Her now accepts He/Him Straight (clearly natal) Men. Makes perfect sense.

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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I didn't add the picture, but it's a dude with a full beard and there are other pictures with his shirt off and clearly no chest scars that would indicate that it's a trans man. Also Her doesn't allow you to block people you're not interested in, no, they have to have some good reason why you don't want to see this person, like if they're underage, or threatening self harm. It's to stop people from excluding people from their dating pool, I think?

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 35 insightful - 9 fun35 insightful - 8 fun36 insightful - 9 fun -  (6 children)

It's to stop people from excluding people from their dating pool, I think?

Has everyone just entirely forgotten what dating is?

[–]reluctant_commenter 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's a movement that includes many incels and also many children; neither group ever learned, I guess.

[–]Rosefield 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As if that would stop lesbians from only dating actual women. I wonder if other dating sites are going to do the same in the future. Tinder doesn't allow to filter out trans people anymore so I wouldn't be surprised if they removed the option to block them.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I never understood the point of that. A lot if ‘dating’ apps (and I do use that term loosely) now don’t let you filter people by race or ethnicity, as if someone who is only interested in black women or white guys or whatever is going to stop and think ‘Maybe I was wrong?’

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Moreover, some of them give priority to matches of a different race. The super-rich have a class interest in promoting miscegenation, and in bringing more confused, rootless, raceless, alienated individuals into the world - the idea being that these people will be better consumers.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I believe so.

But remind me again, it's about being inclusive and about making the other person feel good and accepted, regardless of your sexuality and whether you're sexually or even remotely attracted to them, right?

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 6 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Yes.

[–][deleted] 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (15 children)

What is he expecting? I'm so confused as to why he would go on a lesbian dating app as a self professed straight man and expect that there would be anyone willing to give him the time of day. Are there bi women on Her as well he's hoping to hookup with? Even if there were I thought the point of Her was to meet other women. Is Her no longer a a lesbian app? I see on their website that it's for 'queer womxn' so I guess not but like. Is he trolling? "Straight, He/him, Man" is neither 'queer' nor a woman so wtf?? I'm thinking about this too hard.

[–]Eurowoman24 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Um most straight men get really turned on by lesbians/the idea of two women together, hence why they often ask for a threesome 2 girls+ them, and/or watch a lot of lesbian porn. This seems like a dude who might be deluded enough to want to take this IRL, someone with no concept of boundaries.

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I understand that but I figured most guys with a lesbian fetish just look at fake lesbian porn, and the ones that ask for threesomes rarely get anywhere with that. Agreed on the delusion and lack of boundaries though. Hope he gets a good dose of reality.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

He's looking for bisexual women, I'm guessing?

So Her used to be for lesbians, then they added bisexuals, then they added transwomen and non-binary women, then trans men and non binary men, then finally straight men. So Her should be just called Her/Him by this point.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

That's depressing... Lesbians are running out of lesbian spaces. So it's just a regular dating app then. Why not change the name to 'Everyone'?

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The creator heard one community was more profitable, so she made the app more “inclusive” (also known as, “profitable” in common parlance). She basically said that word for word in an interview apple did of her. Of course, they’d never admit profit they just say “the community requested uwu”

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Would it be fair to say that as soon as they started adding bisexuals, it was downhill from there? I'm not trying to hate on bisexuals, I know not all of them are a certain way but most of the problems do stem from them in Lesbian/Gay spaces. For example, because bisexuals can be attracted to both sexes, of course on average they wouldn't be as bothered seeing men calling themselves "Transbians" or on the gay side (my home front), women calling themselves men. Like we all know those bisexual girls who call their relationships with trans-identified men a "Lesbian" relationship or bisexual man dating a trans-identified woman a "Gay Relationship".

[–]Rag3 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You bring up a point that I’ve wondered about a lot.

My orientation fits into the lgb space when I am with a same sex partner, otherwise what’s the point? I get flack from younger bisexuals for feeling that way though.

