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[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (43 children)

I think sexuality is more nuanced than simply being attracted to birth sex. I am attracted to cis men and passing trans men. I don't consider myself bisexual.

I think trans people should disclose for their own safety, and I think disclosure is important for long-term relationships. But I wouldn't go as far as saying it is rape.

[–]strictly 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think sexuality is more nuanced than simply being attracted to birth sex.

Your sexuality is more nuanced than simply being attracted to only one biological sex but current available data shows being of the wrong biological sex is a sexual deal breaker for the majority of people (including me) even though it doesn't happen to be the case for you.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 1 insightful - 6 fun1 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

OK.

[–]littlebear 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is complete nonsense. Only a homophobe could put that string of words together. Only someone so deeply in denial or woefully unable to accept biolgical reality could type a sentence like that. Women-who-identify-as-men are still women. You know it, I know it, and the only reason you keep repeating this twaddle is because, for some unfathomable reason, you want it to be true. But it's not.

If you're attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual. Saying otherwise makes you a homophobe.

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

And bisexual is not a bad thing, why so often bisexuals are so ashamed to call themselves bisexual?

[–]worried19 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I am attracted to cis men and passing trans men. I don't consider myself bisexual.

I'm not one to police what label someone uses, but I'm curious if you've ever had sex with a trans man and how you felt about their naked body. I know for me, as a heterosexual, PIV with male genitals is the major attraction.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (4 children)

The only trans man I had sex with is post op trans man and it felt great.

[–]worried19 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

As a whole, less than 5% of transgender men have had procedures to create a phallus (8,32). One survey distinguished between the surgical options, reporting that 3% of transgender men have had phalloplasty and 19% want it in the future, while 2% have had metoidioplasty and 25% want it in the future (7).

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6626314

I'm not accusing you of lying, but if more than 95% of trans men have had no surgery, it seems odd to me that you would not only have found a passing trans men to have sex with, but one who has also had an exceedingly rare surgery. And at quite a young age. I had the impression you were in college?

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It could be teacher.

And surgery is not just rare, it is extremely expensive, in young age transmen do not have enough skin to even make it work, so need to take it additionally from other places of body, and in 99% of cases it has complications and need more surgeries than one (on average 17 per transman who is doing surgery). So that was either private college for rich kids, or that transman was a teacher - grown up. And considering GB is fine with grooming children, I guess it would be fine for her to do so.

[–]worried19 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, in addition to the extreme risk and extreme rarity, it's also a very expensive surgery. And she says he was a student at her school.

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Yes I was in college and he attended my school.