'Nobody told me how lonely being a man is': Transgender man weeps while explaining how much easier it was to make friends with 'open, vulnerable women' - and says he can see why suicide rate among males is higher

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[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (33 children)

Her breakdown is just more proof that she does not possess the brain of a man. We're just not wired to need the same intensity of social connection that women do. No amount of beard growing and baseball cap wearing is going to cover for that.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (20 children)

'I am an emotionally matured man, I know how to build friendships, and it's still really really hard.'

Emotionally mature men don't talk about being emotionally mature. If you are you are, you don't need to tell people about it.

Finally emotionally mature people don't go on Tiktok and cry about how hard it is to make friends.

Like seriously it is super fucking easy for men to make friends. Step one, don't be a fucking dumbass. Step two, go to the bar or join a sport or something with other people around.

You aren't gonna have it as easy as you did in school as an adult since adults are busy, but you go get a productive hobby that gets you out of the house and you will make friends. Some excellent manly hobby, like soccer, or alcoholism, or knitting. Loads of options.

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Yep, nobody told her that it's lonely being a guy because actual men don't find it lonely to be a guy. This is a classic example of the ladies just not getting it, like how they'll ask you what you're thinking about and can't wrap their head around it when you answer 'nothing'.

[–]FourteenDigitz 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sounds like you’re the one who doesn’t get it

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Let me be the first to congratulate you on your gender confirmation surgery.

[–]wylanderuk 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

like how they'll ask you what you're thinking about and can't wrap their head around it when you answer 'nothing'.

Or who would win bat man vs bobba fett? Or how easy would it be to trim the hedge with a lightsaber, or 1001 uses for a lightsaber or If I was Darth Vader I could shut you the fuck up with my mind...Or its a pity the mute button on the remote does not work on people.

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Totally Batman, as long as he was up against fat old Disney Boba Fett.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Batman wins against all versions of Boba Fett. Boba Fett is cool only when he doesn't do stuff. Forget the Disney heresies.

Boba Fett was at his most interesting without the suit, during that cartoon when he was trying to get revenge on Samuel L Jackson for killing his father. That's basically the only time he has any character.

In the originals he shows up in basically two scenes. And in one of them he dies like an idiot.

His one cool scene in the movies is when he hides in the trash and starts following the Falcon secretly. That's it. You don't even know his name in that movie. He's just a bounty hunter.

That trick was stolen from Obiwan anyway who used it against Boba Fett's father during their space battle.

The real question to ask is who would win in a battle between Bat-Man and Obi-Wan. That is a battle worth watching.

Bat-Man vs Boba Fett would go like this, Batman dodges Boba Fett's rope, throws batterang at Boba Fett and hits his Jetpack, Jetpack explodes, Boba Fett falls into the Alligator enclosure and gets eaten.

What kind of dumbass builds a jetpack for combat that is triggered by impacts?

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You nailed it. Batman vs Obi Wan, I'd put my money on Obi Wan, only because he's okay with killing people. That's a big edge.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Obi Wan wouldn't be able to use the "These aren't the droids you are looking for" on Batman so he looses one of his signature moves. Batman also being Batman would have some kind of lightsaber resistant SPF-9001 bat-spray in his utility belt which would make the weapon far less effective for Obi-Wan.

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

True, but Obi Wan could force push Batman into the Joker's loving arms.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are you sure you haven't just accepted it, because everyone forced you to?

[–]FourteenDigitz 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Emotionally mature men don't talk about being emotionally mature.

Yes they do lol. You just wouldn’t know because you have the emotional maturity of a newborn, as do 90% of men

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Hey guys look how emotionally mature I am! I am so emotionally mature that the existential doom of life and emotional hardship doesn't bother me because I'm an emotionally mature man with no emotions. Emotions are for women and babies! Not me I'm super mature!!! Look how super mature I am!!

