My male ex boyfriend has sent me a paragraphs-long explanation about why he is now trans and identifies as a nonbinary woman.

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Sigh. That is all.

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[–]moody_ape 35 insightful - 7 fun35 insightful - 6 fun36 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

how can a person be NB and a woman at the same time? i swear to god, i'll never understand this enby shit.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 26 insightful - 3 fun26 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

While being a male person, at that. I don't know, it confused me so much my brain literally hurt.

[–]terfy_delight 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The non-binary stuff is just so stupid. The logic is just brain breakingly dumb. Here's my favorite one:

A transwoman can be a lesbian bc he identifies as a woman, and a non-binary person is not a woman, but can be a lesbian bc... who knows. So basically anyone can be a lesbian.

This is what I've learned from trans logic. Everything is valid and the talking points only have to make sense if it supports what they want it to at that moment. And if you question, you will be bullied or silenced.

[–]Comatoast 29 insightful - 7 fun29 insightful - 6 fun30 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

Man, humans are an absolute fucking treasure trove of mental illness. All of us are just our own little disaster waiting to present in new and interesting ways.

Was he expecting absolution or a housewarming gift (nuvag-warming gift?)? Or is this like one of those therapy things that they do with addiction groups and have to tell everyone in their lives an essay?

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 15 insightful - 6 fun15 insightful - 5 fun16 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I hit him up saying "how are you doing brother" and then he said actually can you not call me that, I'm trans and I said oh how so and then (title)

[–]yishengqingwa666 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Block, block, block.

[–]Literallyawoman 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

treasure trove of mental illness

LMAO love this

[–][deleted] 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

So is this like a demigirl? Too much mental math.

I am so sorry.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 16 insightful - 6 fun16 insightful - 5 fun17 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

Next he's gonna say he's a lesbian and it was lesbian sex we had.

[–]PassionateIntensity 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Or insist you're bisexual/gay in denial, because he was always a woman.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The whole thing about this is, which I have posted elsewhere, is attacking the autonomy and lived experiences of people, rewriting it, redefining it to fit their sick needs, is at the very least gaslighting, a failure to enter relationship, an abuse of power, control, an assault on the person, and a failure to allow that person to see the world as it is, changing it to fit some sick narrative.

I am so sorry this is happening to you.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly, if I'm straight, and you retroactively come out and say "I'm a woman," don't try to tell me I'm bisexual (well I am but as an example) to cater to your feelings. This is happening all the time in the lgb community and it's fucking crazy. I know what I like, you calling yourself something you're not doesn't change my orientation.

[–]Criticalofgender 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Ugh, I'm sorry, sounds tiring just reading the title, I don't want to imagine experiencing it. At least you don't have to keep up with him and his "journey"

[–]TeaAndCigarettes 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Keyword: Ex. Depending on the circumstances of your breakup I'd say congratulations and just move along. Or keep the letter for evidence and contact the police and tell him to never bother you again. Whatever suits best.

[–]LasagnaRossa 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

When you were together, did you find any sign? I've always wondered if these oddities come out suddenly or were expected in hindsight.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He was always just a regular horny straight guy. Then he discovered theater...

[–]Gearbeta 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Just click that block button, girl.

[–]PassionateIntensity 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

/screams but also

identifies as a nonbinary woman.

😂 First time I've heard of a non-binary man identifying as a non-binary woman. 😂

[–]IAmSatan 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I mean if he's an ex and want to cut off his own dick, go ahead I'd say.

[–]Literallyawoman 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If he isn’t in your life anymore my advice is don’t respond-you owe him nothing! Or maybe send “that’s nice” then block em.

I’ve had ex’s contact me with similar “new me” attention-seeking stories and I now feel it’s NOT my job to validate them; blocked and ignored. In my experience it just means they want to rope you into being their free therapist because you had a connection before-fuck that!

[–]yishengqingwa666 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good riddance to him. What a creepy POS. Block him everywhere.

[–]Ossidiana 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, this just reinforces my idea that the trans trend is something insecure people do. Were you the one dumping him? Because I think that in a twisted way he's trying to punish you for that. Block him and he will grow out of that phase.