LGB ErasureCensorship Thursday - share your sub bans here!

submitted by NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void[M] from self.LGBDropTheT

At long last, this thread is back!

Were you a long-time subscriber of r/LGBT or r/ActualLesbians until you stood your ground that sexuality and gender identity are different? Were you called a TERF based on your user history? Did you get banned from other subs merely for being a participant here?

Share your stories! Screenshots are welcome as well.

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[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Banned from /r/ActualLesbians for "trolling" (I'm not actually a lesbian, BTW) for pointing out that the strategy that some men use of spamming numerous women on dating sites and apps or dating-like sites can be fruitful. And other play-the-numbers strategies.

It's like those credit card offers I get in my mail, weekly. They go straight to the recycling, thankfully. I've been receiving them for years. But they just keep coming, because somebody, somewhere eventually bites and makes the whole enterprise profitable.

It ain't pretty but it's a fact. Facts are not welcome there.

[–]reluctant_commenter 19 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 7 fun20 insightful - 8 fun -  (4 children)

I mean, hey, you're just as much a lesbian as anyone else, apparently 🤣 sorry to hear you were banned haha.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I was only mildly perturbed, for maybe an hour. Meh.

Yeah, isn't most (2/3rds) of /r/AL AGP, anyhow? I think I've seen the poll results.

Men vs women was the general point of contrition that lead to my banning from that subreddit.

It almost struck me that AGP are trying to loophole their way out of that one. Men vs women.

I got banhammered by a bunch of dudes by pointing out a behavior I've observed in men. This seems perhaps like a point of fragility then? Was it the men vs women thing that got people upset, or that I called them out shared my opinion on such a dichotomy and thus brought it up?

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

https://saidit.net/s/Lesbians/comments/64mp/i_did_some_data_analysis_on_the_al_demographics/

Dunno if you saw these posts about it, a while ago. But also I think some transwomen lied about being "biological women" on their survey, lol.

Was it the men vs women thing that got people upset, or that I called them out shared my opinion on such a dichotomy and thus brought it up?

Anything that seems remotely threatening to their belief system seems to draw the banhammer, at least that I have seen.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think I saw your work, no. That corroborates what facts are banging around in my head about that subreddit that I don't recall where I got them from.

[–]reluctant_commenter 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, crazy stuff! Thanks for taking a look.

[–]censorshipment 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (56 children)

What about bans unrelated to the T? Lol I was banned from blacklesbians... I made a post about how to fuck a femme with a strapon, and someone asked why just a femme. I don't think masculine lesbians should get fucked with a strapon. Having unpopular opinions shouldn't be banworthy.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (25 children)

Wtf. I'm a femme and don't want any strap on or whatever the fuck nearby me. There are butch women and femme lesbians who like strap on, while others do not. That's really weird your pov and it's actually quite insulting (so your ban doesn't really surprise me) . I actually hate strap on's generally speaking, but I won't tell other lesbians that they shouldn't use them.

Anyway, curious to know why the f masculine lesbians shouldn't be fucked with a strap on BUT femmes should. Lmao.

[–]censorshipment 2 insightful - 7 fun2 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 7 fun -  (24 children)

Fool, I didn't say femmes should... I just said masculine lesbians should not. I actually believe no lesbians should want to be fucked with a strapon (I mean another woman wearing a harness with a dildo hanging from it) which is even more unpopular. I think using a dildo is fine, but not as a strapon. It's just so jarring to see any masculine person being fucked... yes, I believe in sexual "gender roles".

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (22 children)

You still didn't answer my question. Why masculine lesbians shouldn't get fucked with a strap on?

I personally don't like either dildos nor stra on's, basically anything resembling a dick lmao. But if someone likes it, then more power to them, I really don't care

[–]reluctant_commenter 17 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

She seems to think that one can choose to be a butch lesbian. And has some other unusual beliefs about lesbians, lol.

https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/79n5/im_a_lesbian_because_i_love_dick/rjfq?context=3

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lmao. Yeah, she has some weird pov's indeed !

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 7 fun3 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 7 fun -  (19 children)

I said at the end that it's jarring for any masculine person to get fucked. I don't think a buff macho man should be on his back getting dicked down in the ass either.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (17 children)

yeah, I'm basically the opposite from you LMAO. I look for a very very equal relationship and I'm strictly attracted to femmes, and I'm a femme. Not that there isn't lovely butch women out there, but not my cup of tea. I feel it's very confusing for me to have sexual "gender roles" or even in a masculine vs feminine dynamic in the relationship as what I look for is very equal.

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 6 fun3 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 6 fun -  (16 children)

A butch and femme can be "equal" / in an "equal" relationship. Both can be anti-penetration, anti-kink, anti-polyamory i.e. "vanilla". I'm very vanilla... lick each other's pussies and go to sleep.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (15 children)

What I mean by equal is the same type of energy. I personally don't like a "masculine" vs a "feminine" energy in any couple really. I like when it's feminine vs feminine, masc vs masc etc etc. But this is a strict preference of mine.

