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[–]our_team_is_winning 36 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 0 fun37 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"vagina-phobic" -- Gay men aren't scared of vaginas. They are simply not sexually aroused by them. "Phobia" is an irrational fear, like being scared of small spaces like in an elevator, when (in theory, did you see that M. Night Shyamalan film "Devil"?) nothing in there is actually going to hurt you.

A vagina would not actually hurt a gay man. It's not going to bite his penis off or something. But he is NOT INTERESTED. Why is this so hard to grasp?

Stop trying to pass your fetishes off as oppression.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Butting in to say actually, I am kind of scared of them. I get a kind of squicked out/disgust reaction, and I actually can't think about certain female features or pregnancy for too long because I start to get a very unpleasant physical sensation. This I doubt is a "gay thing" but is a separate issue of my own.

However, phobias and these types of reaction are not by choice. I didn't CHOOSE to be made extremely uncomfortable by vaginas. I've also tried to get over it, but that doesn't seem to be an easy thing to do. I have other definite phobias that present themselves differently, but are just as hard to get rid of.

So unless a TRA has magical working therapy to help me stop being "vagina-phobic" (and help me with my other phobias too while they're at it) I don't see how I can be held responsible.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 31 insightful - 2 fun31 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'm just grossed out by everything in this article.

[–]Finnegan7921 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm with you, tbh. The whole tone was just icky.

[–]ThiccDropkickGay 31 insightful - 1 fun31 insightful - 0 fun32 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

“sometimes you can’t be arsed with telling people. I’d just rather get laid, hassle-free.” In these cases, trans guys like Dan often make the most of the environment at hand, opting for cheeky exchanges through glory holes, in dark rooms or with alfresco fumbles at London cruising spots like Clapham Common and Hampstead Heath

Telling the truth is such a burden on me I'd rather just hide it from everyone

It's funny when articles like this use anecdotes and they always go along the lines of "I once met a guy who wasn't open to sex with trans guys, and he was a massive asshole/violent/creepy etc., then i met a guy who wasn't 'vagina-phobic' and he was really nice" it's obvious the kind of message they're trying to push.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 15 insightful - 9 fun15 insightful - 8 fun16 insightful - 9 fun -  (2 children)

I picture a flasher standing on a sidewalk who isn't just flashing people, but also trying to sell them fake Rolexes, and wondering why (s)he isn't getting a good reception.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 10 insightful - 7 fun10 insightful - 6 fun11 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

What are ya buyin', Stranger?

Not minge, thanks.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

minge

I had to go look that up. Educational, thanks. :-)

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

“I’d just rather get laid, hassle-free.”

... said every rapist ever.

[–]marmorsymphata 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So every gay person on Earth is a genital fetishist but this bitch who is so lascivious they will eschew every basic moral in the book to get laid is the upstanding citizen. Interesting

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 24 insightful - 6 fun24 insightful - 5 fun25 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

From dating apps to sex clubs, queer trans masculine people are fighting for visibility in the places traditionally associated with cis gay men.

I mean, no. The end.

[–]fuck_reddit 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

If you're using Grindr to boost your self-confidence... oooooh boy...

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 16 insightful - 6 fun16 insightful - 5 fun17 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

A recent exchange I had:

Him: Why does your profile say [my age]?

Me: Because I'm [my age]? How old did you think I am?

Him: Honestly like at least twice that. blocks me

Still haven't come down from that self-esteem high.

[–]fuck_reddit 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

F

[–]Rag3 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Brutal 😭💀

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Just more reasons to continue disliking the word "queer".

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't understand how this is discrimination.

I don't fit in "cis gay spaces" at all, it's very alienating and even depressing so I just avoid all of that. But you don't see me writing angry blog posts about how it's oppression against me and people like me specifically.

Am I missing something? Am I SUPPOSED to be offended that I don't fit into subcultures I have nothing in common with? I don't know anymore.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That you, Salty?

[–]PriestTheyCalledHimBisexual 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What is trans masculine? Someone who is trans FTM is not masculine.

I am bisexual and it is not transphobic to refuse to date or sleep with a trans woman or trans man. My friends who are gay men have never had any sexual attraction to women at all and this includes the ones who have had sexual experiences with women when closeted or before they were out. They do not hate or fear women or women's genitals, they are homosexual and would either make up excuses not to have sex with a girlfriend or wife or would just have to fantasize about men the entire time to get aroused and finish.

[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've said it once and I'll say it again, these "queer trans guys" can land absolutely any straight boy they want if they would stop trying to be something they're not.

[–]MyLongestJourney 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

gay guys who aren’t vagina-phobic

Aedan

Of course.