Social Chat by artemisiagrey in Lesbians

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I saw my "straight" crush for the first time in almost a year.

Is she a bi in denial?

Trust me, everyone already knows. No haircut needed. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Big fucking mood. I agree with all of this. Weird haircut confidence is often over the top imo, though I also happen to not like the aesthetics either.

Question - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I'm sort of getting the impression that homosexuals try not to hit on someone unless they know they are bi/homosexual (is that right?), but I've had great luck with randoms.

I've noticed this too but have never discussed it with anyone, so it's fascinating to consider the possibility of it being a legitimate trend. I have no idea if this is a thing with gay men, but it seems like the majority of lesbians have a low tolerance for ambiguity in these matters, combined with what appears to be a strangely low level of trust in their own ability to read others' sexuality and degree of attraction. I do understand why a person would want to avoid developing a crush on a false positive, but I've always found it strange that lesbians seem to have such poor gaydar, or such little faith in their gaydar.

Anyway, I'm gay but I'm like you: most of the women I've had big feelings for have been randoms, and I'd much prefer to just feel things out in the wild than use a dating app. The whole ambiguity aversion thing actually makes me feel pretty alienated from most lesbians, but that's another story.

Edit: this might just be a female-typical trait that lies dormant in straight women in the proto-dating phase since men are a bit easier to read and since it's understood that OSA men are so plentiful. I don't know.

Why have we (especially L&G) been so hated through history? by usehername in LGBDropTheT

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I think it might depend on the nature of the hatred, which I suspect varies on an individual basis. Does it come from a visceral disgust? Resentment/jealousy over our failure to conform to expectations? The simple aversion to that which is different? It could also be religiously motivated, although I think that's probably more of a justification for underlying prejudice. These are the big reasons I've encountered. I suspect nonconformity is the most basic one.

They said the same thing when I was a kid: Gen Z students are less educated, more depressed and lack values by AmericanMuskrat in whatever

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That sounds like their brand of fuckery for sure.

I didn't mean to imply that *Baby Boomers were objectively worse. I asked you because I know your politics and because the BB generation saw the genesis of the New Left.

Why have we (especially L&G) been so hated through history? by usehername in LGBDropTheT

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I can't speak for TWF, but for me it's the diction, the tendency towards screed, and (this is the big one and the thing that always gets him or her in trouble) the focus on intersectionality/demonizing subgroups. Hang around long enough and it gets obvious.

bIsExUaLiTy Is A nOn-BiNaRy SeXuAlItY by usehername in Bisexuals

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Doesn’t ‘bi’ mean ‘two’?

It does! But like many words ‘bisexual’ isn’t that literal.

LOL. Thanks for the link and explanation. About what I thought, though impressively even less intelligent.

bIsExUaLiTy Is A nOn-BiNaRy SeXuAlItY by usehername in Bisexuals

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Okay, I had never heard that expression before.

They said the same thing when I was a kid: Gen Z students are less educated, more depressed and lack values by AmericanMuskrat in whatever

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So do you think Boomers > Gen X? Also, how do you (as in you personally) define the start point of societal decline?

bIsExUaLiTy Is A nOn-BiNaRy SeXuAlItY by usehername in Bisexuals

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I assume this is in reference to those who say bisexuals are necessarily attracted to people at the extremes of gender nonconformity (ie the uncanny valley trans)? If so...yeah, this is why I think "superbi" is legitimate. It doesn't exclude people on the basis of sex like the other super orientations but it does exclude the frankentrans. I suppose this position also legitimizes pansexuality, but I think that's okay as long as it's understood as a subset of bisexuality and not its own orientation.

The Top 80+ Websites Available in the Tor Network by skeech in whatever

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Most of the links don't work. :/

What do you all think about r/ActuallyLesbians? by UneedREM in Lesbians

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It's something I made up when I realised that REM phase completion is important to get a satisfying sleep.

Interesting. I know REM is important, but what's the significance of completing a phase? My understanding is that we can typically only recall dreams when an REM phase is interrupted, which, if true, kinda makes me a fan of curtailed REM.

