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[–]begonia_skies 29 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

Ack, some of the comments go on about how lesbians are so pure and so perfect, I really hate that crap, no actual lesbian with any life experience talks that way. Lesbian relationships are just as complex and difficult at times as all other relationships. We don't sit around all day painting our nails with rainbows in totally cute sleep attire blowing hearts out of our ass. We argue, get jealous, cheat, get depressed, have bad days, etc. I really don't know why they seem to believe that lesbians have these perfect lives, I've been a lesbian my whole life and it's not easy, at all.

[–]oyasuminasai50 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I think a lot of it is people, mainly teenagers, who hate themselves and are allured by the idea of a) blaming all their woes on gender dysphoria / transphobia and not these things that are more abstract and intangible like poor socialization, social anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, etc. and b) allured by the idea of reinventing themselves. '

They think they hate themselves because they're trans. But I think they hate themselves for some of those reasons I mentioned. There's no other explanation in my mind for why the most common onset on gender dysphoria has shifted towards adolescence.

On top of this they get what appears to be an affirming, embracing community (i.e. the T community and LGBTQ community more broadly) of people who will approve of them instantly.

[–]julesburm1891 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The trans community seems to be a lot of people who think the grass is greener on the other side. Life is largely not very fun. It’s mostly drudgery and struggle that you push through to get to some sort of happiness. That won’t change if you’re a man or a woman. It won’t change if you’re gay, straight, or bi.

[–]SuperGayIsOkay 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, there's a large community/peer pressure thing that seems to send the messaging that becoming trans will somehow magically fix all the problems in their life. It won't. Their dysphoria won't go away, and their mental illnesses that cause their problems to begin with will remain untreated.

[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I agree. I do think we're playing fast and loose with people's mental health because doctors want to feel and be seen as saviors. And frankly, as someone who's always been a little GNC, if I were a teenager in this day and age, and if my friends were coming out as trans or non-binary, I probably would too.

[–]usehername 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. Plus, and doctor with a shred of morals or competency avoids that field like the plague.

[–]1lemon 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I hate this too. Actually even my straight friends always say stuff like this 'I wish I was a lesbian, then I wouldn't have to deal with relationships with men' or similar things. Do you think lesbian relationships are any different from any other relationship? They still argue and have problems like any other relationship. These people are living in some alternate reality.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, they still argue and have problems, but a) you don't have to worry about them accidentally getting another woman pregnant, and b), they're statistically less likely to kill you.

[–]somerandomgal 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

and c) the prominent sexist gender roles and expectations that exist in straight relationships are pretty meaningless in same-sex relationships

[–]usehername 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Relationships with women are VERY different from those with men for the reasons others have mentioned.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lesbian relationships are just as complex and difficult at times as all other relationships. We don't sit around all day painting our nails with rainbows in totally cute sleep attire blowing hearts out of our ass. We argue, get jealous, cheat, get depressed, have bad days, etc.

I've witnessed some hair-raising lesbian dramas that put my gay male ass to shame. Seriously WTF.

[–]blackrainbow[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lesbian relationships are DRAMATIC AS HELL

[–]DestructionI ❤️ adult human females 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's escapism for the terminally single and it permiates all sexualities. It's why people can so easily fall head over heels for someone they've just met and become disillusioned later on when their partner turns out to just be a flawed human being and not the perfect angel descended from a golden piedestal.

Trust me. I've been on both sides.