Just a gay guy tired of being told what I'm allowed to believe.

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[–]not-a-neckbeard 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

True asexuals, the ones who have near zero libido, suffer the shame of not being driven to have sex, in a sex-filled world.

Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. Look here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame

Sounds like you're basing your own self worth on what you think society wants, rather than deciding your own worth for yourself.

[–]Shockwave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You're right, I am. I do feel shame in that I can't perform in the same way that others can. I want to be able to please my partner (when I eventually get one) as well as to bear children but the act of sex is such a non-interest to me that I feel I'll only fail my partner if I end up in a relationship. I read all over that sex is integral to the health of a romantic relationship (whether or not that's true, IDK). I don't want me to be the reason my partner is so unhappy, because I can't provide something that nearly every other person on this earth can.