I don't feel welcome anywhere as a gay man by Ice-Kagen in LGBDropTheT

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Okay, I can't resist a side tangent: have you seen Promising Young Woman? I think you might love it.

It´s all homophobia? Always has been. by howdidthishappen in LGBDropTheT

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True, there are some good apolitical subs there.

It´s all homophobia? Always has been. by howdidthishappen in LGBDropTheT

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No, I can't stomach it anymore. It's a creepy place and I got tired of walking on eggshells. I know that some people here still use reddit, though, and I'd encourage them to share stuff like this and/or promote this space, if they are comfortable doing so. I disagree with the poster who recommends only mentioning this sub in DMs. What is there to lose? (To be clear, you will be risking your account, but that's what burner accounts are for. And fwiw I used to promote saidit at every relevant opportunity and sometimes had my comments deleted, but no worse than that.)

What do you all think about r/ActuallyLesbians? by UneedREM in Lesbians

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I think it's a waste of time but it's pretty good for reddit.

Your username is awesome btw!

So America is great you say by Brewdabier in whatever

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I'm surprised to hear that. I'm guessing you're in north OC? South OC is much whiter.

So America is great you say by Brewdabier in whatever

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Just go to Whole Foods or something. Tons of cheese tons of bread.

It´s all homophobia? Always has been. by howdidthishappen in LGBDropTheT

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Brilliant idea. If you're on reddit I think you should consider posting there as well (r/SocialJusticeInAction maybe).

hookah smokin catapilar by hookah21 in Introductions

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What is the closest thing to Jefferson Airplane today? Animal Collective, maybe? But I suspect there is really no comparison.

[Particularly] Lesbians of s/GC: would (could) you date a girl with pro-trans views? Is trans support a red flag in LGB circles? by jjdub7 in GenderCritical

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If we're talking about someone who has really thought through all of this and is still pro-QT, no. I wouldn't respect her, so that's a non-starter. It's not just the magical thinking because I have dated religious women with no problem; it's the failure/unwillingness to see the incredible damage of things like self-ID, child transing and the chilling totalitarianism of the whole movement.

Any strategies for finding the sane pockets of LGB when navigating dating here in the post-homosexual era?

Nobody likes my dating strategy because it entails long stretches of singledom, but I like to get to know people organically (during which time you can assess their views on all kinds of things) before considering them romantically.

Gold medal favorite gifts his bracelet to the guy who beat him by soundsituation in pics

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“When I left my room earlier, I told myself that if someone beats me today, I will give him my bracelet. Jakob beat me, so I give it to him.” -Timothy Cheruiyot

In all 12 of their previous races together, Cheruiyot had won.

Lets do a (possibly) funny thing. Let share our character type. I start: by [deleted] in AskSaidIt

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I don't think MBTI is a good typology, but I'm xNFP.

Bill to ban conversion therapy poses problems for therapists - opinion article in The Irish Times (supports ban on conversion therapy aimed at changing sexual orientation, and observes that affirmation-only gender dysphoria approach may in some cases constitute conversion therapy) by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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My therapist told me that most of the therapists she knows refuse to see transgender patients for exactly this reason. So the Hegelian “conversion therapy ban” ends up hurting trans people doubly by making access to mental healthcare much more difficult.

"I want to date lesbians" is a valid reason for transition by kaenorr in LGBDropTheT

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Thanks for putting this all together. As crazy as these numbers and correlations are, I'm honestly not surprised by any of it.

A couple things that stood out to me:

-the relatively low prevalence of BPD in that Iranian study. I'm not particularly surprised by this either but it's an interesting exception to the "Cluster B rule". Imo antisocial PD and histrionic PD make a lot more sense as NPD comorbidities in the trans community, especially the intolerant and demanding faction of it that has risen to prominence.

-the especially high levels of NPD in those who undergo "gender-affirming treatment". This makes so much sense to me too. My guess is that this subgroup is made up of exhibitionist narcissists in particular, who are especially image-conscious.