I wish people who freak out about "deadnaming" would pay half as much attention to not screwing up women's names

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[–]MarkTwainiac 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

My husband was honored and happy enough by my agreeing to marry him! And since I was the only one who could get pregnant, give birth and breastfeed, he had more reason to honor me than the other way around.

[–]ANIKAHirsch 2 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 5 fun -  (12 children)

Good for him.

I think honor goes both ways in a relationship.

[–]MarkTwainiac 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Of course it does. So why should only the woman in a het relationship be the one to take her partner's name?

[–]Apricot_Ibex 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. And let’s shed a tear for the billions of dishonored Asian men whose wives have always kept their “maiden names.” Lol

[–]vitunrotta 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I'm beginning to suspect you are a troll. Your opinions are uneducated and antiquated at best. I've seen plenty of your comments on this platform and let's just say... The majority of them are very anti-GC-feminist.

Like Ricky Gervais said - I'll paraphrase: if you don't have anything nice or constructive to say, please get out & be an ignoramus somewhere else.

Edited wording to exclude slurs.

[–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I was trying to be nice. I don't think I said anything mean.

[–]msteacherlady 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

So for you a woman honors a man by taking his name. What is the reciprocal?

[–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

The ring?

[–]msteacherlady 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

What is it about the ring that makes this reciprocal?

[–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The value of the jewelry.

[–]msteacherlady 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm sorry if the question sounded obvious but I didn't want to assume that you think a woman's name can be bought. Apparently my mother's name was worth $300 dollars, but that may have been discounted because I received both of my parents name. Papa got a great deal! My mother's best friend's name got bought out at the top of the market, $100k.

Surely this practice continues to make sense in the modern era. /s

[–]ANIKAHirsch 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You were asking for the reciprocal.

I don't see marriage as transactional anyway. It's a commitment. It should only be done for love.

...

You started with "I'm sorry" but ended with /s. So I don't think you're being sincere either.

[–]msteacherlady 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I apologize for seeming insincere. If the value of the ring is what is reciprocal, then how is marriage not transactional? Or is it like posting bail?