Seems like that wasn't her first time getting that response

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[–]NastyWetSmear 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I don't know much about women's fashion and such. Maybe this is a modern thing and someone will correct me:

Tinder is meant to be where you go to attract people, right?
Is it me, or does her picture have her sitting in her car, kid in the background, hair dye half worn off and showing the roots, in an old tracksuit shirt, no make up, not even smiling at the camera?... Am I wrong, or does this seem like she isn't exactly leading with her best foot here?

Is this a case of: "Here's me at my worst"? Kinda like this is what you can expect every day?

I'm not saying your profile picture needs to be you in a ball gown with professional make up, posed outside the Ritz. I'm just thinking, if the idea is to attract a partner, maybe just make it look like you give a fuck what they think? Not: "I've got to drive my kid to school... Oh, wait, I was going to try and find a long term partner to spend the rest of my life with today as well!... Eh, fuck it, I'll just snap a picture in the car before I drive off, he's not worth much more effort than that."

Am I the crazy one?

[–]weavilsatemyface 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

She seems pretty fine to me. I wouldn't kick her out of bed just 'cos her roots are showing. I'd rather see an honest pic than something all made up and filtered.

I dunno man, you're giving off 6/10 would not bang vibes around now.

[–]Oyveygoyim[S] 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

Even knowing she has nigger dna in her for life now? Maybe you catch a disease or have a kid with her who also could be a niglet because his dna is in her forever. Then again I'm not surprised a liberal self-hating white like you would have such low standards...

[–]Dontcaretoday 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I hit the laugh button on your comment here, but wanted to clarify that I'm not laughing with you, I'm laughing at you. Who says shit like this lol.

[–]Oyveygoyim[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Which part don't you understand?

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's not that I'm saying she's not attractive, I'm just wondering if your goal is to find a long term relationship, if that's what you lead with? You see what I mean?

If I just wanted to get my dick wet I wouldn't be giving too much of a toss, right? But this picture says: "I don't really care enough to try"... And that's fine if we're going to hook up every few months when we can't do any better, but if you're saying: "I want you to fall in love with me"... And you can't muster up a smile? You can't even wait to take the photo when you get home in a nice environment? You're just acting like this whole search for love is an after thought? I feel like that's not a great start.

Let's say you were looking for Mr/Mrs right, okay? Not a quick screw that might turn out long term, but someone serious - That's what it says on her profile, after all: Long term relationship. You've got two pictures -

You having just mowed the law, pit stains on your shirt, dirt under your nails but nothing really manly, like a big streak of earth up your arms or anything. Old sweat pants with holes in the knees and a shirt two sizes two big and you take a photo of yourself near the "clippings bin". You look tired and a little annoyed and the grass clippings have activated your hay fever so your eyes are a little red.

Another of you at a friend's wedding where you were dressed up very nicely, freshly shaved, smiling warmly in a room decorated with flowers and curtains. You look 100% and you look alive and welcoming.

One of these two pictures is saying: "Hell yeah. I'm looking for love, and this is my best look!"... The other says: "Whatever. I'm not gonna try. Take it or leave it."

[–]weavilsatemyface 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm just wondering if your goal is to find a long term relationship, if that's what you lead with? You see what I mean?

I see what you mean about presenting yourself in the best possible light, but because she's quite good looking it also goes the other way. Like the photo is sort of "No time wasters" without being so rude about it. Here I am, in my every day clothes and make-up, not dolled up for a party, with my kid. If you like what you see, let's talk. If you're looking for a babe or a barbie doll or a hooker, just move on.

Guys and gals have very different experiences on dating sites, including Tinder, especially when they're young (20s or early 30s). Any young woman who is even average looking will receive huge numbers of pings. They don't have to dress up unless they're below average, and dressing down may help weed out the shallow time wasters. (But probably not, because no matter how shallow you think guys on dating sites are, they're worse.)

[–]NastyWetSmear 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ehhh, yeah, I guess. I can see a: "This is what you get" approach, like I said in my first post:

Is this a case of: "Here's me at my worst"? Kinda like this is what you can expect every day?

It just seems to me, if I was looking for someone to marry, and I couldn't even see a picture of them smiling and looking like they showered that morning, I think I'd be pretty inclined to move on, you know? I'd like her to look like at least she cares if or not I'm interested?... I guess that's just personal choice in the end though. Some guys might see that and think that's great.

Yeah, I know you're right about the tipping of the balance on dating apps. A woman could look like she's just shaken her meth addiction and hold up a sign that says: "Fuck off" and still get more hits than a dude in a tux. I guess maybe she's accepted that she doesn't have to worry about her effort?... But I think she'll find that she gets what she's advertising for then.

[–]RamblingOtter 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It's a story as old as time itself. Once you go black, we don't want you back!

[–]weavilsatemyface 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is a good example of how racists are dicks.

The fuckhead replying to her knows nothing about her life or the circumstances of why she is single mother. Maybe she was married, started a family, and the daughter's father died. Given that they are in America, and the father is black, maybe he died defending his country while the guy putting her down was sitting in his mom's basement jerking off to sissy porn and Japanese anime.

And I guarantee that the fuckbrain criticising her is "mixed race" himself, because we're all mixed race unless you're from some isolated tribe in the New Guinea highlands that hasn't had contact with outsiders for five thousand years. In which case you're inbred as fuck. Just some of us are more mixed than others.

[–]SMCAB 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

This isn't racism. It is not fucking racist to be unattracted to a race, or not wanting to surround yourself with certain people.

But. You are correct in one thing, this was a super dick thing to do. I'm a dick. And I wouldn't do this. It's just being a huge dick for no real reason.

Fuck cloudflare.

[–]Oyveygoyim[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

How do you know it wasn't just another case of a stupid white woman getting pregnant by a nigger and him vanishing? Maybe if more whites were racist like me our nations wouldn't be getting flooded with violent non-white immigrants...