Lesbians on r/AL actually try to discuss the issue of Lesbophobia. Mod locks the thread of course.

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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I do think though that as unfair as it is, the onus is on lesbians to stand our ground and call this stuff out.

As a bisexual, I really wish there was more I and other bisexuals could do, but beyond publicly shaming them (for example by writing comments such as this or confronting them directly with comments like 'did you know that the definition of 'lesbian' includes not gobbling cock and liking it?' which doesn't get received very well, surprisingly.) I don't know if there's much else we can do. These women call themselves 'lesbians' and I don't even really want to tell them 'shut up, you're bi!' because 1- it becomes 'how dare you bi-splain my sexuality to me, RRREEEEE???' and 2- they're annoying and have internalized biphobia and I really don't even want to claim them (that's why I'm like, 'nope, these are obviously pansexuals' they're just too cringy.)

I think both L's and B's need to stand together and be like "the definition of 'lesbian' is this very very specific thing. NO EXCPTIONS. Just because you don't want to call yourself bisexual doesn't mean you get to steal someone else's label and shit all over it. Go ruin pansexuality and leave us alone!" (That last sentence is optional for you L's. If you want to say 'GTFO and go make the B's miserable instead', I don't blame you.)

[–]writerlylesbian 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think both L's and B's need to stand together and be like "the definition of 'lesbian' is this very very specific thing. NO EXCPTIONS.

I think this is helpful, though. Doesn't hurt for the G's to join in defending lesbians, either. This is pretty much the approach taken by the new LGB Alliance, where they recognise the pressures that lesbians in particular are facing and are very clear about what a lesbian is. Because this nonsense has been going on for so long, and spread so far, it's going to take a lot of basic repetition before the narrative starts to shift.

And some of these problems are mixed up with both women and men treating 'lesbian' as a porn fantasy. The mainstream media will happily run articles all day every day about 'lesbians' who have boyfriends, because that is cool and fun and sexy whereas women saying no to men is a hate crime, obvs. Calling it out won't necessarily stop them doing it, but it makes it clear that lesbians are not happy about being misappropriated in that way.

Hasn't bisexuality joined the list of transphobic sexualities anyway? Hopefully that means all the attention-seeking sorts won't want to be viewed that way anymore, and can all go be omnisexuals or whatever crazy word they're using now.