It's always the snowflakes who are most entitled

SillyGoose · 2021-08-09T05:01:28+00:00

If it helps at all, the "non-binary" character in the Owl House doesn't seem to be super important. Said character was in one episode and mentioned in another, so unless that changes with upcoming episodes, I would still recommend the show personally. Plus, the character is never explicitly called non-binary or anything, so if you can get past "they" pronouns being used a couple times it isn't a big deal.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T23:05:18+00:00

I have struggled with this a lot, since I feel like I have to prove myself, but I know that I like women and I have no interest in men in the same way that my straight friends know that they only like women or only like men. Nobody questions them even though they have not been in a relationship. Honestly, I don't think I have an obsession with labels. I don't go around talking about things like that because I have much more interesting things to talk about, like my hobbies or goals in life. I only really mentioned it here because it is relevant to what I am experiencing with my trans friend. My point in saying "why can't I just be a lesbian" is that my sexuality is a big part of why my friend is pushing me to identify as trans, the other part being my tendency to gravitate towards men's clothes. In my day-to-day life, I don't think about my sexuality or talk about it with people since it isn't a big deal to me. I understand what you are saying though, I just don't think that is what I am doing here.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T19:10:04+00:00

I should have been more clear, but the friend who is nonbinary actually is respectful of my identity. I only included her in the story since it still is worrisome that she felt the need to reidentify herself. Anyway, she has called out the trans friend for pushing me on the trans issue before when we have hung out together. I appreciate your comment though, you seem like a nice person.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T19:00:57+00:00

I don't think she is going to turn on me, but I guess we do have another year until graduation so I can't be sure. I have never said anything that could be remotely considered transphobic to her and I don't think she has an issue with me being a lesbian. I think in her mind, she honestly thinks that she is helping. We have been good friends since elementary school and it is a valuable friendship when the TQ stuff is avoided.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T18:50:47+00:00

Yeah, I'm in the US. I can only really apply to schools in a certain region though, given that my parents don't want me to leave the country or go to a college too many hours away from home. I don't want to go into too much detail on here at risk of doxxing myself. I appreciate the offer about the users in law school, but I think I'm good for now. I have a few years before I would go to law school and I suppose there is always the chance that I would change my mind while I'm in college.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T06:19:24+00:00

I guess I didn't say this, but the thing is that a lot of the people at my school who ask for my pronouns or think I'm nonbinary don't know that I am a lesbian. I'm not in the closet and it isn't a secret, but I also am just not a super public person and have never been in a relationship. I just wear men's clothes and look more "butch" even though I have long hair, so I think that instead of assuming that I am just a more masculine lesbian or even a "tomboy", they just jump to trans or nonbinary since it is what they are more familiar with. I'm not sure if it is homophobia on their parts or just ignorance.

SillyGoose · 2021-07-14T06:12:56+00:00

I really appreciate how thorough this is. I think you are right. I have been very gentle with telling her that I am content in my womanhood since I do worry about upsetting her, but I suppose it is within my right to be honest if she is upsetting me. She is a really good friend when we aren't talking about all the gender stuff though.

In terms of college, I am pretty deep in the research process, so I'm not going to change my plans, but I realize that the schools I am interested in may not be the best for LGB in hindsight. I know they are really liberal, but that may mean TQ would dominate over LGB. I know pronouns in email signatures, introductions, and even pronoun buttons are things I have seen in marketing and on college visits. I don't really have other options though, since I know I want to go to a selective liberal arts school and they are pretty much all the same in terms of being woke and social justice hotspots. Anyway, if I may ask, do you know how bad things are with non-STEM classes/humanities classes? I am good with science but I kind of hate it so I was considering studying history/political science since that feeds well into law school, but I realize that poli sci probably attracts a lot of woke people. I'm not super invested in the subject I suppose, I just know I want to be an attorney. I know that may vary from place to place, but I'm sure you know a lot more than I do. Sorry for the longer response.

