Kinda lonely by midnight305 in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm so used to being alone and being the mother friend that I often forget about my own needs and wants until the depression hits and I'm sitting there like " oh....that's right....." and get all upset.

I can’t even tell you how much I relate to this. And I only just realized it was happening again like a week ago. I was giving and giving and driving and helping and answering calls and advising people, family and friends when they needed me and taking care of everyone BUT myself. Until I was so tired, drained, and just heavy, I couldn’t even do that anymore. Let alone take care of myself. I laid in bed and that was pretty much it. I kept thinking “how the fuck did I let it get this bad.. AGAIN?”

Honestly, I still feel like crap. But I’m doing things now. I had a really productive day today so that counts. Still wasn’t perfect but it was something.

I guess I’m just trying to let you know and maybe even selfishly on my part (because inside I’m like whoa! Someone like me!) that I see you. The strong bitch who sometimes forgets to take a moment for themselves and seems so solid and fine to others that they might not think to ask how we’re doing, too.

The past few days I’ve basically had to set pride aside and come to the idea that it isn’t shameful to let the people in your life (family and friends) know you’re feeling low. They care, they don’t want you to feel sad.

Maybe consider putting dating on the back burner for now. Sounds like you may be in need of some self care and self love first and foremost, and friends to make you see it through. Coming from a work in progress in the flesh, and I need to take my own advice so I might just slap on a face mask and drink a beer in your honor. Do not hesitate to message me if you’re feeling down. I’ll be your damn friend. Cheers!

Where’s everyone from? by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Georgia, USA!

How much do you flirt with other women while in a relationship? by endlesssummer in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well that reflects highly on you then- maybe you’re mature enough for a healthy adult relationship but she just isn’t there yet. Either way, I’m sorry dude. Wishing you the best in a crap situation.

How much do you flirt with other women while in a relationship? by endlesssummer in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If it makes you uncomfortable and you’ve told her this and she doesn’t respect you enough to avoid causing you discomfort in your relationship with her, then that’s a big red flag. Flirting with someone else is taking away flirting with you and making YOU feel loved. As for me, I don’t and would never dream of flirting with anyone except for my girlfriend. I don’t want to, just the thought of it even makes me uncomfortable.

Ok Go- Here It Goes Again by SteppenSlut in music

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Will do, thanks pal! I’ll let you know what I think

What was your worst date experience? by fieryoyster in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Dude. That sounds so nice. I bet come next New Years it’s going to be different. I haven’t been to a lesbian or gay bar since then due to covid but I’m sure it’s going to be a lot different. That really sucks.

What was your worst date experience? by fieryoyster in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We made the same mistake on New Years. Instead of a lesbian space it was gay men and drag, and we were the only women there. They were all super cool and nice though. We had our picture taken for a magazine then ubered to the regular lesbian bar instead a few blocks away. If anyone was mad at our presence nobody showed it. It was just good ole gay happiness there!

What was your worst date experience? by fieryoyster in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 18 insightful - 22 fun18 insightful - 21 fun19 insightful - 22 fun -  (0 children)

Tinder. First date, we went to a nice restaurant and afterward she said she’d fallen in love with me and then forcefully made out with me like a dog lapping up some spilled cereal. Then I went home and she texted me saying she was going to quit cocaine for me. Glad I gave tinder a second chance though. That’s how I met you ;)

People who menstruate of saidit, make sure your sexual partner has a trash can in the bathroom and soap. You know, normal bathroom things by SteppenSlut in GenderCritical

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In all seriousness been there, sis. That shit happens to me like every other period.

People who menstruate of saidit, make sure your sexual partner has a trash can in the bathroom and soap. You know, normal bathroom things by SteppenSlut in GenderCritical

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Oh my god, I’m the WORST. Please go ahead and just ban me already.

People who menstruate of saidit, make sure your sexual partner has a trash can in the bathroom and soap. You know, normal bathroom things by SteppenSlut in GenderCritical

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Oh ho ho, look at privileged money bags over here with the extra toilet paper!

The TIM Community in a Nutshell by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]SteppenSlut 12 insightful - 9 fun12 insightful - 8 fun13 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Ladytwinklytwat here! Just dropping by to say YOU are valid! And me! Me too, especially! Weeeee! UwU xx

Do you feel like its ok to fart very loudly around other women as a lesbian? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 4 insightful - 14 fun4 insightful - 13 fun5 insightful - 14 fun -  (0 children)

Only if the timbre is just right. If it’s a sad dilapidated sound or anything less of a trumpet I will promptly see myself out.

The TIM Community in a Nutshell by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]SteppenSlut 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Even the people of imgur find it repulsive apparently, I only just uploaded it and it’s controversial 😂 How is it okay to post something so sexual and gross to a lesbian sub but not okay to post about anything to do with normal WOMEN stuff. We live in a society.

