"If I feel like a woman then boom I'm a woman bc it isn't real"

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[–]MilkTea[S] 48 insightful - 9 fun48 insightful - 8 fun49 insightful - 9 fun -  (5 children)

impossible to explain, I just know I am one in the same way gay ppl know theyre gay and straight ppl know they're straight

gay = same sex attracted

straight = opposite sex attracted

It's that easy.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Homosexuality in men is in principle physically measurable. Attach a device that measures small changes in diameter to a flaccid penis, then show a diverse sequence of erotic images to the owner of said penis - comparison of diameter in response to either biological sex will provide a reasonable quantitation of sexual orientation. I'm guessing something similar could be done for women, perhaps with moisture.

I know of no way to measure the magical feeling of gender that exists entirely within somebody's head.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Photoplethysmography. Same idea, it's based on genital vasocongestion: which in men causes erection and in women it causes blood plasma to seep through the vaginal wall--this is the main constituent of lubrication. Instead of a strain gauge or volumetric device, it's a tampon-sized widget consisting of a light source and a photodetector. These work in tandem to measure a relative quantity of blood in surrounding tissue, and hypothetically, arousal.

There are some issues comparing the results of phallometry in men and photoplethysmographic results in women, however: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-019-01599-5 Should get you started if you want to know more.... but at this point... TMI? =)

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It took me a decade (if not longer) to realize I was gay. There's no magical "gay sense" like this person is describing. It can be hard to tell, even if it seems obvious to others.

[–]emptiedriver 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, it's active - you want to do something sexual with someone of the same sex. What is the activity of being female? Wanting to have your period? I don't like having mine, plus I had no idea what it would feel like before I had my first one, plus they don't always feel the same, really. Wanting to have boobs? This just seems like getting confused with "wanting to touch boobs".. It makes no sense to say it's an inner feeling. It's a physical fact. You're homosexual or bisexual when you want to do things and especially when you start doing them due to the physical fact of your bodies. You're male or female based on those bodies. None of it is internal knowledge in a void.

[–]Eurowoman24 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

not to mention the physical manifestation of that attraction..

[–]turtleduck23 40 insightful - 4 fun40 insightful - 3 fun41 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

i never understood "i feel like a woman" comment. i am a woman and i don't know what it feels like to be a woman. i can tell you what it feels like to get your period but every woman is different and has different experiences. despite being a woman i can't tell you what it's like to feel pregnant or give birth because i never have. how do you feel like something you have never been. i mean, if you are a man, what does being a male feel like?

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 32 insightful - 4 fun32 insightful - 3 fun33 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

This 1000 times.

As I was talking about this issue with a friend, I asked her what it was like to feel like a woman ("I don't know"). More importantly, I asked her if the jiggling of her boobs turned her on. Her answer: "no, it's irritating because they're too big."

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

omg priceless 🤣🤣

[–]SilverWolf 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a man, and I'd be willing to bet most of us feel the exact same way about being a man as you (and probably most women) feel about being a woman

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I only feel like a woman when I'm on my period. I hate it so much lol

[–]julesburm1891 34 insightful - 7 fun34 insightful - 6 fun35 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

...I knew I was gay because I hit puberty and wanted to make out with other girls like constantly. I assume that’s pretty much how it works for straight people too. There’s nothing mysterious or mystical about it.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

exactly

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol same. At the time I didn’t know that lesbians or gay people were a thing so I was like “what ARE these thoughts?” but they were all about wanting to make out with the girls around me. And now as an adult when I’m around a woman I’m attracted to I want to jump her bones. Add in the fact that I never feel this way toward men and you demonstrably, measurably, provably have a lesbian.

[–]ImNOTRobertPaulson 29 insightful - 4 fun29 insightful - 3 fun30 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

If gender isn't real, why is it so important to this person to identify as and be perceived as a woman? Surely, something that isn't real shouldn't bear such importance to this person's life?

[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Can someone please ask this question on r/asktransgender

[–]ChodeSandwichtender and moist 27 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"Fake it till you make it" doesn't really work when everyone knows you're lying. His imaginary self-confidence will dissolve into another tantrum at the first "he" or "biological male."

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 22 insightful - 11 fun22 insightful - 10 fun23 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

Trans logic 101

[–]nevergonnagiveyouup 17 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 5 fun18 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

bruh

[–]fuck_reddit 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If it is impossible to know what gender you truly are, then it’s impossible to know your sexuality. They didn’t clarify anything, they undid established consensus...

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Impossible to explain?

Funny, you can feel like whatever the hell you want to, but that doesn't make it so.

And 'women' and 'men' are remarkably well-defined. You're not a woman. You will never be a woman. Hint: If you need surgery, medication, body modification, or social affirmation to 'present' as a woman, then you're not one.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Where are we?

[–]sadbihours 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I really miss the days when we knew not to take advice from internet strangers.