Is there really a difference between "How do you Know that you're homosexual, have you tried my dick?", and "You homosexuals should experiment with the opposite sex (trans), so that you can be sexually available to us."?

dilsency · 2021-09-05T06:38:27+00:00

Fuck your comfort

Thanks for at least saying it out loud, I guess.

dilsency · 2021-12-23T14:05:17+00:00

He really thinks lesbians seek out transwomen for validation, lol.

Everything in the world is telling me that if I want to be a woman, I need to date a man.

Society is not telling men to date men. Quite the opposite, society would be thrilled if you dated a woman, like most men do.

dilsency · 2022-05-27T13:34:58+00:00

Gays and lesbians also do things separate from one another, yes. There's no animosity or forced exclusion however, because we shockingly have the decency not to include ourselves in spaces that are not for us.

dilsency · 2021-10-24T09:17:51+00:00

Gay man:

This is what I'm attracted to.

Other person:

Except that's 100% untrue.

dilsency · 2020-11-20T09:10:33+00:00

Well, great. If we didn't face hostility from TRAs, some of us wouldn't realize that we need to prioritize our own community, where people actually have things in common (same-sex attraction).

dilsency · 2021-01-08T08:53:01+00:00

Karl-Maria Kertbeny did, a homosexual man at the beginning of organized same-sex activism (1869).

The idea that homosexuality is somehow an invention by the heteropatriarchy... please stop.

dilsency · 2021-10-21T19:44:37+00:00

Losing attraction based on new information is very normal. Especially if it's conflicting.

dilsency · 2021-09-16T09:41:47+00:00

Why doesn't the app just let you specify if you are attracted to transwomen in the first place?

dilsency · 2020-10-21T10:45:38+00:00

What do they mean by toxic? Not being validating? Understanding biological sex? What specifically is the problem?

dilsency · 2021-11-26T09:12:22+00:00

Cis men who are strictly gay tend to also lean towards transphobia because their definition of gay involves genitals rather than gender.

Males being only attracted to males is the definition of gay. You only have to be yourself to be "transphobic".

dilsency · 2021-09-07T08:52:02+00:00

not only did I realize I'm trans, but overnight I went from being straight to gay

So she went from liking guys, to... liking guys? Why is this confusing for her?

dilsency · 2021-11-14T16:17:21+00:00

For the rest of us, honestly acknowledging our sexual orientation and dating the sex(es) we’re into doesn’t suck at all.

Somehow I never thought of this response, lol. Them claiming "it is time for us all to agree that it sucks to be reduced down to genitalia" is pure projection; us commonfolk do not mind at all being recognized as being of the biological sex that we are. Please, call me a man because of me being male. Go right on ahead.

dilsency · 2021-01-27T11:53:27+00:00

"Passing" in a handpicked image is one thing. Could this person pass in person, or when hearing them talk? They certainly couldn't pass in the bedroom.

dilsency · 2022-03-31T07:27:19+00:00

No, homosexuals are not going to undergo conversion therapy for you. Gays and lesbians are not the ones committing violence against trans people. Stop blaming us.

dilsency · 2022-02-18T08:44:26+00:00

Same-sex attracted people need to celebrate and organize around exactly and only that: same-sex attraction.

dilsency · 2022-01-31T10:29:05+00:00

Why is he blaming the women who get cheated on?

dilsency · 2021-10-20T08:03:10+00:00

Maybe it's naive of me, but I'd like to believe people are generally non-confrontational. People wouldn't feel the need to spell out their sexual orientation if they felt like their boundaries were respected in the first place.

dilsency · 2020-12-20T11:29:45+00:00

What losers, lol.

dilsency · 2022-05-03T06:24:14+00:00

Somehow deep down I knew I was queer even when I thought I was a straight cis woman.

🤡

I rejected any suggestion that I might be gay

You wouldn't have this inner turmoil if you understood that gay describes a homosexual person.

dilsency · 2022-02-07T13:47:17+00:00

Homosexuals deal with pressure from society to convert to heterosexuality our entire lives. Conversion therapy is just the most overt version of this.

