Feeling lonely about being Gender Critical?

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[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Yep unfortunately gay men who are against Trans ideology get put on the chopping block as well but it's ironic because me being a gay man, a feminine non-conforming one at that, it's the other part of what made it so easy to see why the trans ideology was faulty since part of it relies heavily on social gender norms and that people like me or the butch lesbians, we disrupt the gender norms and show that it's not some innate thing (Men are born feminine, women are born feminine).

And yeah making friends as you get older is definitely hard, I'm one year away from 30 and I really haven't had any friends since high school, just a small online group but the GC stuff is definitely complicating things more. I hope you're right that more people peak hopefully soon.

[–]Comatoast 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think there's a GC men's group that's on here as well if you're looking for possible male friendship. They got ousted from Reddit as well and took up shop here on saidit. I don't know how active it is, but it's one more option if that's of interest.

[–]jkfinn 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe he means friends in the real world, though.

[–]MezozoicGay 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sadly almost no one moved to GCG from redding and it is pretty empty.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll definitely give it a look. :)

[–]vitunrotta 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey, stick around here. At least you'll know you're not alone in your way of thinking (a small sliver of comfort, I hope.) You will find people who are like-minded on this platform and hopefully that might make you feel less lonely. In time I'm sure you will also encounter new people in real life who share your thoughts.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah I actually do feel a little less alone after browsing here, it's nice to know that you're not alone in feeling the way you do, that others out there don't buy into the ideology and have a place to congregate after the whole Reddit fiasco. I'd like to hope that I'll find some more people IRL who feel the same. In hindsight I feel like I actually did meet someone at my job who had similar feelings. She was a lesbian who was substuting and we just clicked immediately. We eventually started talking about gay dating vs lesbian dating and when I asked her if she would date a "Transwoman", she declined saying that she was attracted only to women. I didn't go further because I didn't know where she stood with the ideology and I didn't want to make it awkward but I feel like maybe she has some gender critical views if she would say something like that ("only date women"). So that was nice lol.

[–]vitunrotta 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There you go! She might be really concerned saying anything to anyone about this also. Because you know, the Cancel Guillotine will come for you faster than you can say CIS.

Take your time, don't push it, and if she wants to talk more... Then see if she may be your ally. I've a feeling she already is but is frightened to say any "wrong" opinions out loud. All the best of luck. (I met my best friend in a KIND of similar situation, so I have high hopes it'll happen to you too.)