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[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Same, unfortunately, lol. But honestly-- I only see the "gold star" topic brought up online...... like I've literally never heard a lesbian woman talk like this IRL. u/yousaythosethings, sorry to bother ya but I know you've expressed a similar opinion before.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, my experience has been that gold star concern is mainly an online-only wedge issue. I think it’s online fear mongering that has been gaining momentum in places like r/latebloomerlesbians by women with little to no real world lesbian experience. The practical effect is discord in every online lesbian and lesbi community. The idea that lesbians are widely subjected to some sort of gold star purity test is a total flame. But places like r/latebloomerlesbians also gas up a lot of newly identifying “lesbians” with suspect stories and a chip on their shoulder who give off the same “not wanting to date us is discriminatory” energy that transbians are known for. This is not to say that absolutely no one cares IRL but the bark is way bigger than the bite.

And I say this as a non-gold star LBL.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've heard it offline, many years ago. That concept has been around for decades.