RantSo a friend came out as bi, I guess? (Bi people help)

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[–]DummDick_998634230 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

So basically, I feel like I need to firstly analyse how 'woke' the bisexual person to see if he/she's a decent bisexual person.

Jeez, a little unrelated, but this sounds like me lately. Anytime I consume media that has Homo/Bi characters (Especially very outwardly ones) I end up worrying and going: "Is this going to be wokey-shit representation?". Wokeys and their "rEpReSeNtAtIoN" of us has made me so distrustful of it because of how bad they represent us.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

Like, I'd honestly prefer no representation over woke representation. I'm not going to hate or criticise a show if it's doesn't have gay characters, especially if it's a period of time or location where it is unlikely to have gay characters that are openly gay. I'm still fuming over the sassy gay best friend in Mary Queen of Scots, where I very distinctly remember him hanging out with Mary and her ladies in waiting and literally saying 'Just think of me as one of the girls' :/

[–]LasagnaRossa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

especially if it's a period of time or location where it is unlikely to have gay characters that are openly gay.

Like The Haunting of Bly Manor, where the main character is lesbian and everyone, I swear everyone is okay with that, in the rural side of England in the eighties.

And I didn't even see the chemistry between the two girls, but that's me. Many people loved them.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I heard about the shoehorned lesbian plot and I've completely disregarded the series because if it. I bet a lot of the people who enjoyed the representation were either straight or 'queer', whereas actual lesbians and bisexual women found it lacking.

[–]LasagnaRossa 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The straight couple was more genuine, in my opinion. I liked them a lot.

Anyway, it's a nice drama, if you don't mind the horror vibes. If you're looking for something more scary like its predecessor, you'll be disappointed.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I might just stick to the original story, The Turn of the Screw, and The Innocents, from the 60s, which is a fantastic watch.

[–]dramasexual 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly I thought it was cute and well-done. It was a bit of a "what?" that people in the 80s didn't have a problem with it, but if you can accept that inaccuracy it didn't feel shoehorned at all imo and it flowed really well with the rest of the story.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean that’s the thing, it’s hard to have both a historically accurate and reasonably happy lesbian or bisexual plot. So I can forgive historically inaccurate lack of homophobia because the time period wasn’t important to the plot other than so time could pass to connect it to the present. But I felt the chemistry. Probably in part because I get vibes from Victoria Pedretti the actress.

[–]reluctant_commenter 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Same here. It occurs to me that this might be an experience unique to the past 5-10 years, as opposed to say 20 years ago or more-- watching for liberal homophobia, that is.