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[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Thank you for posting about your experience. I'm glad you came through it OK. You sound very wise. My niece is only twelve and is "out" as "enby" (pronouns are he/him or they/them, anything but female). She's definitely being a cool kid with a huge following. What happens when she grows out of it? I worry she'll lose all her friends.

[–]SillyGoose[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

With the way things are at my school, things are kind of split between a majority of conservative people who are not accepting of outsiders, and recently the "woke" people have become a group. I don't know how they would react to someone who changed their minds, since I never publicly identified as trans. I do know that sometimes the more "woke" people have made me feel a little awkward, since I've been asked already if I am nonbinary or "not a girl" relatively recently. It definitely seems to be "cooler" to identify as nonbinary or "pan", and I have yet to meet any girls who are just lesbians or "tomboys" like me at school, although I'm not open about that. I hope that your niece is able to come to terms with herself, since 12 is very young to be deciding anything like that.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I was never in any peer groups or anything when I was young, and with no kids of my own I have no idea what goes on in teen culture. This helps a lot. And again I'm happy for you that you're finding your way through all this.