How very dare those dickphobic cis lesbians do this to us

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-07-29T00:39:30+00:00

I’m trans, a trans lesbian is the closest I’ll ever get, and it has to be enough. It’s not like I ever forget they only ever tolerate us, but times like this my jealousy takes over. I wish I was one of them.

I wanted to be in the NBA when I was a kid, but I stopped growing before I hit 6ft. So NBA 2k is the closest I will ever get and it has to be enough...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-06-19T16:01:56+00:00

This reads like the same as the employee who says " You can't fire me! I quit!" Trying to pretend they had the power in the decision.

I'm SO sure that someone who identifies as superstraight would be heartbroken if a trans person turned them down... (/s if needed)

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-05-26T21:44:59+00:00

The whole "reducing people to their genitals" argument is so stupid.

For most people, sex is a very important part of a relationship, and genitals are pretty damn important for sex.

But aside from that obvious point, where does that argument logically end?

Intelligence is an important trait in a partner to me. Am I reducing a person to their brain?

I'm balding and I have no control over that. Life gave me that little present. Ive had a few guys say they aren't interested because of that. Are they reducing me to my hairline?

I want a partner who is stable and can hold a job long term. Am I reducing people to their work ethic?

The answer to all of those is obviously no. Like genitals, each of those things are requirements for a partner. Saying I'll only date males with natural dicks isn't reducing them to their genitals. It is highlighting one very important requirement.

Saying gay men or lesbians are reducing people to their genitals for not want to date a trans person is basically a low key way of saying that that is the only thing we care about, and it used to be considered homophobic to assume lgb people are only interested in sex...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-05-25T22:27:29+00:00

Very telling that he says straight men should accept trans women, even if they have a penis, but stops short of saying he would date a trans woman.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-04-17T21:01:07+00:00

Prediction for the future:

The show's creators cave and introduce "dogs of color" and woke websites trash the show for cultural appropriation.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-04-05T19:46:18+00:00

To answer both questions at once: it depends. How I define myself and project myself to the world is situational and circumstantial.

At work, I define myself through my work ethic, dependability, and willingness to help coworkers.

When I play video games or hang with my gamer friends, I define myself through which games I play and accomplishments I've made.

With my sports friends, I define myself by the teams I root for.

The list goes on. I'm far more than a list of labels to be defined by.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-04-01T22:08:06+00:00

Are the people in the relationship consenting adults utilizing their own free will? If yes, I can't see a reason to care. That sentiment doesn't change based on the sex/gender of the people in the relationship. Hell, it doesn't change based in the number of people in the relationship.

What consenting adults do in their private relationship should not matter to other people.

To answer the original question regarding why age gaps aren't called out in same sex relationships as opposite sex ones, I imagine a big component of the reason is society itself. It's a lot easier (and safer) to poke at straight couples than gay couples. People don't want to risk being labeled homophobic.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-31T21:50:29+00:00

My cynical answer: it's easy. Why take the time to formulate a well-reasoned, researched argument, when you can just label your opponent as something bad? Tra's know this well. They don't have to actually have a discussion when they can just call someone a terf or transphobe.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-31T20:39:28+00:00

Lord...the entitlement. I love how it's such a pain for her to have to clarify her initial post. She obviously didn't misspeak or over-generalize.

Thought experiment:

What would happen if someone tweeted something to the affect of:

"Transgender people catfish other people online." And then followed that with a tweet saying, "obviously didn't mean ALL transgender people. Can't believe all the hate I'm getting."

Would tra's be willing to let that go?

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-21T01:16:11+00:00

You'd think at some point, trans activists could smell the hypocrisy just dripping off of them.

One on hand, they say that trans people are so marginalized and need a larger voice. On the other hand, detrans people are such a small fraction of trans people that journalists and others should focus on other people in the trans community.

I mean, why focus on a tiny percentage of people instead of focusing on the experiences of the vast majority? (Paraphrasing an actual comment said on the thread without a hint of irony or understanding)

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-15T19:53:31+00:00

Just wanted to thank the mods for responding and deleting transphobic comments so quickly. Hopefully one day Terfs will learn that they don't belong in our wlw spaces.

Ahhh, yes, I see the "don't gatekeep me" crowd gets to decide who does or does not belong in wlw spaces...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-13T21:18:27+00:00

What I got from reading that thread:

Trans people: "You can't gatekeep us! Our gender and sexuality is valid no matter what you think."