TRAs will never understand this experience, they're more likely to be the perpetrators.

dilsency · 2022-03-23T14:24:18+00:00

I'm basically aro until I make a relationship/bond/connection with someone

I was under the assumption that aro meant you didn't have romantic connections with people. This person doesn't have romantic connections with people... until they have a romantic connection with them? What?

dilsency · 2021-06-27T16:42:52+00:00

You don't have to worry that gay men don't want your vagina. They don't. So don't worry about it.

dilsency · 2022-01-25T08:24:11+00:00

They want to appropriate gay culture so bad, lol. If the term doesn't fit ~~you must acquit~~ it's not for you.

dilsency · 2022-01-03T11:54:53+00:00

Except from 1869 and onward, when Karl-Maria Kertbeny coined the term homosexual and put forth a very liberating non-stereotypical view of gay men.

Where were all the innumerable trans women of color in the 1800s that ✨started it all✨ and ✨saved the community✨?

EDIT: Wikipedia has created a page called the first homosexual movement that I'm certain didn't exist until not long ago. Very useful given historical revisionism.

dilsency · 2022-01-04T19:15:35+00:00

me me me

dilsency · 2021-11-30T20:47:50+00:00

People really shouldn't worship celebrities of any kind.

dilsency · 2020-11-15T12:16:58+00:00

The trans spokesperson "enlightening" straight people that their ~sexuality isnt' fixed~. Ridiculous.

dilsency · 2022-05-02T07:37:33+00:00

I wonder if some do know. My child is acting what I think a gay person acts like - let's nip that in the bud.

dilsency · 2022-02-10T16:20:17+00:00

If there's one thing gay men like, it's hanging out with other gay men. Why? Because most of their time is spent with people who are not gay men.

What's the appeal with turning places gay men frequent into ✨queer spaces✨? If gay men wanted to hang out with people who are not gay men they could go do that anywhere else.

dilsency · 2022-01-05T08:49:05+00:00

Lesbian is "non-man" interested in "non-men" now. Which isn't offensive at all. Just like only referring to African-American people as "non-white people" isn't offensive. /s

dilsency · 2021-12-18T08:58:28+00:00

it's time for us all to agree that it sucks to reduce people down to their junk

It's not time. I don't agree. Please call me a man due to me being biologically male.

dilsency · 2022-03-05T18:18:39+00:00

Some truth to it, for you.

dilsency · 2022-04-29T10:02:51+00:00

People being repulsed by certain genitals isn't uncommon. While some gay men can be quite explicit about it, I imagine it's a type of bonding of shared experiences, and the expression of it is simply exaggerated.

But of course, some people take things we say so literally when they want to. I remember people making a huge stink about the term "gold star gay" some time ago, describing it as an exclusive club and something that determined your "worth in the community". It's really not that serious.

dilsency · 2022-03-28T05:52:11+00:00

"person of alphabet" stoppp

dilsency · 2022-03-24T09:11:30+00:00

The same-sex attracted community is very different from the trans/gender/queer community, including in what they wish to accomplish (and what they demand from strangers).

The idea that all minority communities have the same goals and ideologies is very strange to me. A few of them would love for homosexuality to not exist at all.

dilsency · 2022-03-06T07:09:40+00:00

Superstraight and Supergay existed for a moment. I guess those are not dehumanising enough. They really want you to feel shame for being a homosexual.

dilsency · 2022-02-07T13:50:08+00:00

genitals =/= gender

Lesbians never claim to be attracted to "people of both sexes who call themselves women", they are only attracted to women.

dilsency · 2021-11-27T22:03:55+00:00

Gross. Homosexuals don't benefit from being told their sexual orientation isn't real. It's quite offensive actually.

dilsency · 2022-02-10T15:08:12+00:00

How is gender expression policed? What markers and characteristics do our literal gatekeepers lean into when making their judgements? Is self-identification enough? Or must we perform our gender in a way that satisfies the cultural undercurrent of the space?

How about the decency to not invite yourself? This is not an attack on you, stop playing a victim.

dilsency · 2022-01-03T09:43:55+00:00

"Genital preference" (aka sexual orientation) cannot be a result of ✨internalized transphobia✨ because society pressures people to be with people of the opposite sex. If ✨societal influences✨ really could change sexual orientation, all lesbians would already be attracted to males.

Pretending that society would be opposed to lesbians being with males undermines the struggles homosexuals go through, which is quite offensive.

