This is a question I've been wondering about for a long time, but was too polite too ask. No point holding my tongue now!
So, I know this is rude and will ruffle feathers. Just tell why I'm wrong if I'm wrong.
From what I've seen online and in real life, there seems to be a spectacular amount of bullying and cliquishness in the lesbian community. Lesbians seem prone to singling out a woman in a group and harassing her for perceived flaws. I have often wondered if this pattern is not largely responsible for the vitriolic biphobia (yeah I said biphobia! Suck it!) among lesbians.
Social status is not guaranteed among lesbians a lot of the time due to rampant bullying and harrassment, so lesbians go looking for outsiders to focus the harrassment on instead. Women who fear being cast out as witches go hunting for witches to cast out in their place.
The biphobes seem to usually be women who are in some way considered subpar to the "gold star" lesbian feminist ideal.
I would also like to add that I know "gold star
" is meant as a self-deprecating joke. There certainly seem to be some people taking it seriously, though
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