Also trans people: "Ok, these are the only valid reasons you can have to not be attracted to us."

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-12T17:00:45+00:00

I found out about it yesterday. Because I like to see what clownery the people at r/conservatives are up to. They were bragging about how great the Super Straight movement is.

Not to pick on this one reply, but this is exactly what is wrong with US politics today. I'm a fairly liberal person, pretty much on everything but guns and PC culture, so I understand the sentiment in that reply.

However, automatically assuming something is "clownery" or otherwise bad or dismissable just because the opposite side of the aisle promotes it is exactly why we are so divided. This person automatically dismissed the super straight movement because those evil conservative clowns were talking about it.

That takes no critical thinking skills whatsoever. Just blind allegiance to a political position.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-03-10T23:49:11+00:00

I spent probably too much time going through the responses on his tweet. A few things I noticed:

The wonderfully tolerant TRAs sure do love using that f-slur. And when pressed about using it, their excuse is "I'm gay. I'm allowed to use it." And here, I thought common decency would be to refrain from using slurs in public settings because they may trigger some people.
Parallel point with #1: would these same people be ok if a trans person went around on Twitter calling themself the T-slur? Would that be ok? After All, that person is trans...
Trans people are simultaneously the most oppressed, unrecognized, and at-risk minority group, and also the SOLE reason we have rights. Make it make sense...

I could easily go on and on, but this is already kinda long, and hey, rule of threes.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-02-17T22:04:33+00:00

This is a difficult topic. On one hand, I am very socially Libertarian, and I believe an adult should have full autonomy over their own body. That includes to use it or do things with/to their body that I don't think is positive or that could be harmful.

However, I also understand we don't live anywhere close to the type of world where a decision like being a sex worker is so uncomplicated. People seldom do it because they want to. There are issues of addiction, exploitation, and trafficking, among other things.

Sex work, on its own, is not something I have much issue with, as long as it's between consenting adults. I'd be for legalizing prostitution as long is it was heavily regulated, ran properly, and didn't take advantage of people in already horrible situations.

We, as a society, decry sex workers "selling their bodies" to make money, but have no issue with someone breaking their back or doing untold physical damage to their bodies working in a warehouse or other physically demanding job.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-02-13T14:31:02+00:00

Hmmm...in one tweet, she says there is no reason a cis gay man shouldn't fuck her. NO REASON. In the next, she says it's her right to be passive aggressive to cis gays on grindr. Sure, "Collin," treat the people you want to attract like that and think there's no reason...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-02-03T00:04:59+00:00

If you a cis straight white male, you don’t get to say what’s offensive because damaging jokes are never made at your expense.

Isn't the dumb Dad and husband who needs to be saved by his wife trope pretty standard in sitcoms? Don't most comedians, regardless of their background, make fun of white guys?

As a white gay male, I could care less that white guys are the butt of a lot of jokes. If it's funny, I laugh. If I felt it went to far, I stop listening/watching. Its not hard.

Also, as an aside, I really hope we will eventually get to a place in society where the "people are upset on Twitter" thing stops being "news."

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-31T17:15:31+00:00

I'm positively shaking in my cis gay boots...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-14T02:27:00+00:00

The moral superiority is what gets me. "Any decent..." is so dismissive on the face of it. Really, he is saying, "if you agree with me, you are decent."

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-12T06:23:55+00:00

Thank you! Agreed, this is a much better way to view it.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-12T06:23:28+00:00

I hesitated to post it for that same reason. I figured it HAD to be parody. But I couldn't find anything to suggest it is.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-12T01:50:30+00:00

So, apparently, raising a gay son is really hard in a pandemic. Why, you may ask. I guess because we all just want to dance and perform!

A couple things: Shouldn't a website called LGBTQ Nation be fighting AGAINST stereotypes instead of reinforcing them?

Also, the only mention I see in the article regarding the teen's sexuality is that everyone knew he was gay because he performed in a play.

How is this supposed to be good or uplifting? Shocker, a parent is is being a parent.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2021-01-03T00:33:52+00:00

Love the logic that lesbians shouldn't talk about not wanting penis because it's invalidating to trans women, but "she" is not only fine with, but seemingly encourages, invalidating men and talking about how bad men are.

It's a daily reminder that trans people can invalidate whoever they want, but it's literal violence to "invalidate" trans.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-21T20:51:23+00:00

If gender isn't real, why is it so important to this person to identify as and be perceived as a woman? Surely, something that isn't real shouldn't bear such importance to this person's life?

