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[–]turtleduck23 41 insightful - 1 fun41 insightful - 0 fun42 insightful - 1 fun -  (16 children)

I hate when they say "you can't define my sexuality". A woman commented recently that she was a lesbian but the love of her life was a male (biological) and I commented "so you're bi?" and she replied "No, I identify as a lesbian. I feel more connected emotionally and sexually to women but my bf is the exception" and when I explained being sexually attracted to a man would make her bi she blew up that I can't define what she is. Women like her make it difficult for lesbians because so many lesbians have heard "you just have't met the right man" or "Sara is a lesbian and she now with a man so you just have to be open minded" and its because women like her masquerade as lesbians. Note, this is not a slam on all bi women because I know most are not like this, it just irritates me when a woman in a relationship with a man says shes a lesbian.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

There are way too many of those "I'm a lesbian but the love of my life is a dude" women. Like... If you love your husband so much, why is the label of lesbian so important to you? If I was married to some dude who kept on calling himself gay... Well, no I wouldn't even be married to him. That makes no sense at all. Can you even imagine how insufferable these women must be in real life??? "No! Words mean what I want them to mean! You can't define my sexuality! REEEE!"

[–]8bitgay 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

If you love your husband so much, why is the label of lesbian so important to you?

RIGHT? It's always double standards to them.

It's like this big discussion I saw on Twitter questioning if gay men can have sex with women (not even trans men, actual cis women). Most of the comments were on the line that labels don't matter, sexuality is fluid yadda yadda. If labels don't matter why do they insist on calling themselves gay, then? If labels don't matter then call yourself something else, or call yourself nothing at all! No need to state your sexuality at all.

[–]PopeyesChicken 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I saw a post on reddit that was something like “AMA I was exclusively lesbian until I met my boyfriend”. She kept talking about how sexuality is fluid. Lol but guess what... a few answers into her post she has a comment like:

“I always thought men could be cute and liked to make out with them at parties. But I never thought it would work for a lasting relationship before I met him”

So... you always liked men but you’re coming here to say you were “exclusively lesbian” and saying lesbians can change? Fuck you

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

These women get on my nerves

[–]PopeyesChicken 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It’s different because gay men aren’t fetishized in the way that lesbians are. Her husband is most likely thinking “man! I’m really good in bed - even lesbians can’t stay away from me!” I can almost promise you they are unicorn hunters too lol

[–]reluctant_commenter 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I had something super similar happen to me!! Person I was talking to was telling me about her "lesbian" friend who found her male love and married him, and "got kicked out of her lesbian community" and now goes around telling everyone she is lesbian still. I was like, calmly, "That's not lesbian, that is bisexual."

"But she feels deep down she is lesbian."

I'm like, "She can feel deep down anything she wants but it doesn't mean it is objectively true-- she is using her own different version of the word 'lesbian' that only means something subjectively to her. I can say I feel like I have 3 eyes but it doesn't mean it's true."

Cue a 20-minute discussion about whether words really have definitions. WTF. Oh and then it came up again when I was talking to her, and she changed her story-- told me her "lesbian" friend never told anyone she was lesbian. Seriously...?

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You can't spit logic and facts with these clown people

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 3 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

deep down I feel I am a male model....

[–]PopeyesChicken 12 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

This is a big pet peeve for me too! There are so many of them and it just looks so stupid. How can you be a lesbian when you have a husband? Does he think it’s that sexy that you keep saying it when you:

  • Sleep next to him every night

  • Have sucked his dick countless times

  • Have had his load in you countless times

  • Have probably given birth to his children

  • Took an oath that you would be with him until you die

  • Legally are part of his family

  • Legally, if you die, your property would go to him

  • Are in love with him

  • Love being with him more than any other person

Should I even go on lol. These women are so stupid.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have met bisexual men who are married to women, or they sleep with and have sexual attraction to women as well as men obviously, but they claim they are 'gay'.

Meanwhile, the men I know who actually are really gay/homosexual, even those that have had sex with women or were once married or partnered to women said sex with women just showed them they are gay/homosexual and not sexually attracted to any women at all.