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[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 25 insightful - 21 fun25 insightful - 20 fun26 insightful - 21 fun -  (6 children)

polyamorous

Is being a hoe now considered an identity?

[–]mvmlego 12 insightful - 7 fun12 insightful - 6 fun13 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Yep, it falls into the "R" of the "GSRD" acronym that's slowly being rolled out. (Gender-, Sexuality-, and Relationship-Diverse, in case anybody's wondering.) I think I first encountered it at my alma mater's "Q Center" a couple of years ago, and I've seen it pop up a few time since.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Preach, sister.

[–]chazzstrong 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

I TRY to be understanding and, at the least, non-judgmental of people's personal lives, but I have yet to see any upside to polyamory that doesn't feed into promiscuity and isn't blatantly self-destructive. I just do not understand polyamory.

[–]insta 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I just do not understand polyamory

Strangers can do whatever they want but I always shit talk poly relationships to my friends who are interested in them. They doesn't work. You can maybe pull it off for a while in your 20s but that's not sustainable. If you want to have sex with multiple people just have a 3sum or something, I don't know why people need to make it so complicated.

My friend was in a poly relationship for like 3 years and shocker, it went nowhere, my friend was the obvious 2nd woman (as the other woman of the man she was seeing was married to him) and all it did was waste her time.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I TRY to be understanding and, at the least, non-judgmental of people's personal lives, but I have yet to see any upside to polyamory that doesn't feed into promiscuity and isn't blatantly self-destructive. I just do not understand polyamory.

No experience with polyamory myself, but I've been wondering: could it have any intrinsic connection to being bisexual?

Yeah, I know that it's among the stereotypes about us. And based on even MORE stereotypes (that we're oversexed, and only satisfied if we "have both"). Which makes you reflexively want to deny it ("no, most bisexuals are monogamous! Just like everyone else! Quit treating us as though we're different than you guys!").

Getting into this (understandable) self-defensive mindset makes it easy to forget that... we actually ARE different. We experience two distinct types of attraction, which can be quite independent of each other, even to an apples-and-oranges degree. Which may find expression in "bi-cycling" (waxing and waning attraction to each sex), or "missing the other". Things that really have no gay/straight equivalent.

This isn't true for ALL bisexuals, of course; maybe not even for most. But it IS a characteristically bi phenomenon. When you're attracted to both sexes rather than just one... well, this is one of the forms that can potentially take.

Which makes me think that polyamory could have a different meaning for us, at least if we're among those who feel "pulled in both directions" on a continual/regular basis. Which certainly isn't to say that it's therefore gonna be workable, or non-abusive/exploitative, or otherwise viable; I mean, a relationship with ONE person is challenging enough! And its being all but obligatory in certain circles these days (if you're not "poly", you're a prude!) sure warrants suspicion. All too easy to get what you actually want, and what everyone says that you should want, mixed up. But even so... the idea still seems worth consideration.

What are your thoughts, fellow-bi-flag-flair-bearer? Am I possibly on to something... or do ya think that it's more like I'm ON something? :)

[–]chazzstrong 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Only speaking to my own experiences, I rarely have the energy to handle one person in a relationship, I can't even imagine trying to juggle two ( potentially ) opposite people. Forget bisexual, you would almost have to be bipolar.

I understand what you mean by 'bi-cycling', which btw is my new favorite phrase, but again speaking only of myself...I don't typically want apples when I'm enjoying oranges, you know? The way I look at my bisexuality is fairly simple, it just means I have more options than most. It doesn't mean I want both a girl AND a guy at the same time, though to those exploring and more promiscuous than I that would likely be a benefit, but that's more to my personal preference than any engrained limitation on my sexuality...I just a one-person kind of guy.

I'm by no-means an outgoing person, and I actually admit that I am rather prudish, but if my circle started ostracizing me for not being as adventurous in my sexuality as they are I'd probably find a new circle of friends. I don't live my life or fuck to someone else's agenda, and I'm also not usually super open about my sexuality. Not because I'm ashamed or 'closeted', I just don't think it's anyone's business really. I'm actually more open HERE, in forums like this, because it is a community rooted around our sexualities and attractions, but in the real world? It's just a factoid, like my favorite pizza toppings or how I like my scotch.

So basically, for me, I don't think any unique approach to a polyamorous relationship would necessarily be reliant upon one's sexuality, just one's preferences like anything else. And as I said, I wouldn't shit on someone for being in a poly relationship...but I also wouldn't hold my breath expecting their trifecta to last or be healthy.