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah I used to wonder myself until I just put two and two together and realized that most of this nonsense is coming from people who can be attracted to both sexes though more specifically, those who fall into the categories of Androphilia (Attraction to masculinity regardless of sex) and Gynephelia (Attraction to femininity regardless of sex).

My orientation fits into the lgb space when I am with a same sex partner, otherwise what’s the point? I get flack from younger bisexuals for feeling that way though.

I'm not surprised to hear younger bisexuals give you flack. They've been growing up in this culture of gender rules above all unfortunately and it takes quite a bit to deprogram that and get them to really think critically.

[–]CaptainWTFman-hating bisexxual 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Like we all know those bisexual girls who call their relationships with trans-identified men a "Lesbian" relationship or bisexual man dating a trans-identified woman a "Gay Relationship".

Are they really even bisexual at that point though, or just "woke straight?"

Also, as a bi person, I have really not appreciated being expected to be the dumping grounds for every trans person's dating fantasies. I tried to play along, went on a date once with a "transbian," and realized that I found the idea revolting. (Side note: when I told this person that I didn't think I wanted to have another date, they said "I always seem to end up going on dates with women who don't actually like women." ....I let them believe that that was the problem.) I know other bi folks clearly do not feel the same, hence all the masturbatory "validation" posts going on at r/actuallesbians and the like. But if I'm on a female-oriented dating app, it is because I want to date women. Actual women.

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are they really even bisexual at that point though, or just "woke straight?"

I want to say that a good lot of them are just Straight women and men looking for oppression & WOKE points. I'll even go as far to question if these "Lesbian bisexual" women who claim to be in a "lesbian relationship" with their transbian partner has ever dated a woman in the past because I think the answer to that would be telling.

Also, as a bi person, I have really not appreciated being expected to be the dumping grounds for every trans person's dating fantasies. I tried to play along, went on a date once with a "transbian," and realized that I found the idea revolting. (Side note: when I told this person that I didn't think I wanted to have another date, they said "I always seem to end up going on dates with women who don't actually like women." ....I let them believe that that was the problem.) I know other bi folks clearly do not feel the same, hence all the masturbatory "validation" posts going on at r/actuallesbians and the like. But if I'm on a female-oriented dating app, it is because I want to date women. Actual women.

I understand. Again, I'm not saying that all Bisexual women and men are like this and I know there are some who don't buy into this Transgender ideology but it's just that in my experience it usually comes from people who can be attracted to both sexes. I have never come across a self-respecting gay man who is attracted to "Transmen" or a Lesbian who was attracted to a "transwoman" because we know the truth.

[–]just_lesbian_things 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

He's probably getting off on the pictures and the whole scenario. The idea of being where he isn't allowed and where women don't want him.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Gross. And they've made it so any women he harasses can't block him either. Because that's 'not inclusive enough'.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Because they didn't think about it hard enough.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 8 insightful - 13 fun8 insightful - 12 fun9 insightful - 13 fun -  (0 children)

They were very hard when they thought about it, that was the problem.

[–]CuntWorshiperWomenholic full time | vagina fetishist part-time 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It isn’t a ‘now’ thing, sorry to burst your bubble.

Her, the ““lesbian”” app has ALWAYS being about het men and bi/het women.

This is literally a lesbian app in which you can’t say ‘woman’ unless you mean ‘trans woman’ otherwise the right word is womxn. ;)

[–]SapphicFox 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The CEO of HER sold out to the Queerdo's ages ago, at this point tinder is more of a 'lesbian dating app' than HER.

Goddamn, can we just have a dating app exclusively for females?

[–]AnokiFrench 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I use the app , you need to pay to choose your type of partners, and the number of trans and crossdressing man , wanting to get it on with women is ...sad

[–]blackrainbow 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

At least you can set your filters in order not to show them

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You can, if you pay up, and there's no way I'm paying for an app that calls women 'womxn' but trans /nb women 'woman'.

[–]MilkTea 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've never used Her, but he's probably scrolling through endless profiles of other straight dudes with creepy fetishes on there.