Emotionally mature men will talk about their emotions sure. But they don't break down crying while broadcasting to the world how emotionally mature they are.

We break down crying when we are alone and nobody can see it.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

That's not maturity. That's fear of punishment for "failing society" by having even the slightest hint of weakness.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Society will destroy you for showing weakness. Like it or not, agree with it or not, that's a rational fear.

There's another reason, emotional breakdowns make other people uncomfortable, keep it to your very close friends if you must, but everyone else is dealing with their own shit as well and most likely doesn't want to deal with yours on top of it.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

They only make people uncomfortable if you're a man. If you're a woman they make everyone love you. Because men are worthless I guess, and women deserve everything.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Women have far more latitude to express emotion in public than men. But it really depends on the context and most of the time, emotional outbursts by women do make people uncomfortable, the main difference is an emotionally compromised man can be threatening, an emotionally compromised woman is often less so.

Regardless women are advised to adopt a demeanor that keeps them calm and collected even when under emotional stress, as while people are far more tolerant of emotional displays from women, it doesn't exactly lead to respect.

There are exceptions of course. Dealing with things like the death of a close friend or family member, crying at a wedding, or a funeral, there's a time and a place. But if you throw a tantrum in the doughnut shop because they are out of sprinkles, man or woman, nobody there will be comfortable with your shit.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Depends how she comes off I guess. If she's clearly just being a whiny bitch people will get annoyed. However if she seems genuinely in need people will feel sorry for her; whereas with a man they'll scold him and tell him he better get over it or they'll do something to him.

[–]exceed0153 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

We break down crying when we are alone and nobody can see it.

I can't believe the shit I'm reading here, that ridiculous OP comment and now this shit. You people are way way more fucked than the "troons" you hate so much

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

You should make a TikTok video whining about it to the whole world. Turn up the hysteractics for maximum impact.

[–]bife_de_lomo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Zzzzzz... Zzzzzzz.... Zzzzzz...

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

Are you sure you haven't been traumatized enough that you don't notice anymore?

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

LOL - Isn't that essentially what growing up male is?

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

So how can you assume it's "wiring", and not that men are abused and traumatized to the point where they're numb to everything?

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I grew up in a stable and loving community. The only severe abuse I ever experienced was at the hands of a woman I was in a long term relationship with. Luckily, I had enough stoicism from being male that I didn't sink to her level by abusing her back, and I eventually just walked instead.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Stoicism doesn't come from being male. It's one of many copes for traumatized people.

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'll have to disagree with you on that. While it's not a blanket rule and there are many exceptions in the case of both genders, males tend toward stoicism more than females. While I would agree that some traumatic situations can be coped with in the short term by taking a stoic approach, I would disagree that trauma gives rise to stoicism. If you don't have it in the first place, you're not going to be able to call on it when it's needed. And that's exactly what we're seeing in the OP video.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Males tend toward stoicism because they tend to be more traumatized, and because they know if they aren't stoic they'll be brutally tortured. That's not healthy, it's yet more evidence that the earth is totally unfair to males.

[–]FourteenDigitz 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Weird flex but ok

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Are you sure you haven't been traumatized enough that you don't notice anymore?

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Apologies in advance for asking, and don't answer this if you don't want to, but are you female? I generally don't care, but in this case it would inform further conversation.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I wish

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah, okay then.

[–]ClassroomPast6178 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Is this the same troonette? Or is another one having a breakdown after finding out that the grass isn’t greener?

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh shit, yeah that is definitely the same troonette

[–]Wanderingthehalls 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

She hasn't really found out that the grass isn't greener though. She still has no idea whatsoever of what it's like to be a man because she isn't one. She's a balding woman with a beard. She may pass as a man in carefully staged photographs but in real life she's going to trigger all kinds of conscious and unconscious triggers in the people around her that tell them she's not a man. And people, even those with the best of intentions will treat her differently because of it.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

she's going to trigger all kinds of conscious and unconscious triggers in the people around her that tell them she's not a man.