[–]julesburm1891 24 insightful - 4 fun24 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 4 fun -  (6 children)

How the actual fuck is she so many contradicting things? How are you a woman AND non-binary? Asexual AND polyamorous? Mixed-race AND black? (Yes, I understand that you can be black and another race—like Kamala Harris—but, let’s be real. This idiot looks like a white woman in all her photos.)

[–]reluctant_commenter 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

*he? I think that is a man, but I can't zoom in on the profile pic on mobile for some reason.

[–]julesburm1891 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah. I think you’re right. It’s just another layer of quackery

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Unless he's working off the Jim Crowe era 1/16 rule for being black? "One drop of black blood means you are 100% black" as it were?

[–]BEB 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

I think it was 1/32 black blood made you black, but don't quote me.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe. It was probably just however many generations back they actually could keep track of

[–]censorshipment 18 insightful - 13 fun18 insightful - 12 fun19 insightful - 13 fun -  (3 children)

This dude is catfishing... his bio is filled with lies. And why is he being called a she/her? Y'all "respect pronouns" here now?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Oh oops! I got so confused with the word-salad that I missed the fact that this was an MTF.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Saying she doesn't mean the pronoun is respected.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh, dang, I missed that it was a dude in the word vomit. The wall of text just sort of blended together

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 13 insightful - 9 fun13 insightful - 8 fun14 insightful - 9 fun -  (12 children)

Fae/She/They

So she's half-black, half-fairy? or is she half-white and half-black-fairy?

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (10 children)

And aren't those three pronouns supposed to be the, idk how to say it, "first" following the pattern of he/him/his and she/her/hers? The plural word used would follow the pattern of they/them/theirs, so is this a "pick your pronouns" between female, nonbinary, and mythical creature?

They can't even agree on a consistent way to present their pronouns (But I can, I am using they and their to mean the plural of TRAs)

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 11 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

Fae = She | She = Her | They = Hers

This would be like some form of advanced-level brain torture. I'm going to try to write a sentence:

Mary and she brother sit at breakfast. Fae has some cereal, and she brother shares some of they from off she plate.

[–]fuck_reddit 10 insightful - 5 fun10 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Ive joked with my dad that if my uni ever makes me say my pronouns, I’ll say “he/her/theirs” and get upset if anyone doesnt use those exact three terms when speaking about me. I’ve even practiced saying it fast so that it sounds legit.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

You didn't ask but I'll give you the fancy linguistic terms because otherwise my degree is useless:

He: Subject (nominative) pronoun.

Him: Object (objective) pronoun.

His: Possessive (genitive) pronoun.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

OMG can you help me with something? I need help with apostrophes:

New Years Eve <--- does this need one?

"I am going to the Williams house" <--- where goes the apostrophe?

"I've heard a whole years worth of excuses" <--- does this need one?

Girls Room (as in toilet) <--- does this need one?

I hope this isn't an imposition. (I've tried Googling grammar stuff in the past but I don't trust the answers. Too many contradictions and clueless people.)

[–]panderichthys 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

New Year's Eve; the Williamses' house; a whole year's worth of excuses; girls' room

I'd say all are pretty clear save for the house one, which I take to mean the house of people named Williams. Girls' room could be up for debate

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you! Especially the Williamses' one. I never realized you can add an 'es' after the s, but now I realize I've seen it done like that before. It just never clicked somehow!

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I know that you didn't ask me, but can I just add a little something here? About apostrophes? (And, of course, the ridiculously-convoluted English language).

Apostrophes as a possessive come before the "S" when the word is singular (New Year's Eve), and after the "S" when the word is plural... UNLESS (in the latter case) the result just looks too clumsy! And hard to pronounce. Then, you might stick an -es after the existing final "S" and follow with the apostrophe. So: "my twin girls' school", but "the Williamses'/Davises' house". Though I've admittedly seen it as "Williams'" (standard possessive-plural form), too, so this can probably go either way. Just don't write it as "William's" unless you're referring to something that belongs to someone named William (singular)!

Of course it's sometimes impossible to avoid a messy multiple-"S" pileup ("a girl named Cass's shoe"), but that's English for ya!

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you! Apostrophes are the bane of my existence! Especially the ones that go after the s, like Girls' Restroom. Like... It looks so wrong.

[–]panderichthys 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I settled for Romance languages so this is all I'll ever come across... sometimes I wonder what life would be like if I'd gone for Latin instead. Ah well, can't help loving what we love

[–]insta 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They can't even agree on a consistent way to present their pronouns

It's not that they can't agree, it's just that they lose nothing by pushing more & more. There's no pushback or consequences for these people endlessly pushing the envelope so why would they bother stopping? If anything, today's most radical bullshit makes yesterday's slightly less radical bullshit seem more tolerable. They win either way.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This will not affect their politics. /s