I'm still testing the waters. Honestly, I only found LGBDroptheT on the weekend and felt like it was a great place just to find out this whole banwave was coming, and let's be honest, it won't survive that.

I'm tired of my attraction to other men being used to demand that I agree with ridiculous ideas. I have a degree in physiology and spent a lot of time working around biology and genetics, so the idea that 'gender' is a choose-your-own-adventure book is laughable. It was only a couple of years ago people were trying to make it clear that 'kids choosing different toys doesn't make them any different or define who they are' and it jumped straight from that to "LiKiNg A dOlL mAkEs YoU a GiRl!" and "I like to wear pants sometimes so I'm genderfluid." Sorry, but gender isn't 'assigned' at birth. You didn't sit under the sorting hat and get randomly sorted. It's been a fact of your biology since before you were even a sperm.

I'm tired of the ONLY semi-populated gay app being "woke" and refusing to separate out gay guys from "Straight LF TS/CD. Don't like dudes, don't message me" and transexuals who I will never feel an attraction to. On an app where we're limited to a specific number of visible profiles, having half or more of them be people who will never be attracted to me or vice versa is just frustrating. Add to that their recent announcements that we will no longer be able to filter by race. I have nothing against specific races, but I almost never feel an attraction to some, and forcing them to be visible to me won't make me more interested in them, just annoyed that I have to scroll through 50 people I don't want to bother with to see one I might when a filter USED to exist to skip that hassle.

I'm tired of belonging to a "community" that started with recognition and pride in our sexuality being told we're 'transphobic' just because our sexuality doesn't suddenly change to accommodate for when someone has a mental illness and deforms their body. More than that, I'm tired of what our community worked hard for being so devalued by the ever-growing string of letters that follows LGB, of people and their "what about me!?" attitude. No seriously, tell me "asexual" person; when were you ever scared that your family and friends would disown you? What rights have your people lost or had to fight for through history? When were you systematically persecuted for your lack of interest in having sex? Why do you need to latch on to us and our struggles to feel important?

To be clear. I don't hate any of these people for their beliefs about themselves, or their choice to transition. What I hate is the attention-seeking behaviour, and the need to push their own views onto other people and attack them when they don't share them. I support everyone's right to not accept homosexuality as ok, and I would never feel the need to force my gayness upon you, shame you for not feeling the same way or even really give a shit if you feel the need to speak out against it. I'm ok with who I am and that should be enough. And it's because of that that I'm considering leaving a place that will tell me I'm not allowed to have or share opinions because they don't align with their own.