Lightbulb moments?

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What was your lesbian lightbulb moment when you realised you're gay? What caused the realisation?

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[–]xAcidRainx 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I started noticing girls in a way that was definitely gay LOL

[–]VioletRemi 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Lightbulb as "Oh, I have a new idea!"? Then that finally I don't need to have anything to do with men anymore ;)

Lightbulb

At first I thought it will be about "how many lesbians needed to change broken lighbulb", lol.

[–]Innisfree 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

One lesbian - one hand. Because they are very good with their fingers :)

[–]VioletRemi 11 insightful - 8 fun11 insightful - 7 fun12 insightful - 8 fun -  (4 children)

I have a better one:

How many lesbians needed to change a broken lighbulb? Zero, because they will enjoy each other in the darkness ;)

[–]florasis 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

So you like to do it in the dark, eh? :D

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 5 fun7 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

Moans would be enough to light the imagination :D

[–]florasis 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You always light my imagination...

[–]Innisfree 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hehehe 👌

[–]RedVelvetCake 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I realized that whenever I "admired" a girl, I kept on thinking about her 24/7 and daydreaming about ideal situations where I'd impress her or "hangout" with her. But now that I think about it, even back in elementary school, I always had a soft spot for girls, I wonder why it took me so long to get that lightbulb moment facepalm

[–]Hollywood 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I was around 13, I noticed I had crushes on girls, but I brushed them off as me just thinking they were cool and wanting to be their friend. I was telling myself that there was no way I could be a lesbian. Early in high school, I had those butterflies in the stomach when you see them, think about them all day types of crushes on girls. At this point I was coming to terms with the fact that I was a lesbian since I never felt that way about boys, but I was still trying to deny it.

When I was 16, this girl transferred from another school into one of my classes, and she seemed like a lesbian (which she actually turned out to be) and I had it BAD for her. I imagined us walking around campus as a power couple (so embarrassing) but I was kinda awkward so I never actually talked to her. But I think this is when it fully hit me that I was a lesbian and I wasn't ashamed of it. Thankfully, I realized this before ever having to be in a relationship with a guy. Realistically, I've known since I was about 14/15 but I tried to lie to myself and didn't accept it until I was 16.

[–]yousaythosethings 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There were a lot of things coming at me from all angles at once that forced me to figure my shit out, and when I finally allowed myself to think about it, I realized that I was just expecting to magically start liking guys some day based on this assumption that I could when I finally worked through the issues that I presumed were preventing me from doing so. Except that the more I grew as a person and the greater clarity of mind I had, the more clear I became about (1) my always present attraction to women being legitimate, effortless, and natural to me and (2) no I am not attracted to men and it’s not a problem to work through, or talk myself into. I realized I could stop thinking of myself as broken and awkward and cold when I knew I wasn’t. That’s just how I felt when I was around men and feeling like something was wrong with me.

I had the aha moment and everything felt lighter and more clear and I felt at peace. I mean of course it brought with it a whole host of other things to deal with but I felt internally right and aligned with myself for the first time in my life. Like I finally listened to myself, didn’t gaslight myself, or fight against myself.

For context I have a history of family relationship-based trauma that made me a stranger to myself and a dissociative mess for so long. Someone on here before (I think Strictley) explained a situation where one can have a poor mind-body connection and that’s exactly what it was for me, and why I connected so strongly to meditation, which helped bring me to the clarity I needed..

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I dated a guy and I felt like it was fake. We had sex and it was repulsive. Shortly after I fell in love (for the first time) with a friend. I realised when I fell in love. Up till then I think I thought I was either ace or bisexual (I don't know how that works).

[–]HelloMomo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is embarrassing but

It was one of those weird tumblr blogs that's just some girl posting her semi-nudes for the world to see. I was like, "Why am I still scrolling through this? Why didn't I just click back? This is objectively dumb." And then the realization hit me like a tidal wave.

[–]lmaonope333 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

when I was 13 i looked up the word homosexual in the dictionary, knew immediately that it applied to me, and pushed it to the back of my mind, thinking that I'd grow out of it. at 17 i was conversing with a friend, we were talking about gay people and she said that it's not a sin to have gay thoughts as long as you dont act on it. this was a lightbulb moment because I realized you dont have to do anything or look like anything to be gay, you simply have to have homosexual thoughts/feelings. at that moment it hit me that I'm a lesbian

[–]LightOcean8 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If I'm a lesbian, it was when I started taking "Am I lesbian" quizzes and having fantasies about being with women. And getting turned on by women lately.