Whenever I see someone use "TERF" as an insult I lose all respect for them.

submitted by RedditHatesLesbians from self.GenderCritical

Instantly, I just can't take them seriously anymore. Similar situation if they start spouting any other radical TRA ideology, or even TWAW. I can get past it if it's a content creator I enjoy and compartmentalise, obviously. I can enjoy the art and work of all kinds of people that I disagree with. I can have a civil conversation with people who hold these views, it just makes me think that they're either virtue signaling or have very little critical thinking skills or they're trying to push the agenda for personal gain, and it's offputting. These people are also the sort who refuse to have a meaningful discussion about this topic. It's a real dealbreaker for relationships and even friendships at this point.

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[–][deleted] 25 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 2 fun26 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

These people are also the sort who refuse to have a meaningful discussion

I've tried so many times to talk to these people, yet all they do is screech like a bunch of imbeciles from 4chan.

[–]Moirawr 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah there was a video I was liking that mentioned “terfs bad” out of absolutely nowhere. Oh well, if it’s more important to virtue signal don’t be surprised when people you’ve alienated stop listening. I stopped using reddit completely and went to tumblr, because one there’s no porn (could you imagine the mantrum if all social media sites did that too?) and two seems to be lots of strong female voices not being silenced even if there are tons of genderists. Tumblr isn’t exactly great but I need something to fill the hours out during work lol

[–]JoeDzhugashvili 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It makes sense, radlibs aren’t worthy of respect

In the era of ecological, geopolitical, and economic collapse trans shit is so utterly irrelevant to the challenges mankind needs to face that I’d swear the entire issue is astroturfed by the wealthy since most people wouldn’t give half a shit in regular circumstances

[–]MezozoicGay 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

wealthy

Most people would not have money to even start transition as well.

[–]PassionateIntensity 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

x10. This issue has torn a smoking crater through every community and relationship in my life. It might as well be a psychological weapon designed to destroy civilization.

I can't trust anything I read from any source. How can I trust any govt organization, NGO, charity, or scientist, that says biological sex doesn't exist?! Fucking Forbes said biological sex doesn't exist last week. It's madness.

[–]marmorsymphata 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It's really an incredibly vapid term that does nothing more than announce, "I CANNOT THINK CRITICALLY", not to mention the asinine purity testing inherent in judging an entire movement by literally one measure.

The fact that it exists at all is misogynistic. Why the need to single out women specifically for being "transphobic" when there's skinhead men out there running around literally lynching trans people? There's a reason simple "transphobia" wasn't enough for them anymore, and I think we know why.

[–]censorshipment 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Name-calling in general is a conversation-ender. And I personally resort to name-calling when I can sense that debating is pointless. I enjoy indulging in immaturity and pettiness lol

[–]AdmiralPangolin 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Me once founded an NGO which was centered around lesbians (first and foremost) and other gays. Said NGO got overrun with TRAs. I left about 4-5 years ago. One month ago, I started to spread my terfishness around my social media, Twitter in particular. I shared the article "Sorry Sam Smith, but you are still a he", the chairman of said NGO replied with "fuck non-binary people" to which I replied "fuck women". We got into an argument (I wanted to say debate but there is no debate with these misogynists). The last thing I wrote to him was that men can't be lesbians, no matter if they are trans or not, he blocked me and screenshoted my responses on his fb page. Gay men are mysogynists, that's the bottom line.

[–]PassionateIntensity 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm convinced all men who are championing transwomen all over social media are doing it out of hatred and resentment of women.

[–]msteacherlady 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The first time I heard it from a real human being who was in my life, I had no idea just what that term would come to mean. Every time I think about what he said, knowing more and more what I know now, the more disappointed I become. He was such a great person with great potential, but then he started hanging out with a bunch of peter-pan enby nerds around the time of his breakup, and well, I'm just hoping he gets out of it.

[–]Realwoman 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Here might recover one day, don't lose hope

[–]crodish 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Let's not forget the ultimate zinger: okay, TERF /s

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The reply is "ok groomer"

[–]abyss_sith 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

it really is sad when coming from a person that you thought would be smart, logical, and expect more from. it bothers me when a person that im following on whatever site starts saying that rubbish if i like their other content, but what can ya do. at least the red flag is out there.

[–]Killer_Danish 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I ghosted a guy who went on a TWAW/T*RF rant. No point in wasting my time.

[–]CleverNickName 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I haven't come across anyone to respect because they never say anything, they never argue a point, they're always just shouting TERF, wishing violence upon people, endlessly and brainlessly repeating mantras like TWAW, and tell everyone to shut up and go away.

Even if they go beyond it and try to say something about our concerns, all they do is project, reduce it to something ridiculous, equate it with something preposterous, or any other number of cheap rhetoric tricks. Incidentally, all that emptiness on their side of the "debate" makes this post really hollow too. Now I have nothing to say either!

[–]luckystar 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's entered the mainstream dialog and people are now literally just using it to mean "any person that ever says anything that could be potentially construed as offensive to trans people".
Somebody told me the other day that the BBC are terfs...

[–]Delia 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It is so last year don't you think? A New Zealand journalist (female) apparently called a GC spokeswoman a f......g terf in conversation. This was reported back to her. Like she gives a stuff.