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-20T00:41:30+00:00

...and of course my lovely man made milk makers.

I think I just threw up in my mouth. I'm continually disgusted about terminologies some trans people use for specific body parts.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-17T03:36:47+00:00

I already read reviews talking about how the game is transphobic because characters will use pronouns based on if you chose a masculine or feminine voice. Apparently the game should have let the player choose their own pronouns.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-16T01:19:48+00:00

This reminds me...

I recently had to pick up my prescription for an anxiety medication. Did you know the pharmacy just had it back there? Like, I found out they totally give it to other people who need it!? I was so upset and mad that the pharmacy and medical profession did not think only of me! I'm so outraged they use medication to help other people too! WHAT ABOUT ME AND ONLY ME!!!!

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-14T00:34:01+00:00

First, this is my first time submitting a post, so apologies if I did it incorrectly or if this has been posted before, but I didnt see it here.

I was already peaked prior to reading this, but it enraged me and made me even more certain about my thoughts and conclusions.

The article is written by a woman who works part time at a women's shelter and how she's witnessed other staff ignoring complaints from clients regarding the actions of certain trans women, and how much shelter staff bends over backwards to coddle trans women at the expense of other women, many of whom have been victimized by males.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-13T23:44:49+00:00

I feel like there are several things that TRAs will call people transphobic for saying, regardless of context or intent.

With that in mind, fair is fair. If someone talks seriously about genital preferences, they are automatically a homophobe. Man, life is so much easier if I turn off my critical thinking skills and just naturally assume people are bad!

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-13T23:36:49+00:00

I’m a feminine leaning trans man whose in a relationship with another man and it pisses me off to see cis girls doing this shit.

Why so transphobic? I thought if someone identified as trans, that's all that matters? Why are these trans people gatekeeping others' identities?

(I would hope I don't have to actually say it, but this is meant as sarcasm.)

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-12-07T21:34:20+00:00

The content of the tweet is absurd, but everyone else is rightly picking that apart.

So, I will just mention, if a person includes a phrase like " God's gift to women" in their name, I can guarantee they are certainly not that.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-11-17T02:57:11+00:00

One of the comments on that post:

I just don't understand denying others their identity. I can understand that maybe you wouldn't necessarily want to be with a trans person romantically, but why would you speak out and try to rally hatred instead of only explaining that detail in private when getting more involved with a trans people.

So, am I understanding this correctly? A trans person asks a repetitive question on a public forum, and gay guys answering it in a way they don't like is rallying hatred? Besides, wasn't the original post about dating and sex with a trans man?

There are tons of cis gay guys who date trans men, and the transphobes can die mad about it.

Ummm, I'm not going to live mad or die mad about it. I could care less if a cis gay guy wants to date a trans guy. It doesn't bother me and it doesn't affect me. Just don't expect me to be one of those cis guys who dates a trans guy. And don't screech about my genital preferences, because it's not a preference, and I spent the first part of my life being told that me being gay was a choice or a phase. I'm not hearing that shit anymore.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-10-15T02:06:08+00:00

Here's the thing, though: I'm not afraid of vagina. It doesn't scare me or repulse me. In fact, vagina literally does nothing for me. That's why I'm gay. I didn't turn to dick because vagina was scary. I did because I'm a homoSEXual.

In all honesty, the only thing I feel repulsed by regarding vaginas is how TRAs talk about them. Calling a vagina a "manpussy" or "front hole" is kind of repulsive to me.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-10-11T21:29:27+00:00

After talking with a trans man friend who finds it infuriating to be classified as a lesbian by TERFs, but also finds the loss of a community that was formative and central to his life before transitioning, we decided that trans guys qualify for alumnus status (if they want it) with lesbianism

Translation: "I want to be a man, but I still want to be allowed in lesbian spaces, and I decided it's ok for me to do that. But don't dare to call me a lesbian!"

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-10-10T21:41:58+00:00

All those special days, events, months for lgbtq. I understand the need and desire to have some acknowledgement and focus on lgbt, but it does not need to be so much. As a gay man, I got tired and annoyed reading through the list. I can't imagine participating in all of that.