EDIT: These people equating stereotypes with being a man/woman is frustrating. They don't see themselves in how women are portrayed in media, so they come to the false conclusion that they're not women. They don't find it attractive how men in media are portrayed, so they come to the conclusion that they aren't attracted to "men", except they are attracted to males that call themselves non-binary, males that call themselves trans women, including actual dick.

dilsency · 2021-12-09T09:04:08+00:00

Not all men appreciate being referred to as anything but a man simply for looking feminine.

dilsency · 2021-08-23T07:41:26+00:00

Normal LGB people are not proponents of thought policing. This is not something we want to be associated with.

dilsency · 2022-03-25T22:02:17+00:00

Thank you. They always gloss over this part.

dilsency · 2022-05-09T07:21:08+00:00

She seems to acknowledge that the gay men she talks to on Grindr don't actually want any of what she has to offer. She should have the decency to delete the app instead of treating it as her personal gay zoo.

dilsency · 2022-03-14T14:03:00+00:00

"It isn't arbitrary" killed me.

dilsency · 2022-03-05T18:20:24+00:00

it starts to feel strange to put men in categories based on this aspect of personality

"Gay" doesn't describe a personality type... it describes exclusive same-sex attraction.

dilsency · 2022-02-09T06:57:52+00:00

Because gay men are not real men? Where have I heard this before...?

dilsency · 2020-11-03T08:51:00+00:00

Edited photos handpicked by the person are one thing. You would be able to tell if you met them in person.

dilsency · 2021-12-16T09:46:16+00:00

It's all association. Gay men picture a clean butt in their mind, and that's what they look forward to.

I hardly think straight men (or lesbians) picture vaginas in the various states that naturally occur, I'd imagine they think of a clean and wet pussy (without discharge or blood).

dilsency · 2021-11-26T09:09:47+00:00

No joke, back when I was on tumblr I got pressured to become "polyamorous". Some people have no shame.

dilsency · 2022-04-23T09:19:14+00:00

we chat to former Staff Pride Network Co-Chair and Trans & Non-Binary Officer Rosie about what lesbian visibility means to her

Does it matter what Rosie thinks about lesbian visibility? He's not a lesbian.

dilsency · 2022-04-06T08:38:45+00:00

I mean... you get called transphobic for breathing whilst homosexual.

Either the word is used when it doesn't apply.

Or the word really refers to a person who won't undergo conversion therapy for the whims of strangers. In which case the word has no weight behind it since it applies to everyone.

dilsency · 2022-01-17T09:02:14+00:00

Why is being male never a privilege in these made-up hierarchies?

I'm assuming "aspec" is "asexual spectrum", but what is "mspec"?

dilsency · 2021-12-18T08:55:34+00:00

Further proof that "queer" is just a political stance.

Stop calling gays and lesbians "queer" by default. The default is not subscribing to gender ideology.

dilsency · 2021-12-16T09:48:38+00:00

It's all association. Gay men associate anal with a clean butt.

dilsency · 2022-05-03T16:47:07+00:00

my gender is Queer as I'm both Intersex and Gender Non-Conforming

Neither of those relate to gender identity (or same-sex attraction). How do they make you ✨queer✨?

dilsency · 2022-04-10T06:58:56+00:00

Neither Pride nor the Stonewall riots are important enough to me that I would lie to invent heroes out of any of the people who were there. There were other milestones, both before and after, but why talk about those?

dilsency · 2022-04-06T08:29:02+00:00

When I searched for “queer wedding,” I found images of happy, nontraditional ceremonies: husbands hugging, wives kissing. Many of them were masculine-feminine couples. [...] It is beautiful, sure, but it was more of the same: male/female, masculine/feminine, and suit/gown. I couldn’t envision myself in those roles. My sense of being the odd one out intensified.

Imagine being this obsessed with gender stereotypes that you think everyone around you is performing gender to the extent that you are.

Pondering who the wo/man in a same-sex relationship is says a lot about you, Claire.

dilsency · 2022-03-16T21:25:50+00:00

Gender ideology is framed as more progressive; this person clearly feels enlightened and is ready to preach.

Same-sex attracted people need to consider what they can relate to, and what is actually beneficial for them.

If gender is on a spectrum

"Gender" in this context is arbitrary and pointless. There are infinitely many ways to express yourself, and infinitely many words to use to describe yourself. This isn't profound.

then homosexuality doesn't really exist

Sexual orientation, including homosexuality, is based on biological sex. Biological sex exists even for people with gender identities.

dilsency · 2022-03-09T07:58:39+00:00

They really thought they did something.

dilsency · 2022-02-19T08:05:54+00:00

I mean, it's not uncommon to see transwomen claiming to have periods.

dilsency · 2021-10-26T07:43:10+00:00

Trauma is not the reason I'm unattracted to trans people. But telling people they need to "just get over" their traumatic experiences, to make this person happy, is very entitled and condescending.

