As I got older, the definition of what a man truly was changed and it was just a feeling of being comfortable in one's own body and becoming a man was that feeling for me

So if I'm comfortable in my own body I'm a man? And if I'm not, I'm . . . a woman? As if most people, especially teenagers, aren't comfortable in their own bodies. I had crippling body dysmorphia for a long time. There are a lot of reasons for that, but I really did think that if I could surgically alter my body in various ways, my problems would go away even though this was disordered thinking. The only thing that stopped me was not having the money to get those procedures. I'm in my 30s now and have the money but the dysmorphia has significantly lessened because I have more accomplishments under my belt at this point in my life and a lot more to feel pride in and base my self-esteem on. I did a lot of research on the procedures and picked doctors, but decided not to go through with it because I realized it's not healthy and seems perverse that I should alter my healthy body parts. I've reached a certain degree of acceptance with my body but I still spend way more time than I want to thinking about changing different parts of my body and throwing myself back into researching and planning. Society doesn't exactly make aging women feel comfortable about our bodies at all. And I can't escape these influences. The reminders are everywhere, especially in targeted ads I see on a daily basis.

And under her own logic, while she wasn't comfortable in her own body she was still a man? Or she wasn't a man yet and isn't one until she gets all of the surgeries she's after and then feels comfort in her body? But if she doesn't feel comfort in her body at that point, she's still not a man?

Not to mention "becoming a man" is not a feeling. Heck, it's not anything anyone can become other than a boy upon reaching maturity.