'Nobody told me how lonely being a man is': Transgender man weeps while explaining how much easier it was to make friends with 'open, vulnerable women' - and says he can see why suicide rate among males is higher

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[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

That's not maturity. That's fear of punishment for "failing society" by having even the slightest hint of weakness.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Society will destroy you for showing weakness. Like it or not, agree with it or not, that's a rational fear.

There's another reason, emotional breakdowns make other people uncomfortable, keep it to your very close friends if you must, but everyone else is dealing with their own shit as well and most likely doesn't want to deal with yours on top of it.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

They only make people uncomfortable if you're a man. If you're a woman they make everyone love you. Because men are worthless I guess, and women deserve everything.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Women have far more latitude to express emotion in public than men. But it really depends on the context and most of the time, emotional outbursts by women do make people uncomfortable, the main difference is an emotionally compromised man can be threatening, an emotionally compromised woman is often less so.

Regardless women are advised to adopt a demeanor that keeps them calm and collected even when under emotional stress, as while people are far more tolerant of emotional displays from women, it doesn't exactly lead to respect.

There are exceptions of course. Dealing with things like the death of a close friend or family member, crying at a wedding, or a funeral, there's a time and a place. But if you throw a tantrum in the doughnut shop because they are out of sprinkles, man or woman, nobody there will be comfortable with your shit.

[–]Vulptexghost fox girl ^w^ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Depends how she comes off I guess. If she's clearly just being a whiny bitch people will get annoyed. However if she seems genuinely in need people will feel sorry for her; whereas with a man they'll scold him and tell him he better get over it or they'll do something to him.