Am I the only person who just wants nothing more from society than my sexuality not mattering? I obviously don't want to be persecuted for being gay, but I don't need to be celebrated for it either.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-10-03T21:26:08+00:00

Don't trans people always accuse us of overreacting and tell us we don't HAVE to sleep with trans people? They say we just need to let a trans person down politely. Well, here is proof that a polite turn down is still transphobia to them.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-19T23:56:15+00:00

I see little to no difference between the two. In either case, it's someone who is trying to use their beliefs to tell me how to live my life. Either statement belittles and demeans me as a homosexual. It doesn't matter if someone wants to pray the gay away or if it's someone who wants to lecture me about genital preferences. Neither is accurate for my life and lived experiences.

No one is going to pray me into becoming straight. And I don't have genital preferences. I have requirements. There is no way to shame me into being straight. That goes for religious people trying and trans activists trying.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-18T00:00:03+00:00

I have a theory that TRAs post statements like these so they get the response seen here. That way, they can send another tweet walking it back just a little and talking about how horrible those nasty terfs are for responding. They get to play the victim, even though they said the prejudicial, homophobic thing in the first place.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-09T20:52:29+00:00

It wasn't one thing, but thinking critically and challenging my thoughts. I realized that my previous ideas were not really my own. I believed what I was supposed to believe to be woke and not "discriminatory." I then realized that is not a good basis to build upon. Making people like me worry about being "inclusive" enough at all times is just a way to police and control what people think.

Around the same time, I began seeing lgbt organizations and media outlets celebrating anyone trans, and I couldn't get behind making people like Caitlyn Jenner or Fallon Fox out to be heroes. I was also becoming aware that in a lot of woke circles, everything was about identity. I'm a cis (god I hate that term) white gay male, so I must not have struggled or faced oppression like a trans person or someone else of a different identity. It didn't matter that I was bullied heavily in high school, to the point I started taking classes at a community college in Junior year so I wouldn't have to physically go back to the high school. Nor did it matter I was sexually abused when I was a kid. All that mattered was I was a white guy, so I had "privilege."

Finally, I'm very science based in almost all other aspects of my life. I couldn't explain to myself why I believed science about things like climate change or astrophysics, but disregarded it when it came to simple biology. Also, gender theory lost me when there became so many different genders.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-08T01:58:36+00:00

The logical conclusion of this argument that everyone should pretend to be pan to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.

Don't give gender cultists any ideas...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-08T01:01:23+00:00

No one is going to be mad at you or call you transphobic if a trans woman asks you out and you politely decline. Sexual preferences are fine but advertising your exclusion of an entire group of people from your preferences even though they are your preferred gender is the problematic part. Nobody needs you to publicly announce why certain people are unattractive to you

It's not a sexual preference. It's a sexual orientation.
If I have no desire or plan to date trans men because they don't have a biological penis, why waste their time and my time? Why would it be so bad to politely "advertise" that fact?
Does anyone REALLY believe TRAs will just leave it alone if a lesbian politely turns down a trans woman for having a penis?

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-08T00:28:16+00:00

I remember watching that episode when it aired and thought what a funny premise that was. Oh, how wrong and naive I was...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-03T21:18:02+00:00

This is from awhile back, but I just logged back into my Reddit account earlier this week and found out about it. So, back when r/lgbdropthet was still a thing, someone in the "sister sub" (aka the stalker sub) posted a thread asking for any left leaning lgb person to explain why they are a member of lgbdropthet. I answered the question respectfully, and then got banned from that sub because I previously posted in lgbdropthet, even though the question specifically asked for an opinion from members of lgbdropthet.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-02T21:25:01+00:00

Sexuality is mainly based on secondary sexual characteristics, we are usually attracted to somebody long before we know which genitals they have

I always find this argument odd. I mean, sure, as a gay man I will be attracted to a guy before I know which genitals he has, but part of that attraction is my mental picture of what he looks like, and maybe it's just me, but that mental picture assumes a penis...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-09-01T19:54:28+00:00

I never understood why people get mad if a straight author writes about gay characters. Shouldn't LGB be happy to be getting more recognition and characters we can relate to? Her books are not high literature, but I enjoyed the fact that the main characters happened to be gay. Their gayness was not everything about them, or even the "cool" thing about them.

Her coming out as bi actually kind of taints the books for me. I liked that they were written by a straight person because that helps reinforce that LGB is normal and understandable. A straight author bothered to write from the perspective of a gay teen. And did a pretty good job of nailing the feelings and emotions that come with it.

