I'm young, and I'm not super educated on the history, and so if I'm wrong, someone please correct me. But it seems like at some point in the gay liberation movement, people decided to divorce the idea that homosexuality and gender nonconformity are correlated, in order to normalize gay people (aka, "See, we're just like you!")
Except... homosexuality and gender nonconformity are correlated. Certainly not always, but often enough to be statistically significant. This isn't hearsay: it's verified by numbers.
And so, after being told that gender expression and sexuality have nothing, nothing to do with each other, the really butch girls and feminine boys were like, "Ok, so what's my gender nonconformity about, then?" So they went looking for answers, and found... weird ones.
(This is not remotely the only factor behind the trans phenomena. I don't even think it's the main one. This is just a factor I hadn't really thought about before, and am thinking about suddenly, and have some ideas about that I want to write down.)
TL;DR: It seems like in order to make gay people more palatable to the masses, the gender nonconforming tendencies that are common of many were downplayed. And now we've got a generation of butch lesbians and hyper-feminine gay boys who are transitioning. So I think the solution has to involve reincorporating gender performance, to some extent.
Logistically, I'm not sure what this would look like. And there's of course the danger of the other extreme, where gender conforming folks are told they're "not really gay." I don't know what the best approach would be done, but I gotta believe there's something that could help.
Like cross-dressing and using masculine nicknames used to be pretty standard butch behavior. Now they're steps in transitioning. There should be space for these things, without reading too much into them, but also without brushing them off as entirely meaningless. I don't know how that can be brought back, but it should be.
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