The TIM Community in a Nutshell by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]SteppenSlut 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Well my top two worst ones was someone asking for “academic sources for he/him lesbians” and this: https://imgur.com/gallery/YIPLPxE

Do you feel differently about heterosexual vs homosexual trans people? by Bogos in GenderCritical

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My dad worked in a machine shop with a couple of old school TIMS. They both did MULTIPLE surgeries and all that long longggg ago and are completely convinced that we all believe they are actually women. They have never once flaunted being trans and I doubt they ever will, in fact they fear it and fear anyone thinking they’re not real women. They are both married to men. It’s honestly sad for all involved because you know it’s just gay men with deep rooted internalized homophobia. I’m not concerned of their presence in the slightest I just feel for them.

We've reached peak crazy. by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]SteppenSlut 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

...because we’re lesbians here, we can’t include anyone other than women.

The TIM Community in a Nutshell by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]SteppenSlut 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I was feeling saucy yesterday and got on r/actuallesbians and sorted by controversial. Do not do what I did. It will haunt me forever

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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Oh fuck that dude I’m sorry. Reddit admins scrolling like “Oh. A baby cat and a wild deer doing the hokey pokey. Not politically correct enough! 🛑🤚🏽BANNED!”

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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I shall look into it thank you my good man!

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lesbian is the correct term but you tried, so A for effort!

Today on reddit I posted 3 comments on a post on the front page. They were deleted by mods, and to verify my account, I have to send them a picture of my forearm showing my skin color. If my skin is not dark enough, I don't get approved. by magnora7 in MeanwhileOnReddit

[–]SteppenSlut 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

This is the sort of shit stunt that’s going to have the opposite affect black people are claiming they want in this movement. This is the sort of shit stunt causing thousands of scared white people to suddenly join white supremacist groups for safety.

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If there’s a cure count me out! But thanks!

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh man really? That’s absolutely stupid, I’m sorry that happened. What’s the context? That they do. And from what I’m seeing/hearing it’s getting worse everyday

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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Hi

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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Fieryoyster 🧐 nm tbf wyd

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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I already feel more comfortable posting here. I’ve mostly been lurking today but I’m planning to get more involved as well. Even posting an introduction here I was like shit. Reddit is toxic in the way it conditions people imo. We can make it great, I think. We can at least try

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That we have. Thanks for the welcome! I hope it does. It’s a bittersweet feeling going from reddit to this, if I’m honest. It will take some getting used to.

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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Subscribed. Awesome! I will look at it. I already fell for a weird sub on here and it hasn’t even been 24 hours.

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hello! Subscribed. Thank you!

I will always protect black women first before anyone else. Not because I don't value other people but because there is hardly anyone else looking out for black women. It's worth any sacrifice! by [deleted] in TrueLesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You’ll have to forgive me, I was bewildered thinking this was the old true lesbians. Just got to this site. My bad! Keep doing your thing... I guess.

Why did you subscribe to this sub? by [deleted] in TrueLesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Holy shit, well firstly I subscribed here because I thought it was the old r/truelesbians. But now, I’m subscribed because you’re absolutely hilarious.

I will always protect black women first before anyone else. Not because I don't value other people but because there is hardly anyone else looking out for black women. It's worth any sacrifice! by [deleted] in TrueLesbians

[–]SteppenSlut 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think the only way I could wrap my head around this one is, you must not be white. Not all white people are supremacists. I’m white but I don’t rely on other people being powerless as an identity. So I’m not going to re-imagine my “white identity” I honestly don’t even think about my race until I read weird things like this. I do know that being blatantly racist isn’t going to help solve whatever you’re trying to accomplish here. If I were you I’d take a deep breath and realize not everyone hates everyone and not everyone is racist or maybe all of us are racist and honestly if we all just got along who really gives a fuck in the end. You know?

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

[–]SteppenSlut[S] 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Woooo, hi! Glad to see you here! I tried to figure out, but big surprise, any comments I found relating to the sub were censored. My only guess as to why it was banned is consumeproduct poked fun at corporations especially big money ones, gave tips on growing your own food and self improvement, and was just anti consumerism including pornography. You can probably guess why any and all of those things aren’t going to fly with reddit right now.

Finally made it here. Sup guys? by SteppenSlut in Introductions

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I agree with you 100%. These are scary times we live in. I was on a sub today and was scrolling a comment thread and every time someone tried to answer this user’s question, it was automod deleted. There must have been like 15 different comments trying to answer this poor guy and 15 automod overrides. It was then that I noped on out of there and decided to give this site a shot. Thank you for the welcome!!