Lesbians on r/AL actually try to discuss the issue of Lesbophobia. Mod locks the thread of course.

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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 34 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 0 fun35 insightful - 1 fun -  (15 children)

It would help if everyone were required to have flair or idk identify honestly but there are so many shitty bi women constantly speaking on behalf of lesbians. I have zero issue with bi women at all or having a bi partner, but this type has perhaps unintentionally created a monster by constantly telling TW that lesbians will be attracted to them without ever disclosing that they are bi other their post history giving it away and having that thought in the first place. If lesbians were allowed to be honest as the gay men in askgaybros are and speak on our own behalf, there would be a lot less delusion and it would save TW from a lot of pain down the line.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 35 insightful - 7 fun35 insightful - 6 fun36 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

I don't mind at all about the existence of wlw spaces. But for me, it's really important to have also a 'cis' lesbians only space. It was so hard for me to fully accept myself and not feel shame and the least I want to hear about is dick FFS. I WANT TO TALK ABOUT WOMEN AND NO FREAKING DICKS. I don't give a shit if this is 'triggering' to some people, I too deserve to be happy and have my spaces. I already hear about freaking men and d*ck on a DAILY BASIS, I have currently literally NO ONE to share my attraction with women (WOMEN BEING BIOLOGICAL WOMEN, BOOBS, PUSSY, YES THAT'S WHAT BEING ATTRACTED TO WOMEN IS). I'm angry LMAO.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Coming to terms with the fact I’m a lesbian in large part involved coming to terms with the fact that my strong attraction to pussy, boobs, women’s bodies in general, etc. and my lack of interest in men wasn’t me being a creepy perv fetishist but just me having a homosexual orientation. I never understood why I had such a strong sex drive that seemed to die when I thought about or was around men. What a disappointment it was to enter the LGBT “community” and try to find people who felt the same way only to learn that I still can’t talk about that shit. But fetishizing women doing their jobs is apparently PC. . . .

When I told my straight friends about this they were at first reluctant to believe just how bad it is, but they are sympathetic. Now that their ears are to the ground, they have verified they are hearing about the same thing from others and are horrified.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 33 insightful - 7 fun33 insightful - 6 fun34 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

Askgaybros isn't moderates by a bunch of crazy transmen wanting them to like boypussy

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 27 insightful - 10 fun27 insightful - 9 fun28 insightful - 10 fun -  (2 children)

God I hate the term boypussy. So very much. If I heard it during sex I'm pretty sure my dick would retreat into my body and never return.

I can only imagine how uncomfortable it must be for lesbians to have the concept of girldick constantly shoved in their faces.

[–]CJLez 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

The very worst one I ever heard was...

"Clit on a stick"

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

barfing forever

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 34 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 0 fun35 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yeah, recently I wacthed a video of a bi video about lesbian sex, and she mentioned something to do with balls lol I got no problem with bisexuals, in fact the only woman I've loved since now was bisexual, but bisexual idiots calling themselves lesbians or trying to include dick into lesbianism are fucking cancer. The reality is they cannot never understand what it means to being actual lesbian, someone who got zero attraction toward male

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries"[S] 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Omg what. Balls?! I don’t even want to know, do I? I’m reminded of one of those creepy TW-created sex guides directed at young lesbians that talked about some disturbing act called “muffing” which is . . .vomit warning . . . apparently fingering some kind of canal behind the scrotum. I wanted to barf. Somehow I don’t think any group other than lesbians is getting that in their sex guide.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, that's exactly what she was talkibg about. Made me want to vomit.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

There really shouldn't be any videos about lesbian sex that discuss balls. (Cue a thousand horrified-expression GIFs.) Any bisexual person who is literate should be able to understand this. Unless, of course, they have given in to the TRA delusions and bullying. And if they are making a video for "lesbians" who like male bodies, then they should probably at least specify that in the description so no one is surprised who still thought the word "lesbian" had a simple, clear definition to everyone who uses the term.

[–]MyLongestJourney 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m reminded of one of those creepy TW-created sex guides directed at young lesbians that talked about some disturbing act called “muffing” which is . . .vomit warning . . . apparently fingering some kind of canal behind the scrotum.

🤮🤮🤮

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There was a Heathline article written by a bi woman about lesbian sex which included anal and pregnancy, bi women are often just as bad as TRAs with this homophobic crap

[–]writerlylesbian 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes, quite frankly, this has been a huge problem going on for years. I know of a lesbian festival that ended up in a huge legal mess years ago because a bisexual woman who called herself a lesbian wanted to take her male partner (transwoman), and the organisers said no, and then said man sued the festival for discrimination (and lost, but only on a technicality. Court actually agreed he'd been unfairly discriminated against by lesbians).

I do think though that as unfair as it is, the onus is on lesbians to stand our ground and call this stuff out. Things have gotten so bad because of years of lesbians being kind and nice and not drawing a hard line around lesbian-only spaces and telling everyone else to get out (the bisexuals, the celibate straight women etc.)

Obviously in LGB spaces or spaces that are for lesbians and bi women, then that's completely different, no issues with bisexual women in those spaces. But I think lesbians really have to bite the bullet and learn to be 'meeeean' about having hard boundaries around lesbian-only spaces.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do think though that as unfair as it is, the onus is on lesbians to stand our ground and call this stuff out.

As a bisexual, I really wish there was more I and other bisexuals could do, but beyond publicly shaming them (for example by writing comments such as this or confronting them directly with comments like 'did you know that the definition of 'lesbian' includes not gobbling cock and liking it?' which doesn't get received very well, surprisingly.) I don't know if there's much else we can do. These women call themselves 'lesbians' and I don't even really want to tell them 'shut up, you're bi!' because 1- it becomes 'how dare you bi-splain my sexuality to me, RRREEEEE???' and 2- they're annoying and have internalized biphobia and I really don't even want to claim them (that's why I'm like, 'nope, these are obviously pansexuals' they're just too cringy.)

I think both L's and B's need to stand together and be like "the definition of 'lesbian' is this very very specific thing. NO EXCPTIONS. Just because you don't want to call yourself bisexual doesn't mean you get to steal someone else's label and shit all over it. Go ruin pansexuality and leave us alone!" (That last sentence is optional for you L's. If you want to say 'GTFO and go make the B's miserable instead', I don't blame you.)

[–]writerlylesbian 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think both L's and B's need to stand together and be like "the definition of 'lesbian' is this very very specific thing. NO EXCPTIONS.

I think this is helpful, though. Doesn't hurt for the G's to join in defending lesbians, either. This is pretty much the approach taken by the new LGB Alliance, where they recognise the pressures that lesbians in particular are facing and are very clear about what a lesbian is. Because this nonsense has been going on for so long, and spread so far, it's going to take a lot of basic repetition before the narrative starts to shift.

And some of these problems are mixed up with both women and men treating 'lesbian' as a porn fantasy. The mainstream media will happily run articles all day every day about 'lesbians' who have boyfriends, because that is cool and fun and sexy whereas women saying no to men is a hate crime, obvs. Calling it out won't necessarily stop them doing it, but it makes it clear that lesbians are not happy about being misappropriated in that way.

Hasn't bisexuality joined the list of transphobic sexualities anyway? Hopefully that means all the attention-seeking sorts won't want to be viewed that way anymore, and can all go be omnisexuals or whatever crazy word they're using now.