Hi everyone.
So, I just knew today in a (private) casual conversation with a girl friend of mine that she's bi. It was all very natural, which was great. On one hand, I'm pretty happy because it's the second person this school year kind of "coming out" to me and short time after we meet, which means I must make gay or bi people comfortable in their skin and not afraid to be themselves with me.
On the other hand, I'm kind of baffled about how I feel about this. If it was a few years ago, I'd most likely happily "come out back" at her. I didn't. She thinks I'm straight when I'm a full on homosexual woman 😅
I've made a similar post about this, but it was a generic one. Now I'm dealing with it irl for the first time. I've said it before (for those who read my old post) that unfortunately I've grown to become more wary in particular of bisexual people, thanks to this fucking stupid trans ideology. It's gotten to a point I feel safer and less afraid around straight people than bisexual people. Not because I have bias against bisexual people, but because I've come to realise usually people who push the narrative that "everyone's bisexual/little bit gay/everyone's on a spectrum" etc etc are bisexual (my mom included). And this is a very sensitive subject for me as it was really hard for me to accept myself and I had lots of arguing with my mother about this growing up. I also don't want to be part of a "LGBTQWTF community" and I feel like by coming out to her that we should somehow automatically be part of something together or whatever and we're not. I have nothing to do with that bs "community".
So basically, I feel like I need to firstly analyse how 'woke' the bisexual person to see if he/she's a decent bisexual person. And I didn't come out to her because I've already seen typical red flags from her such as "Oh, I don't need to label myself, everyone's on a spectrum". When I asked her, for example, what kind of guys and girls does she like, she said she "didn't know, all she knows is that she's attracted to some women". Basically she always gave very vague, non concrete answers.
I need some help and advice from you, especially by bisexual people on here because I don't know very well what's the best way to deal with this and I want to give a chance to the "old school" bisexuals because I (obviously) know there are great bisexual people out there, who think just like me.
I like bisexuals who "own it" and freaking say it "I'm bi and proud". When I see bis like this friend of mine, super like "I don't know what I am", I just don't feel safe.
Please help me out bisexual people (and gay people as well, feel free)
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