You guys were talking about blackpillers being demoralizing, but how could you not see this as being somewhat similar?

This is a good point, and I'm going to make a post about this.

It's almost like preemptively damning the ones that don't meet certain criteria to accepting that they're unlovable, and it doesn't make sense.

I think the accepted mainstream narrative is something like "looks don't matter at all when it comes to dating, human attraction is purely based on morality and has no superficial qualities whatsoever", which is totally insane and off-the-rails.

However, to counteract this, many people online adopt the position "looks are literally everything when it comes to dating, and if you don't have xyz qualities as a man then you are undatable", which (although our modern culture has certainly driven up the importance of looks) seems inaccurate. I think the truth is somewhere in the middle.