EDIT: If calling this person male is "reducing him to when he disrobes", does he admit he thinks womanhood is feminine clothing?

dilsency · 2022-05-19T21:05:17+00:00

Just use multiple flags. This is an eyesore.

dilsency · 2022-03-25T21:59:54+00:00

If you start off with two whack statements, of course your conclusion is going to be whack.

dilsency · 2022-03-02T14:48:05+00:00

Clearly they aren't claiming to actually be speaking for every gay person. (cough ~~every gay male is exclusively interested in other males though~~ cough)

dilsency · 2021-10-31T14:47:58+00:00

It does not matter what is in my pants

This individual is clearly very heated about it. It matters to everyone else, and apparently it matters to them too.

dilsency · 2022-04-29T06:54:17+00:00

✨Lesbian culture is so rich and diverse.✨

dilsency · 2022-01-25T08:21:58+00:00

Straight people truly think clothes and cosmetics make them an oppressed minority. And that homosexuals are their oppressors. Wild.

dilsency · 2021-10-04T13:42:53+00:00

Thank you. I'm confused to who this is and why I should care about this post.

dilsency · 2021-09-16T11:57:50+00:00

You get a list of all logged-in users sorted by distance to you, and you can interact with all of them.

(at least that's how it was when I used it, some years ago)

dilsency · 2020-11-17T18:58:18+00:00

The bravery.

dilsency · 2020-09-23T20:50:40+00:00

I don't either. Too much dishonesty ("biological sex doesn't exist") and manipulation ("you homosexuals need to be available to us of the opposite sex"). And if you don't agree with either, you are not "correct" or a literal bigot, so everyone pretends.

dilsency · 2022-05-22T11:07:37+00:00

Banning therapy to become comfortable as gay IS the pressure to live as straight.

English is not my first language, so I'm having difficulty in parsing this sentence. If someone could elaborate that would be kind.

dilsency · 2022-05-17T07:26:55+00:00

It's like they're blaming them for being surprised. Their profile stated that they were a man (I'm assuming they didn't have a face pic). Then they send unsolicited pics of their entire vajine. I'd be taken aback too.

dilsency · 2021-07-10T10:36:07+00:00

“It also contains ‘homo,’ which is an old derogatory,” he added.

So do a lot of words. Homogeneous for example. What a dumb argument.

dilsency · 2022-05-24T22:25:51+00:00

How often do they think that happens?

dilsency · 2022-05-10T08:31:57+00:00

Most people do not have a gender identity. Most people don't have special requirements of how others are allowed to refer to them in third person (when they are not even present).

dilsency · 2022-04-19T15:39:18+00:00

you would think that a community built off the backs of trans people and people of color

Source please. From what I can gather, modern gay activism started in Germany and Austria in the 1860s, and it was centered around homosexual men.

dilsency · 2022-04-13T08:41:05+00:00

Conversion therapy kills

The conversion therapy that same-sex attracted people go through is not the same thing as seeking out the underlying reason that a young person may want to transition. Conflating the two is appropriating the struggles of same-sex attracted people.

dilsency · 2022-04-08T07:47:30+00:00

The idea that we are all in one big community is a joke. The same-sex-attracted side can't relate to the gender identity side, and vice versa. There isn't a characteristic that all members have in common.

If we were considered separately this wouldn't be a problem; conversion therapy based on sexual orientation should be banned, and the bill shouldn't be pulled just because it is unrelated to this other group.

dilsency · 2022-04-08T07:20:20+00:00

Would going to a therapist to seek out the underlying reason that a young person may want to transition (which can be many things mind you), constitute as trans conversion therapy?

dilsency · 2022-04-04T19:53:55+00:00

A lack of repeated exposure makes it difficult for straight society to empathize with us. Most people don't seek us out to engage with us or our issues.

But everyone has a gay cousin. Same-sex attracted people being less afraid to share their lives and experiences with their families does have a positive impact.

wasn't meant to be

Nothing is meant to be. We are able to influence how society views us.

dilsency