SillyGoose · 2020-08-15T00:23:03+00:00

The closest one for me would probably be 4. I know I'm a lesbian and have for some time, but it is still hard for me to fully accept myself. I come here mostly to read rather than engage because seeing that there are other lesbians out there is helping me slowly grow more comfortable with the idea, even though it takes time. The reason I would come here to read over, say, the lesbian community on reddit has more to do with the fact that I can't relate to stuff on there. Seeing a bunch of memes and images of women posted on there made me feel alienated more than anything, since I'm honestly not comfortable enough to make jokes about my sexuality and feel creepy looking at pictures of women. This community has some nice discussions that remind me that being a lesbian is normal and it has helped me a bit with acceptance. I guess it makes me feel like I'm a little less alone in who I am.

SillyGoose · 2020-08-05T03:16:52+00:00

Honestly, it is ridiculous. I never see straight men targeted in this way for only liking women, so why is it different for lesbians? It is sad that it happened to your cousin as well. I'm doing alright now for the most part even if I still feel guilty occasionally, but thank you for the offer.

SillyGoose · 2020-08-05T03:11:45+00:00

Having real hobbies is great! Bass is super cool. I spend a lot of time practicing percussion instruments for my school concert and marching band and love being inolved in theatre productions. I appreciate the comment, it definitely makes me a little more optimistic.

SillyGoose · 2020-08-04T08:27:43+00:00

As a lesbian younger than you (16), I completely agree with this. I felt so guilty not being attracted to men at all that I ended up getting convinced that I had to be a "trans man", as if is impossible to just be a lesbian. Even now, despite knowing I am a lesbian, the "woke" people still make me feel bad. Being bi or pan is "cool" now and "sexuality is fluid", so being a lesbian isn't supported much. Honestly, the trans movement and its allies have hurt me way more than the run of the mill homophobes have at this point. I don't even know any other lesbians at my age, everyone is bi, pan, or trans now. It feels so isolating.

SillyGoose · 2020-07-28T02:11:43+00:00

I was 14 when I first acknowledged my feelings as a crush, even though I'd been attracted to girls for years before. Entering ninth grade, I had no friends in most of my classes and ended up partnering with the quiet girl. We quickly became close friends and I soon developed a pretty serious crush on her. We had some pretty weird tension and would often touch each other, wink at each other, that sort of thing. I felt really weird about touching her, even just a casual handshake, in a way that was really new to me. When I found myself accidentally thinking about how cute I thought she was and fantasizing about going out on a date, I realized it was a crush. It's been about two years now and I still have feelings for her. The worst part is that I haven't told her that I'm a lesbian and she probably is straight. I mean, she told me she isn't interested in boys or dating, but the dating pool is limited at my school anyway and I think her family's conservative. She's still a really good friend anyway, at least.

SillyGoose · 2020-07-16T02:34:42+00:00

With the way things are at my school, things are kind of split between a majority of conservative people who are not accepting of outsiders, and recently the "woke" people have become a group. I don't know how they would react to someone who changed their minds, since I never publicly identified as trans. I do know that sometimes the more "woke" people have made me feel a little awkward, since I've been asked already if I am nonbinary or "not a girl" relatively recently. It definitely seems to be "cooler" to identify as nonbinary or "pan", and I have yet to meet any girls who are just lesbians or "tomboys" like me at school, although I'm not open about that. I hope that your niece is able to come to terms with herself, since 12 is very young to be deciding anything like that.

SillyGoose · 2020-07-16T02:25:43+00:00

I agree. I think my parents never cared about what I did online because I've always been a "good" kid who has hobbies, extracurriculars, and good grades, so they just assumed I would know not to be an idiot. I think that the people who had told me I was trans were both children like me and adults, since I had some saying they "wished they knew when they were that young" and others who told me they were of a similar age. I wish I remember my username at the time to look at what exactly I was told, but the account has definitely been lost to time.

SillyGoose · 2020-07-15T01:32:39+00:00

In hindsight, I should not have been on Reddit when I was that young. My parents never really restricted my internet access or taught me about safe internet use though, from what I remember. I originally joined for the LEGO subreddits, only to find my way to the trans ones. Thank you.

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