Crying about how she has no friends will do that.

[–]OuroborosTheory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

one problem is they're sold on HRT as itself transforming you into the opposite sex, instructing each cell to change--instead, a hormone signals a cell, which takes certain steps: you can't fill a Super Soaker with estradiol and turn a guy into a woman with any amount: basically their brains were soaking in one hormone for 30 (or 13!) years, then it was all drained and replaced (and not warned of the effects beyond "you're a wo/man now, and that's all there is to it!")

plus the trans who do make headlines here were clearly very stereotypical and cliched before transitioning (or not bothering to), so they're either howling Sand People or catty tattletales--like, going "IT'S MA'AM" in a GameStop with a gaderffi stick or getting a target fired from their job and shunned by their community definitely falls squarely in the stereotypes of males/females respectively, but 90% of men or women I know would be disgusted by that behavior and not want to be associated because they fell in the same half of humanity ...

[–]The_Best_Yak_Ever 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You get used to it, honeybunch. Just because you pumped yourself with our hormones and suppressed your own, does not make you one of us. Yes, we guys suffer from loneliness when compared to women. But we have ways of easing that through hobbies and activities that often don’t appeal as much to women.

I’m a guy who works in education for part of the week and manages a rifle and pistol range for the rest. I work with a lot of women in one role and a lot of men in the other. It’s easy to see the differences between us in my position. We guys are more solitary and have lived most of our lives that way. You will rarely see us fucking crying on ticktock. We have expectations for ourselves and other men, and they don’t involve sobbing in front of the world because making friends is difficult sometimes.

On the one hand, I’m glad this girl understands that whatever she thought being a man entailed is simply wrong… that if she thought the world fell in love with white men and all the doors would open, then she has been bitch slapped with the steel hand of reality.

But mostly, I’m with a lot of women on this one. You can’t take drugs and wear different fashion and claim you’re the sex you weren’t born as. It just doesn’t work that way. If you didn’t grow up with male biology and having society treat you as a man, you will never understand what it’s like. You cannot simply appropriate our experience for yourself because you’re disgruntled with the sex you were born as and will absolutely die as. Hell, even though she realized it’s no picnic for us, her conclusion was to encourage us men to be more fucking feminine! Swing and a miss lady! It’s clear to me watching her, that she needs to drop the make believe, and living out the rest of her life as a woman. It felt more natural to her and she needs the support and community that women can have for each other (along with the backstabbing and biting they can also have for each other).

And if the gender ideologues have taught us anything, it’s that all this nonsense is “completely reasonable.” I’m sure it won’t be an issue…

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You did all those same things as a child, until you learned very quickly that you'd be slaughtered for doing so. You were traumatized and abused while girls were spoiled.

[–]Node 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Still needy af, so no worries about becoming a lonely guy anytime soon.

[–]JulienMayfair 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

He is a better-looking man than he was a woman . . .

[–]cephyrious 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah, while there's definitely still a female brain present, the looks passes for a man very well. And I think this explains why so many MtF look so bad. If an ugly female makes a normal-looking "guy", an ugly man will usually make an atrociously ugly "gal".

[–]OuroborosTheory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

of course a dysphoric trans woman will be trying to PASS and, uh, have a basic familiarity with shampoo: whenever someone makes the news they're always of the "Rondo Hatton with eyeliner" or "incestuous Benjamin Franklin cosplayer" type

trans men aren't too noticeable, there's many short guys with elf chins

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, and the beards are a definite advantage for the ladies in hiding the soft jawline.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just MORE proof that nature only cares about females

[–]xoenix 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We can also see why trans suicide rates are higher.

[–]IX-Hispana 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Man up wuss.

[–]wylanderuk 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh look another chick telling men what its like to be a man, example infinity plus one.

But at least she tried to live like as a man I suppose or at least her version of one...

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Womansplaining.