Remember when Dan Savage tried to pimp out Lesbians. He needs to keep the word Lesbian out of his mouth, yet here is his latest (Advice for a lesbian-identifying woman attracted to her male coworker)

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[–]oofreesouloo 34 insightful - 3 fun34 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 3 fun -  (20 children)

Being a lesbian isn't an 'identity'. Jeez. You're either a lesbian or you aren't. I seriously don't understand WHY would a clearly bisexual woman (and she's perfectly aware of her attraction to men) 'identify as a lesbian'? Why? What's wrong about being bisexual? What is it so special about being a lesbian? If they were a lesbian indeed, they wouldn't need to be constantly justifying it: "I identify as a lesbian, BUT I sometimes feel attraction to men/I identify as a lesbian BUT for some reasons I've decided not to pursue anything physical with men ever again". It's clear as the water you're NOT a lesbian, so STOP pretending.

MENTAL GYMNASTICS OLYMPICS:

  • "If there’s a lesbian-identified-but-not-averse-to-all-dick dyke in your life… if you work or to go school with a homoromantic-but-bisexual woman who identifies as a lesbian…"

  • "You remain homoromantic—you’re only interested in other women romantically—but you are sexually attracted to both men and women. In other words, COVET, your heart is lesbian but your pussy is bi." (What the bloody f*ck)

There's even already a word for all of this - febfem. But NO, lesbian is the most ~special, unique and queer progressive tee hee~ uwu /s

[–]Gearbeta 24 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This is reminding me of that one moron a few months ago who claimed to be a lesbian but... but... she was just so LONELY in covid lockdown and her male roommate was RIGHT THERE so obviously this supposedly "lesbian" just had to fuck him. She eventually changed the title to something less stupid but the damage was done, there were so many straight dudes saying that lesbians weren't real because of that article.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think that same woman was also a sex worker tho so clearly she has some issues with embodiment. She probably doesn’t experience sex in a healthy way so doesn’t even understand actual orientation. I think there are actually many ppl like that

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    [–][deleted] 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    Those bi women that call themselves lesbians simply don't respect us or care about our experiences and feelings as homosexual women. I think it has a lot more to do with men than women for them lol.

    [–]VioletRemi 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    They don't respect both lesbians and bisexuals by doing this. They make people believe that "sexual orientation is a spectrum" and that "bisexuals don't exist".

    [–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    You're right, maybe Ill start calling it 'internalized biphobia' with a dash of homophobia as well. Their homophobia comes into play whenever they try to redefine lesbianism to incude them.

    [–]VioletRemi 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    And they aren't going hard on gay men, it is lesbians to suffer the most too, eh.

    [–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    True, people in general have way less respect for lesbians than gay men. It is more accurate to label this behaviour as lesbophobia instead of homophobia, cuz it happens to us way more.

    [–]oofreesouloo 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Now that every non-lesbian has decided to call themselves a lesbian, what are we actual lesbians supposed to call ourselves??

    Exaaactly. Bi women have plenty of labels they could use (most totally stupid, but still more accurate than lesbian). They could use bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, hell EVEN "bi/pan lesbian" is a little bit better than just lesbian (at least there's bi in the label), and of course, FEBFEM! They could even say 'bi with a preference for...'

    But WE, the actual homosexual females, ONLY have ONE damn word and EVERYONE wants to mysteriously use it and twist its definition when there already 10000000 labels for bisexuality. 🤦 And now 'homosexual' is 'outdated and sometimes can be offensive'. F*ck off.

    [–]VioletRemi 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Nowadays "loving girldicks" is called lesbian too. Which is even worse than bisexuals murking the line between sexual orientations.

    [–][deleted] 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

    Usually they have man-trauma and choose women until they sort of heal that and stop hating dudes. It’s a total bummer for lesbians tho

    [–]oofreesouloo 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

    Okay. But why don't that women use febfem? It also excludes men without negating their bisexuality.

    [–][deleted] 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (5 children)

    They should use febfem, but they end up with men after 30, usually they are all “it’s the ONE GUY” lol

    [–]oofreesouloo 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

    You're totally right lmaaaaaaaaaaaaaaao.

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    I wonder if they get baby fever or whatever is supposed to happen to women after 30. I seem to have missed the compulsion to breed. I love babies but don’t want my own

    [–]oofreesouloo 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Ahaha!

    I love babies but don’t want my own

    I'm very similar to you! I think babies are so cute . BUT! I don't want to get pregnant, that thought always made me uncomfortable lmao. But having kids in another way? I have no f*cking idea, I'm still pretty young and first, I would need a gf and so many other things.

    [–]Astrid2448 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Then by 40 they drop the “OMG he’s so special!! What a coincidence that I managed to meet the one boy on the planet that I like!” and just admit they’re bisexual and it’s not that deep.

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Yeah for real. They would be doing bisexuals a solid by not being ashamed of it ffs. The bi women I go for don’t have issues with themselves being bi and don’t feel the need to belabour it

    [–]Astrid2448 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Because it’s not just about trauma, it’s also about their image and attention. Febfem doesn’t sound cool and sexy the way lesbian does. Plus the guys they hook up with like hearing they banged a lesbian more, so that’s a plus too! /s

    [–]Happy_face_caller[S] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Exactly! And so much this.

    Everyone gets to have a sexual orientation but Lesbians