I'm speaking of an equal energy in the sense of two people are either feminine or masculine or both in between (what matters is that they both have the same energy), like I said. That's what I look for. As I'm a femme, I want other femme. For me, an "aggressive femme" has a totally different energy than an "aggressive butch" (I prefer to use the term assertive though because aggressive feels to strong lmao). Other people can prefer different dynamics.