[–]censorshipment 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (14 children)

In the context of sex, sexual energy can be the same. I typically date aggressive femmes who are as sexually aggressive as me... so again, it's equal.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

I'm speaking of an equal energy in the sense of two people are either feminine or masculine or both in between (what matters is that they both have the same energy), like I said. That's what I look for. As I'm a femme, I want other femme. For me, an "aggressive femme" has a totally different energy than an "aggressive butch" (I prefer to use the term assertive though because aggressive feels to strong lmao). Other people can prefer different dynamics.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What about the masculine huge gay dude getting butt fucked? lol

[–]MagnoliaxMirageSuperfemme 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's just so jarring to see any masculine person being fucked... yes, I believe in sexual "gender roles".

Glad I'm not alone. Sometimes I feel bad for thinking this as well. But it is what it is 🤷‍♀️

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Wow, lesbians are now adopting the "only masculine gay men are men and tops, only feminine males are bottoms and not real men" shit now, too? Fuck off with your sexist bullshit. Masculine men can get dicked if they want to and feminine males can top if they want to ,the same applies to lesbians. Go eat your strapon smh

[–]reluctant_commenter 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fortunately this viewpoint seems to be in the minority. Sorry to hear you guys have to deal with it too.

[–]julesburm1891 12 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Lizard, if you’re ever in my neck of the woods, I will gladly buy you a pint.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I second what Jules said. If you ever come to the West Coast US, pm me

[–]censorshipment 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

Not "lesbians"... just me. I've literally said my opinions are unpopular. You fuck off.

[–]mvmlego 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

I think the reason you've been getting some strong reactions is that you phrased your original comment prescriptively: "I don't think masculine lesbians should get...". You didn't phrase it in terms of your personal aesthetic preference; you phrased it as a rule that others ought to follow, without providing any good reason for the rule you're imposing--or any reason at all, really.

[–]censorshipment 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

That's intentional. :)

[–]mvmlego 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Which part: phrasing it prescriptively, or providing no justification for your suggestion? Also, why?

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think masculine lesbians should get fucked with a strapon.

If that's coming from a place of what makes your particular gears turn, great, but I encourage you to point that out. These sorts of things can't however be universalized.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (18 children)

No lesbian should be fucked with a strapon, in general that's just some fake reproduction of hetero sex and lots of phallocentric people can't imagine activiity between two women without so phallo . To be honest. I've found some funny sex toy, where the wearer get stimulated with a vibrator. And would be into trying it sometimes (as a wearer lol)because would allow new sensation and positions. But would be only a special play occasion ( and don't consider it sex, just play).

[–]censorshipment 5 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 6 fun -  (17 children)

Agree. During my 20s, I used to say that lesbians shouldn't want something that's not part of the female body. And of course that pissed off lots of lesbians who "crave" sex toys instead of fingers/tongues/lips/vulvas/clits. SMH I don't understand how someone "needs" something that's artificially made to be sexually pleased.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (16 children)

The only penetration I enjoy is the one of fingers. A phallo pushed into me, isn't the definition of pleasure to me. But I'm also not sexually passive. And in general, women come for stimulating the clit, so a plastic thing inside the vag isn't really a good method for pleasing a female regardless. I would just see it as a special occasion play. Lesbians who use it as a main thing, are closeted bi women who are craving dick, imho.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So I am very clit centric as well but my current partner is g spot centric and can’t really come from clit stimulation only. This is very different from me and was kind of wild at first, but she always relies on some kind of penetration. And no she’s not closeted bi. So these women do exist.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's very weird for a woman. G-spot is just the inside part of the clit anyway, which extends till vagina upper starting part,Fingers can touch the g-spot better than any dildo.

My most sensitive part if the clit, nothing feels like it. Just a touch and I'm over the moon. The inside gives very little sensation, except for a couple of inch of the upper part where the clit nevers are. It's the norm for women

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 7 fun3 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 7 fun -  (13 children)

Ugh, I can't believe we agree on something.

All white lesbians are racists. Your turn to say something... lmao

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

Your turn to say something... lmao

What can I say? You need your meds :D

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 7 fun3 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 7 fun -  (11 children)

Grr I'm anti-meds... I love when I'm having BPD episodes. :P

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 7 fun7 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 7 fun -  (10 children)

You're so fucking funny lol

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 9 fun3 insightful - 8 fun4 insightful - 9 fun -  (9 children)

It's rude to laugh at black people. We are not your entertainment. Smh (come on, fight back lol)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Oh girl LMAO

[–]CuntWorshiperWomenholic full time | vagina fetishist part-time 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have a even more unpopular opinion. No lesbian would ever be fucked by a strap on. This is a bisexual’s thing. Stating this opinion anywhere else would get me banned from earth haha.

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 8 fun3 insightful - 7 fun4 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

I concur! And this is why as a butch lesbian, I primarily date bi women who are typically into penetrative sex. I wouldn't feel comfortable fucking a gay femme with a strapon honestly... I even asked someone I dated not to use a dildo while she masturbated on video chat lol