Reason being is the label lesbian is completely meaningless now and worse, demonized. The hets, the bis, the TRAs and the twisting of the comp het concept have destroyed any meaningful definition of the word and as its being corroded away so is our access to community, our ability to describe, defend and understand ourselves and be recognized as a oppressed, but not protected, class. Today, if you tell people, even doctors, you're a lesbian it's normal for you still to have to define the boundaries of your sexuality because it's normal for lesbianism to include men in some way. This means we already don't have a sexuality - it's been gone. I've heard from plenty of women that they don't even believe someone is a lesbian when that person tells them they are. We've all witnessed too many bisexuals and hets willing to lie and it's an ever evolving pile of reasons for this. Consider one reason being that men fetishize us but don't seem to care about making their het/bi partners orgasm. Well, men also want lesbians to fuck men so what's one way men could achieve that and get lesbians to switch sides? Actually trying to satisfy the "lesbians" they're fucking. So, that means that claiming to be a lesbian should in theory provide a better sexual experience for het/bi women with men. The fact that we're banished to this site at all is a loud broadcasting that our sexuality is actively being destroyed and spat on without notice to anyone else but celebration. People are celebrating the idea of men being included in lesbianism and celebrating hurting the women who dare speak out about this. We're literally considered bigots, even comparable to nazi. That means nothing will change when we experience violence and no one will care. No one has our backs but radfems whom themselves are just viewed as willing to collaborate with conservatives and threatening trans lives.

We already agree that we need to gatekeep our community but I think we're losing on multiple fronts. I think now is the time to make waves, amass allies, make our voices and experiences known and genuinely, proactively protect our own despite our small numbers and the best way I can think of to do that is if we abandoned the label bisexuals have always claimed wasn't ours to begin with. I think this would work because it'd be a massive statement. A real line in the sand which would legitimize our struggles to everyone including those making our lives hard. What that'd do is cause others to gatekeep for us, address misogyny in the way it manifests to us and finally make our sexuality concrete in a way it definitely isn't right now. If the infiltrators begin to infiltrate then that will reflect who they are to a broader audience and not just us. It'd show who they're willing to harm just so they could seem more interesting. It'd show we're serious about creating boundaries around our sexuality in a way we can't do now. It'd cause those in question to really pause and reflect before suiting themselves to this description. It'd show homosexual women are real.

To me, I understand there is history with the word lesbian but that isn't as important as preserving the description, the experience, what it truly is and all of that is lost right now. Even fellow lesbians are making it worse and honestly without a genuine safe heaven, a community at their backs, who can blame all of them? I think the time where we keep our heads low and hope these things evolve in our favor is long gone and this is how we can do the most to protect and preserve each other the fastest with the least amount of effort. If not this, then what?