We shouldn't require an author to only write about their lived experiences. Should we get mad at her that the main character in one of her books is a teen male? Should male writers not be able to have female characters? Authors not write stories involving characters of other races? We wouldn't dare want anyone to profit off of characters that are not like them, right?

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-29T22:57:31+00:00

I know I'm not inventing the wheel here or anything, but I was born and raised Catholic. Went to Catholic school until high school. I remember hearing things similar to what these TRAs are saying.

I remember hearing that gay men would like vagina if they tried it. I would probably outgrow being gay or I could still find a wife one day. It goes on.

Nowadays, people would call that conversion therapy (though no one actually tried to convert me) but if these TRAs do it, they're celebrated and supported. It really hurts hearing or reading stuff like this because of my past, but in today's world, it's not like anyone cares because I'm just a gay man, so my feelings and experiences don't matter.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-28T17:20:05+00:00

What is it? It's the first sign to click away from that page and not pay a second thought to this person.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-18T21:51:03+00:00

How do I feel about trans people? Largely ambivalent but accepting. When it comes to bodily autonomy, I am very Liberal/Libertarian. An adult who feels they understand the risks, benefits, etc should be able to do what they want to their own body, assuming it does not negatively affect or harm others. I don't mind using someone's preferred pronouns. I work with and have trans people in my friend group. I just have no interest dating a trans person.

Now, how do I feel about the trans rights movement? I disagree with a lot of their tactics. I see a lot of censorship, bully tactics, and appeals to emotion. I see a lot of activists say they would love to have communication with people who disagree with them, but are also quick to demonize and use scare tactics against those same people. If they can't win an argument, they appeal to emotion, talk about violence or murder rates, or name call. Almost like if they are losing an argument, they look for any reason to call the other person a terf or transphobe as a trump card to win the argument. The other person can't possibly be right or have valid points if they are a terf or transphobe, right? I don't think this is a reflection of the majority of trans people though.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-08T21:38:38+00:00

This shows that some trans people don't know shit about lesbians or homosexuality. Equating sex toys with actual human anatomy is at best deeply naive and misguided, and at worst similar to shaming lesbians into sleeping with trans women. Also, anyone with any actual sexual experience who is being honest knows strap-ons != real dicks.

This also reminds me of the TRA rallying cry that gay guys should have no problem with having sex with a trans man because the vagina is just another hole. Ummm...no it's not, and you suggesting so shows you don't know or care about how lgb people feel. I've tried dating women. Sorry to all the ladies out there, but there is nothing at all appealing to me about a vagina. It is nowhere near the same as being with another guy. In fact, I will find some women very attractive, but the moment I imagine having sex with a woman, the attraction is completely gone. That doesn't change because the woman now identifies as a man.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-08T21:28:31+00:00

I hate the smug condescension some trans men have about that. I've heard or seen several tell guys, especially gay guys, that we are just jealous because their dick is bigger. Sorry, Aiden, that ain't it at all. You got to pick your dick BECAUSE IT'S NOT REAL. And you bought into the stereotype that gay guys are size queens. You obviously don't know shit about gay sex if you think dick size is the be-all end-all. I don't give a fuck if your fake dick is an inch long or a foot long. It's still a fake dick and I'm not interested.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-05T22:50:26+00:00

Wow. I read that whole thread. Very telling that he tells trans people that there are many reporters who want to tell their stories, and then in the next tweet tells women who disagree that he is saddened to lose them. Tells you exactly where his priorities are.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-04T20:27:44+00:00

Quality over quantity for me. I have little use for, and even less desire to see, gay stereotype characters. A character who happens to be lgb? Awesome. But so often, it is just done for diversity points and the lgb character is so over the top it borders on insulting. But what incentive is there for production companies to create nuanced, interesting gay characters? They get lauded and celebrated just for having a gay character no matter how stereotypical the portrayal is. I am all for more visibility for lgb people in media because it was something sorely lacking when I was growing up in the 90s, but so often it is done poorly.

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-04T19:32:44+00:00

Seriously, how many LGB teens and youth did NOT at some point wish they could be in a straight relationship? There would be no more LGB youth if every one of them who at one point wanted to be in a straight relationship was convinced they were trans. Almost as if that's what TRAs want...

ImNOTRobertPaulson · 2020-08-04T02:21:50+00:00

No, you must not have seen their about me page. They scored over 1300 on the SATs when they were 16 or 17. They must be super brilliant. /s if it's needed

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