Women's IssuesActual Transbians: obviously attempting to rape women by deception is fine.

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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

It really does depend. I'm swiping left on women who might genuinely be biological women, just with slightly stronger jawlines, but I worry that they're transbians and don't want to risk it. There are some that are obvious, but some aren't, and those are the worst ones.

[–]dilsencySame-sex community 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Edited photos handpicked by the person are one thing. You would be able to tell if you met them in person.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's the thing. I don't want to be in a situation where I go to meet the person IRL and realise they're trans. I'm worried about being doxxed if I don't talk to them after the date, not to mention having to act as if they're not completely abhorrent throughout the date.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't bother with anyone with too few pictures, no body shot, filtered photos only, and who relies on extreme angles. It's just not worth it. I know a trans-identified male who with some strategic control over lighting, angle, and styling can look passable in some photos where he doesn't look like himself. But he doesn't pass IRL at all. He's both non-op and doesn't even take exogenous hormones. He's just an awkward autistic guy with an anime/graphic novel obsession. Thankfully all of his hobbies revolve around being trans so the topic would inevitably come up immediately.

There's also some facial expressions I associate with trans-identified males. I mean, it's not attractive anyway regardless of whether they're passing or not, but something about the smile and stare that many of them do as they try to imitate the way girls and women smile looks very off and "stranger danger!" to me.

[–]dandeliondynasty 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Perhaps you could video call or talk on the phone first first? Could say you just feel more comfortable that way or cite the pandemic.

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    [–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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